Ever had a "Friends with Benefits" Relationship?

@leeesa (885)
United States
June 2, 2007 12:24pm CST
I was dating a guy, but it didn't work out because we both had such busy schedules. He suggested we be friends with benefits since the dating thing wasn't working. I politely declined without giving my real reason. Here is is though...(I hope he never reads this)... He just wasn't that good. Clearly in it for himself. My reaction was...that was it? If I'm going to get into that kind of relationship, then it has to be absolutely 100% worth my time and effort. Would you or have you ever done this?
2 responses
• United States
2 Jun 07
If this type of relationship is what both people want, then I can see it might work. There's no advantage being taken if both people see the relationship for what it is and agree to it on the mutually understood basis. However, I expect in most cases one of the two would like more, even if they don't say so, which will lead to resentment and a feeling of being taken advantage of.
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• United States
2 Jun 07
I don't know that this type of relationship is necessarily bad for all women. There are many different types of people of both sexes, and I believe many women might see the benefit of a 'no strings attached', mainly physical relationship. Possibly fewer than men though, and certainly this type of relationship seems on the surface more suited, and convenient, to men.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 07
Why waste your time with a guy that you see no future with. He is only taking you for a ride and I can't tolerate guys who are taking advantage of me.
@leeesa (885)
• United States
2 Jun 07
I never let him know this, but it really hurt that I was good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be in a relationship with. It wouldn't have lasted anyway. He was a nice guy, but there were no sparks.