Will you sign a pre-nuptial agreement?

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
June 7, 2007 3:01pm CST
In some country, a pre-nuptial agreement is necessary to avoid legal battle in court in case there is a divorce. Not many couples want to have a pre-nuptial agreement because they are positive about their relationship will last forever or it is a sensitive issue. Why do you think a pre-nuptial agreement is necessary to some couples? Do you think it is necessary?
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
7 Jun 07
I have thought about this long and hard. I guess I might sign one depending on what the pre-nuptial said. If the pre-nup would screw me in the end. Than no I wouldn't sign it. I don't think it is right for people to get together. have one of the partners get use to a certain life style. Than loose everything if they did nothing wrong. In the event their spouse wants a divorce or just a way out.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hi rusty2rusty. I think pre-nup is a way to make the division of wealth easier and less court battle if there was a divorce. It is a practical way to some. Thanks for your response.
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• Defiance, Ohio
8 Jun 07
I have seen alot of pre-nups where the party signing it will risk leaving because of a divorce with nothing at all. i don't think that is right. If people would just split everything boughten or oney made after the marriage down the middle. Than there would be no problems. But some things happen and I can see why they fight it. Like it the partner cheats..I can see where clause would be added in that they walk away with nothing if they cheated.
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• Italy
7 Jun 07
in italy it's prohibited...i think it's not necessary because you cannot foresee what can happen in the future so you cannot foresee wether you'll have one or two sons or one or two cars and so on...and in my opinion it's just a lack of trust each others...
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@AmbiePam (49500)
• United States
8 Jun 07
A pre-nup is prohibited in Italy? I don't know why but that is cool to me. : )
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• China
8 Jun 07
No, never. It's unacceptable here in china !
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@gasmas100 (588)
• India
9 Jun 07
i dont think it is necessary to sign an agrement- as an agrement makes it more like some kind of business. I guess u should be bound by the vows taken in front of God
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Ok. Thanks for your response.
• India
19 Jun 07
my pleasure. Cheers !!!
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I have never even thought to get one done only because I know that we will be together always. If I had a large amount of assets I would probably give it some thought but then again, what's mine is his and what's his is mine LOL
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Hello maddysmommy. I can feel there is so much love in you and your husband. Forget about the pre-nup. Love each other and be happy. Thanks for your response.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
After going through a divorce with somebody who I thought I would always be with, I think a prenuptial agreement is absolutely needed. Life circumstances change, there is no way around that. Nobody can guarantee the future. Protect your interests is all I have to say. To not do so is to be sorry later. cheers,
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
You have a point there, golfproo. Thanks for your response.
• Canada
9 Jun 07
I can see how it would be necessary in case someone was just after someone for their money and not for love . When one has money , you can never be sure how they really feel but with a pre - nuptial agreement there is less chance that they are with the person for only the money . It would be nice to think that you will always be with the preson you choose for the rest of your life but over time people change and you never know what will happen in the future . I don't believe it is necessary for everyone but can see why some individuals believe this is important to them to protect what is rightfully theirs .
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Thats true. Thanks for your response, samtaylorskykierajen.
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• India
9 Jun 07
If we love each other and understand then we wouldnt
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 07
Thats very sweet wilfred_itte. Thanks for your response.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
8 Jun 07
Personally, I don't think it is necessary to sign a pre-nuptial. When we got married years ago, my husband got some money from his previous marriage and I didn't really have much savings. After we married, we opened an joint account and started saving from zero. He never offers the money he had before and I never mention to borrow or spend it. If he asked me to sign the pre-nuptial agreement, I think I woulde sign it as I only want to get what I entitle to and work for.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Hi Madona1, I think you are very wise. thanks for your response.
@venshida (4837)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I think they are necessary if you have considerable asset. We would like to think marriage is forever, but the divorce rate is so high I think asset should be protected especially if children are involve.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Hello venshida, I agree with you. Thanks for your response.
@AmbiePam (49500)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Perhaps if a couple has been married to other people and this is not their first marriage, or even second marriage, then yes, I would think a pre-nup would be wise. I wouldn't sign one though. I'm not married, but when I do get married I wouldn't sign one. This is just how it would appear to me, but I would think of it like going into a marriage thinking it may not work out. I know divorce happens, but I would see it as a lack of trust if a man gave me one to sign. There might be excpetions to that but I can't think of any that would placate me.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Hi AmbiePam, I think pre-nup is an option. But for those who are super rich and famous, I think they will need a pre-nup agreement to protect their assets. Thanks for your response.
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• United States
8 Jun 07
I think that most couples get a pre-nuptial agreement because its a fail-safe if you will. I don't agree with this, not because I think my relationship will last forever but because its a bad omen for the relationship. I believe that expecting or preparing for that to happens is setting the events in motion, sorta like bad luck. I try my best do do whatever I can to make my marriage the best, I believe that marriage is a lasting commitment, and I don't believe in divorce. I am a strongwilled person, and I think that any problem is able to have a solution. Maybe i'm old fashioned, however in this case; no I will not sign a pre-nuptial agreement.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hi SilentRose19, I admire your positive view about lasting marriage. I think everyone should respect their marriage and always try to make it as alive as possible. Thanks for your response.
• United States
8 Jun 07
I would sign a pre-nup in a heartbeat as long as what is stated in there will be fair for me and the children. But me and my husband doesn't have any pre-nup because we are positive we will spend the rest of our lives together. I think pre-nup is very important to those that have assets to protect. Look what happen to Paul McCartney and Heather Mills. Paul McCartney should have a pre-nup aggreement. The one laughing now all the way to her bank is Heather.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hi ladymoonstone143, thats true. Thanks for your response.
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
I think pre-nuptial agreement is not necessary, however you might consider the following reasons for you to enter into pre-nuptial agreement. 1. To ensure that a couple's property will be distributed according to their intentions 2. If you have a family business, heirlooms or other family assets, you can protect those assets and distribute them accordingly with prenuptial agreement. The descendant's spouse cannot lay claim on your family assets if it is not intended him/her to be the heir. 3. If you fear that your child on the first marriage about the future inheritance, a pre-nuptial agreement can make sure of it. 4. To protect each other against creditors. If one spouse has substantial debts before marriage you can get a prenup to protect the assets of the other spouse from creditors of the debtor spouse.also transfer property from one spouse to the other to create separate or joint property rights. As you can see pre-nuptial agreement are concern in distribution of debts and properties according to the couple's before enetering into marriage.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hello a_ce_e, I totally agree with you. Thanks for your response.
• Hong Kong
8 Jun 07
I don't mind signing a pre-nuptial agreement as long as it's fair enough to both parties. And I wouldn't say it's necessary for every couple. It really depends on the couple themselves. One main reason I wouldn't mind a pre-nuptial agreement would be because the length of my marriage is not determined by whether we sign it or not, it's depended on how hard we are working on the relationship. Of course, we don't want things to fall apart as the marriage goes but no one can really guarantee. It's sad enough for it not to work and it would even be sadder to have to fight in court on the money issue. I prefer a peaceful ending rather than an ugly one.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hi wonderiscequeen, thats is a wise theory. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
well pre nuptial agreement for me is not necessary for couples who wanted to settle down....but depending on the culture of the society....this also varies on the type of family you are from....
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