Anger - managing your angry feelings
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
June 8, 2007 2:57am CST
Anger is a natural human emotion, experienced by all of us. However, many think of anger as a "bad" or "negative" emotions, which can prevent themselves or others from expressing it in a healthy and helpful way.
Anger can be helpful in so many ways.. In spite of the way anger is often viewed, it can be a helpful emotion in our lives. It drives us to reach our goals, handle emergencies and solve problems. Help us to express stress and tension and communicating to others what you are feeling. But anger can also take over our life!
How do you view anger and ways that can manage these angry feelings?
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13 responses
@miaolin (397)
• China
8 Jun 07
In my opinion,I think we should realise our anger.In public opinion,to realising anger is a bad thing.Most of people try to let us endure it.They think if the anger is realised out will be harmful for our health.In fact,to endure it will harm to our health more seriously.We won't be happy because of it,and couldn't be in mood to do anything.It seems that there is a boulder in our windpipe and we are hard to breath.So my solution is to find a empty place to set them out.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Jun 07
Sometimes I have to stop and just pray to God to help me to get rid of the anger I am feeling towards someone before it gets out of hand and I also pray for help. I agree it is a very strong negitive emotion to have. Everyone gets angry though from time to time.
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@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Jun 07
i've been feeling a lot angrier now than i think i've ever felt ever. and i don't even know why. little things make me angry and i am really having a problem managing m feelings. i sometimes think i need some help already. i wasn' like these before. i don't want anger to take over me.
@muralikrishna88 (102)
• India
9 Jun 07
You are absolutely right. Anger is just a human expression. As long as you dont hurt anybody else physically or emotionally its fine. Like you said it does motivate us to achieve our goals. Anger management must be towards that....
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Anger is a choice. You often will elect the anger response when you feel voilated or infringed upon. A little be of communication and self control can do alot to mediate that response. You need to know why you may be subconciously choosing the anger response. If it is anger about your own life then you need to just do something about it. Work more, take more time for yourself, make a new friend etc. Change can bring you out of a down situation. I think what you speak of is determination. A non negative emotion. That is a valuable tool that parents do well to encourage in their children while young so it becomes a part of them as they become teens and then adults. Some of the most successful people had determination AND a good idea. I hope this helps answer what you have asked in this discussion.
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
8 Jun 07
it has been proven that keeping anger inside can harm you however the bible tells us
(Eph.4:26,31
26 "In your anger do not sin" : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
so get angry clear the air and then settle the matter
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Anger like any other emotion can be helpful at the same time can destroy us... If we dont know how to handle it...I knew some people who because of anger spend their whole life in revenge. There are some who because of anger live a life full of pain and hatred. But if we know how to manage our anger... it will be the soure of self respect from other people and our self as well...
To manage our anger first we should know the limits of our self control...what are the things that will drive you mad? What are the worst thing that you can do when you are mad... Then think of the way to suppress your anger like practicing not to speak when you think you are beginning to reach your boiling point. and instead counting 1-10 while reminding yourself that you should take the situation in control. Next, think of the possible point of your enemy... if you think he just want you mad... then fail him... laugh and turn your back.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Anger is a good thing if it is handled in the right way. Even Jesus got angry at the moneychangers in the temple and threw them out. We have to handle anger in the right way so it doesn't take over our lives and destroy our relationships. The anger needs to be dealt with immediately and get the issue taken care of and then let go! That is the problem most people have is the "letting go" part.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 07
Hello zandi, uncontrolled anger can damage one personality. I dont see any positive things that comes with it. I dont think anyone can think rasionally when they are in anger. What more to say to do anything right when emotion takes control over mind. The best thing to do when anger strike is to just go away from the provoking situation.
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