treating someone badly but not meaning to... (have you?)

June 6, 2007 6:17pm CST
I watched "meet the robinson's" and watching the story unfold it made me think about times I might of treated others badly. Have you ever thought about how you've treated someone and then later regretted it because you didn't mean too? I think most of would. I know I regret the way I've treated one of my best friends, in fact I wished I did keep in contact with him. When I was 10 turning 11 half my friends was split between schools and the best friend I had was going to be home schooled (long story) but I actually wished I focused more on keeping friends. How about you?... part of learning is sharing and understanding. (I'm hoping to pass these values to my son) :) ~Joey
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
8 Jun 07
The greatest regret I have is ignoring my aunt when we had a disagreement, I did treat her badly in so much as I refused to back down, we were both as stubborn as each other, but she was in her eighties and I just couldn't bring myself to pick up the phone so yes I treated her badly in that respect, now my friend its too late, she has passed on and the grudge still remains!
• United States
7 Jun 07
i have thought many times about the stuff i have done in my life and the regrets i have about it now ..often wish i could turn back time and have a remake of some things..but i wonder if the choices we made back then shaped the road our lives have taken and where we ended up....would it change the road? would i be here with my wonderful husband? i dont know but i do wish i could take alot of things back
• United States
7 Jun 07
I've said and done things that I ended up regretting. I think guilt is and should be a big part of who we are. Without it we wouldn't even think about our wrong doings. The best thing we can do most of the time is ask for forgiveness and try to learn from it. Of course you can't do that with your childhood friend unless you were able to find him. It shows that you have a good heart to be thinking about it after all this time.
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
yes, i think everyone here in mylot did.. i had a friend way back in elementary and i treated her so bad that sometimes made her cry,but for me it was just a joke. later on the whole class confront me and they told our teacher about it and i was punished..huhu
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@kykidd (6824)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I am sure we can all say yes to this. Today a friend of mine called asking for advise on how to cancel plans with her lifelong friend. Instead of telling her how to cancel the plans I told her to think about how the friend would feel. She decided she was only thinking of herself and didn't cancel the plans.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
13 Aug 07
I am sure we have all made this mistake at one time or another. The truth is if we did it on purpose or not, and if we learned from it and changed our behavior. some people mistreat others as a way of life and don't care about how they hurt others. Some of us do care, and do our best to treat people right, but make mistakes sometimes. I know I have, and instead of wishing I could turn back time, I just try to learn from it and never do it again.
@lols189 (4798)
13 Aug 07
in the past i have treated people badly in the way i didnt mean to. i still regret it to this day but this happened when i was younger and i have grew up since then. but now i am more careful about treating people right the way they should be treated
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
I think we all do one time or other. SOmetimes we do it without even thinking until it's done- impulsiveness is a dangerous thing :) -, sometimes we don't realize what we're doing until we think about it after or we look into the eyes of someone we care about and see the hurt. I try hard to avoid treating people badly and I am actually good at thinking before acting or opening my mouth. Because I am a bit sensitive myself, I always think about how the other people will feel and what will be the best way to work around it to avoid treating someone badly. But , as I said, sometimes it happens. I am also good at apologizing once I realize what I did, and that has worked well with me, my family and my friends:)
@SKLC_PT (1234)
7 Jul 07
Yip, I do sometimes regret treating some people the way I did, some for treating them badly others for being to good to them when they didn't deserve it, but in my case it's usually the second one, people tend to step on me and I try to forgive them and be nice to them when I should actually cut communication and learn to push away those that might harm my feelings... But I'm trying to get more will power to face those things. I have been mean sometimes to ones I love and do regret it but all I can do now is try not to repeat it as you can't really change what you did in the past but say I'm sorry and that can be a valuable thing to do if you really regret it.
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
7 Jun 07
well i do not really believe in the sentence: "treating someone badly but not meaning to." I know that it will sound bad, but we always want and mean to treat that someone bad at that moment, we do have to let our anger out, and usually it turns out to be very wrong and we do regret it. I know that i am not an angel, and from time to time that happens to me too, but i am really careful now, and usually try to get out of the "danger zone" and cool down, and not treat the person badly.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Hello Joey. I can readily accept what you're saying about friends. Aside from sharing and understanding, you forgot to mention "trust." I may have treated someone badly but apologizing is not difficult for me to do. You can say that I don't have any pride in my bones. I don't like to regret whatever decision I made regarding friends. If it is a friendship that's worth my time and attention, I will not hesitate to continue it. I would love to make friends everyday. However, there are friendships that's needed to end too. When both friends can't understand each other, there's no sense in maintaining it anymore.
@catbvq (364)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I haven't kept tract of all the instances I have treated somebody badly without knowing it, but I know somehow during the past times I did and I feel so bad about it because I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. So now I'm very careful of the words that came out of my mouth, also my actions and as the day ends before I fell asleep I tend to review the whole day. When I recalled that I've done it, I make sure that I apologize to that person.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
yes I have snapped at people when I was in a bad mood, and I didn't mean to because I was not mad at them, it happens and the best we can do is apologize when we can.
@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
7 Jun 07
I am usually a good friend and pretty loyal. However, there are times when I have let down friends - but it's mostly when I was much younger. I remember at school there were some bullies who were after a friend of mine and threatened to bash her up at lunch time. Of course she was scared and wanted another friend and I to hang out with her and support her. I managed to let my other friend convince me not to get involved and I did let her down big time in that way. Funny the things you remember so many years ago.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Oh, I did alots of time. I remember when my husband almost left me and it came all back to me when I treated alot of my exes so badly. Sometimes, I didn't meant to off course. And I called all the ones that I can remember and I apologized for that. I felt better afterwards and I told myself to be nice to everyone from now on because someone might treat me bad someday if I try to treat anyone that way.