what can you say about paid favors?

paid favors for gold/money! ;o - should nice favors be really paid?
Philippines
June 6, 2007 7:49pm CST
okay, so thake this:there's one neighbor of mine who was really kind and rich. one day, she asked me to burn some songs for her since she really didnt know how to operate the new techy stuff. and so i did. i never really expected that she would give me something in return, but she did. and it was cash. and it was quite too much for just a simple effort of mine! i was quite embarassed to accept it but since she kept on insisting, then i accepted the money.;0 well, what about you? what can you say about paid favors? ever had an experience same as mine?
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19 responses
@sallyxu126 (1185)
• China
7 Jun 07
I think you can accept the money without problems. you are so kind to help your neighbor and then she appreciated you very much, and give you some money . she only want to show her appreciate, you already said she is kind and rich ,but she might be busy with something and she don't know how to show her appreciated to you and she don't know what she should do. so she choose the simple and dircet way to show the appreciate . just accept it and keep help her. you can keep good relationship. good luck with both of you.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 haha, yeah, i agree. sometimes, busy and rich people get away with appreciating other people by doing the easiest way they think is possible, and that is by giving away money. ;0 lolz. ;0 but i would have been contented already if she had just given me a diet coke and some cookies. lolz. ;0
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@tonixxx (358)
7 Jun 07
I have experienced this from my grandparents, they are always slipping me backhanders for the smallest of favours and they are of an age where thay get offended if you do not accept. I do have to say that i know that there are people, mainly young people who do things with the generosity of others in mind. At my old house, one of the neighbours would mow our lawn withought qsking us if we wanted him too or anything, and then he would expect to be given money for it, this i thought was quite rude, we could quite easily have mowed it ourselves and he backed us in to a corner really. Now at our current address, our neighbours children are always knocking and asking if they can walk my dog, i would like to give them a little something but aam not in a position where by i can give away money regularly and have learnt that if you do it once people expect it. I thank them and they come back to walk her when they feel like it, they enjoy doing it and it saves me the job after work, everyone is a winner. (FOR NOW)
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 yeah, that was how i felt! i was kinda scared that she might get offended if i didnt accept the money that she was giving me because she was really very insistent! ;0
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• New Zealand
7 Jun 07
its not a favour if its paid for but then its hard when your put in this situation because you class it as a favour and dont expect anything but the person insists so you cant say no. Yes it has happen to me alot of times but then on the flip side ive also burnt alot of stuff for others and they dont even pay for the costs of the dvds/cds so i appreciate it when they do.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 i would accept payment from strangers who would ask me to burn some songs/movie for them, but i was really not expecting any payment from the kindly old neighbor of mine, because, she was our old family friend. lolz. ;0
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• Canada
7 Jun 07
oh yea people always think if they can't do it themselves that they need to pay alot for it. I burned a movie once and my grandmother wanted it so I let her have it and later that sme day she starting buying stuff for me and said it was for the movie. I hate taking anything from anyone but some people are just too insistant.
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• Philippines
8 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 yeah, i understand what you feel. i really felt awful receiving payment from an old woman, but what the heck, she was really insistent, so i just accpeted it. lolz. :)
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• Canada
8 Jun 07
LOL theres not much else you can do in those situations cause you don't want them to think your rude or anything.
@Norstar (695)
• India
7 Jun 07
What can one say about your neighbours who pays you for the little favours you do? As for me, I would say that let us swap our neighbours. Why? Well, my neighbours also asked for favours. Because I believe in the philosophy, "Love thy neighbours", I always did favours to them. So far so good and no problem with this part. But unlike your neighbour, when I did favour to them, in addition to the favour they also borrowed money from me. So, for a change, why do we not swap our neighbours?
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 haha! you wanna swap neighbors? that is funny, my friend. ;0 they borrowed money from you? and then did they pay you back? lolz. ;0 but i admire your philosophy, to love thy neighbors. that is nice. ;0
@Norstar (695)
• India
8 Jun 07
I knew you would not be willing to swap the neighbours! HA! Well, I told you only half of the philosophy; the full philosophy is this: Love thy neighbours and enemies. Often, the two are one and the same, thereby reducing the task of loving to half of what it would have been, had they not been the same. Keep smiling.
@yemberzal (301)
• India
7 Jun 07
In my opinion, the rich woman had a logic . She could purchase anything. And it was better for the sake of neighborhood to accept your help and did not pay fore a small help. But as you took the money under her insistence, it was better ,though you were em brassed ,you didnot try to em brass her .
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• Philippines
8 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 yes, you are right, that was exactly what i was thinking. well, the next time she asks favors from me, i will try to tell her that she really doesnt need to pay me. i am happy doing things for her. :)
@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Well I think there's nothing wrong about it since she is capable of paying so I guess its instinct for rich people not to owe something for somebody if they can pay it in th first place. That way they feel that its their obligation to pay for every favor they asked for because they think also that the person who do things for them also expecting something in return.
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• Philippines
8 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 actually, i was really not expecting something in return from her because i thought what i did was just a friendly favor for her. but anyway, since she was all insisting, then i guess it was just right that i accepted her payment. ;0
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I figure that a favor is just from the goodness of your heart. Most will be returned one way or other. At times some think that they have no way to repay the favor and are in your debt so they monetize it. I have had that happen, and don't make a big deal of it. I usually would refuse once but if they insist I will take the money. The money isn't important but their self image is, and for them to feel indebted may be worse then the money they offer.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 yes, you are right, i shouldnt really make a big deal out of it. its just that yesterday, i really wasnt expecting to receive something in return since that favor that i did for her was just something out of the ordinary for me, i mean, no effort at all. lolz. ;0
• United States
7 Jun 07
I know that my grandmother would often pay much more than excepted when a family friend or nice neighbor did a favor for her. She probably feels that she has plenty of money and she probably appreciates your kindness and wanted to help you too, but the only way she can is by giving you money.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 aww.. i think that my neighbor is really the grandmotherly type and i think she also treats me like her granddaughter. well, thanks for responding, i think that really helps me realize that it aint so bad to accept rewards for favors that i have done. ;0
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Since the neighbor is rich and she won't get poorer by what she gave you, why not?! Favors are not meant to be paid but since she insisted on the payment, I guess there's nothing wrong with it.
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 well, you have a point there. i really shouldnt feel so bad for accepting some payment from her because i bit that is only a tip of the iceberg, when we base on her very big money. ;0 lolz. ;0
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
7 Jun 07
She obviously appreciated what you did and may have to ask you again. I have done favors and gotten paid. Usually I find they do ask again. If you hadn't taken it you might have offended her!
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 yeah, i did see in her eyes how much she appreciated what i did for her and you know, she treats me like a grand daughter, so i guess that is just her showing of her appreciation to me. but really, it was unecessary for her to pay me. i got so shy. ;p
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@zodiac73 (119)
7 Jun 07
Remember kids, music piracy is wrong :P
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
hi there! ;0 actually, there was no piracy going on, she just wanted me to burn some songs from her computer to a new cd so that she can give her niece a copy. ;0 that was really it.
@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
Yes, I did have a similar experience but I never accepted it no matter how hard she tried. I told her I felt bad accepting cash and if she really felt like she had to pay, she can pay me a favour someday if I ever needed her help. It will no longer be a favour it will be more of a job then..lol
• United States
8 Jun 07
Hey I say take it why not. Its not a big deal. Matter of fact its a good deal that worked out for you.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
i have lots of similar experiences as that... and when there are times that they pay, especially if theyre close are heart, no matter how much they insist on paying, im not accepting it...ill simply tell them that i wont do it again if they pay me..i dont like the idea that im helping them and there are money involved!
• India
7 Jun 07
I think she was overwhelmed on finding help so soon and couldn't think of any other better gift within the short span of time. Anyways I appreciate your tendency to help people out of trouble.
@armywifey (883)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Some people come from a generation when they feel that they are obligated to pay for even the smallest deed, and the often get offended is you do not accept something from them. I often have done small things not expecting anything in return and someone has offered me far more than is necessary for such things. If they insist that you take the payment then you should otherwise they can be offended.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
I don't there's any problem with it. of course we would feel awkward and unnecessary for someone to pay us, especially when we do it sincerely from the heart. but I'm sure your neighbor just appreciates your effort and by paying you, she hopes you know how much she appreciates you. we practice that with my friends sometimes to. like if i offer to help my friend on his assignment, he'll treat me for lunch or something. of course it was never in the agreement in the first place, but i guess that's just a way some people show that they appreciate us. I'm always willing to accept it.. =P
• United States
7 Jun 07
i have had similar experiences. also, i get offered gratuities sometimes while performing my job. both make me feel equally uncomfortable. if i'm doing a favor, it is just that..a favor, expecting nothing in return. if a customer offers a tip for a job i'm already getting paid for, i feel uncomfortable as i am already being compensated for my labor. in both instances, i try to refuse the offer, but usually end up taking it so as not to "upset" the offerer. if you are in a situation where you don't really need the extra money, you could always buy your neighbor a little something for herself, her house, her pet, or something like that. the money was always a God's send for my family, so I just thanked Him for bringing it to us. but i never expect payment for favors or tips for my labor. nice topic.