Anger - managing your angry feelings

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
June 8, 2007 2:57am CST
Anger is a natural human emotion, experienced by all of us. However, many think of anger as a "bad" or "negative" emotions, which can prevent themselves or others from expressing it in a healthy and helpful way. Anger can be helpful in so many ways.. In spite of the way anger is often viewed, it can be a helpful emotion in our lives. It drives us to reach our goals, handle emergencies and solve problems. Help us to express stress and tension and communicating to others what you are feeling. But anger can also take over our life! How do you view anger and ways that can manage these angry feelings?
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@miaolin (397)
• China
8 Jun 07
In my opinion,I think we should realise our anger.In public opinion,to realising anger is a bad thing.Most of people try to let us endure it.They think if the anger is realised out will be harmful for our health.In fact,to endure it will harm to our health more seriously.We won't be happy because of it,and couldn't be in mood to do anything.It seems that there is a boulder in our windpipe and we are hard to breath.So my solution is to find a empty place to set them out.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I agree with that we have to express our anger. Abuse towards yourself or others is never an OK way of dealing with anger.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I can reall tare things up when I am angry but I do better at controling it as I get older
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Being matured has taught us to have patience.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
8 Jun 07
for sure
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• India
9 Jun 07
You are absolutely right. Anger is just a human expression. As long as you dont hurt anybody else physically or emotionally its fine. Like you said it does motivate us to achieve our goals. Anger management must be towards that....
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
We have to manage our anger properly.
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jun 07
i've been feeling a lot angrier now than i think i've ever felt ever. and i don't even know why. little things make me angry and i am really having a problem managing m feelings. i sometimes think i need some help already. i wasn' like these before. i don't want anger to take over me.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Anger can take over our life! If you feel low or have little control in your life, you can sometimes use anger to manipulate or make others afraid of you.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Sometimes when I get angry I would talk to my hubby as he listens and try to help me out.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Who else can we share our anger but the closest person to us.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Jun 07
Sometimes I have to stop and just pray to God to help me to get rid of the anger I am feeling towards someone before it gets out of hand and I also pray for help. I agree it is a very strong negitive emotion to have. Everyone gets angry though from time to time.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Praying makes us at peace with our anger.
@mamacathie (3929)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Anger is a good thing if it is handled in the right way. Even Jesus got angry at the moneychangers in the temple and threw them out. We have to handle anger in the right way so it doesn't take over our lives and destroy our relationships. The anger needs to be dealt with immediately and get the issue taken care of and then let go! That is the problem most people have is the "letting go" part.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Letting out the anger, one can release it by having a good cry or scream in the car, or at the waves on the beach - let your anger out all at once. This can help express feelings of fear, hurt or grief. 'Letting go' makes you feel more relaxing.
• United States
8 Jun 07
it has been proven that keeping anger inside can harm you however the bible tells us (Eph.4:26,31 26 "In your anger do not sin" : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, so get angry clear the air and then settle the matter
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 07
Thanks for the verse.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Anger is a choice. You often will elect the anger response when you feel voilated or infringed upon. A little be of communication and self control can do alot to mediate that response. You need to know why you may be subconciously choosing the anger response. If it is anger about your own life then you need to just do something about it. Work more, take more time for yourself, make a new friend etc. Change can bring you out of a down situation. I think what you speak of is determination. A non negative emotion. That is a valuable tool that parents do well to encourage in their children while young so it becomes a part of them as they become teens and then adults. Some of the most successful people had determination AND a good idea. I hope this helps answer what you have asked in this discussion.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Well, I do believe that anger communicates a message that some behaviour is not OK
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Anger like any other emotion can be helpful at the same time can destroy us... If we dont know how to handle it...I knew some people who because of anger spend their whole life in revenge. There are some who because of anger live a life full of pain and hatred. But if we know how to manage our anger... it will be the soure of self respect from other people and our self as well... To manage our anger first we should know the limits of our self control...what are the things that will drive you mad? What are the worst thing that you can do when you are mad... Then think of the way to suppress your anger like practicing not to speak when you think you are beginning to reach your boiling point. and instead counting 1-10 while reminding yourself that you should take the situation in control. Next, think of the possible point of your enemy... if you think he just want you mad... then fail him... laugh and turn your back.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Anger can be useful, but only if you express it in a helpful way. It is important that we don't hurt ourself or other people or damage property.
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
8 Jun 07
i can't manage them when i'm in anger. i just keep quite not to show my anger but when somebody asks that what has happened i just blow up!!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Bottling it up means anger continues to lurk like an emotional monster, waiting for opportunities to hurt somebody.
@paywise (500)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 07
Just controll yourselft. I'm angry with my BOSS, but I can handle it. I can hit him but I didn't.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
I think controlling anger we try to count 10. It gives you time to get back in control of your feelings before you do or say something.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hello zandi, uncontrolled anger can damage one personality. I dont see any positive things that comes with it. I dont think anyone can think rasionally when they are in anger. What more to say to do anything right when emotion takes control over mind. The best thing to do when anger strike is to just go away from the provoking situation.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Beware of how you're feeling. If you are getting angry in a situation just say to your self - STOP. Take a minute to recognise how you are feeling.