Do unto OTHERS as you WOULD have DONE unto YOU ....

United States
June 10, 2007 5:13pm CST
Most people follow this golden rule. OK, let's face it, most of us like to THINK we follow this golden rule, but I don't think many of us stop to often to think "Would I like this done unto me?" In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we all do things out of laziness, irritability, efficiency or whatever that don't take into account the feelings or the priorities of people around us. And sometimes, those little shortcuts we take can even lead to fights or ill-will at the office, at school and even at home. Perhaps especially at home. So...can we all try asking ourselves just a little more often, "Would I like this done unto me?"
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• Singapore
11 Jun 07
You are very right, my friend. I believe in this creed too - do not do unto others what you would not done unto yourself. Some people may call it karma or what comes around go around, well, all the same thing. So the next time you feel like doing nasty things to people, think of it being done to yourself. It is not easy but all we can do is to try. That said, we shouldn't keep expecting to receive something good back if we do something nice to others too. That mentality would then be a little bit flawed. So just be nice, but don't expect to be rewarded. Be generous. ;-)
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Awesome perception Lordwarwizard, thanks for sharing it is always appreciated.
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• Singapore
11 Jun 07
Geez, THANKS for the bR!
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@gberlin (3837)
11 Jun 07
I think part of the reason why we forget the golden rule is because we have learned that we will get walked on if we don't stand up for ourselves and that means that sometimes you have to get a little pushy. That is not my style and most of the time I try to follow the golden rule because as a teacher I am service oriented and I try to respect others and in return they will respect me. 99% of the time this works for me. Its the 1% that causes me to not want to use the golden rule.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
11 Jun 07
actually, i still follow the golden rule even at times when i try to stand up for myself. but i do things in a right way. when i feel bad about someone who hurt me, i try to talk to that person than do something bad. there are other ways on how we can do things right even when feeling bad... anne
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• United States
12 Jun 07
Perhaps we can use that excuse that we don't want to get hurt, but I think we just forget to abide by such rules when life comes at us as fast as it does ... take care my friend.
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@2timothy (794)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
There is a great difference between Confucius' do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you and Jesus' do unto others what you want others to do unto you. The former is passive and defensive, the latter active and productive.
• United States
11 Jun 07
I enjoy the latter more than the passive, thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
• United States
11 Jun 07
I enjoy the latter more than the passive, thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
@GardenGerty (85273)
• Marion, Kansas
10 Jun 07
Good advice, and I can think of lots of places that it would apply. Believe it or not, I think marriages are a great place to apply this philosophy, because I know that I, for one, do not always stick to it. I am meaner, and ruder, to my partner who loves me than I would ever be to a stranger. I think even on myLot we should be forbearing with one another. Think first, act last, and we will be better friends all the way around then.
• United States
11 Jun 07
That is wonderful that you found someone so perfect for you that see that true beauty for what you are, thanks for responding it is truly appreciated.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Thanks GardenGerty for your response, it is always appreciated.
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
10 Jun 07
We all should be subconsciously asking ourselves that repeated each day, but the truth is, people don't. People get to wrapped up in their own lives to really stop and think about how their actions may be affecting other peoples lives. It's sad but true in our world today.
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• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes, that is exactly what I would have written. People busy in the hustle and bustle of everyday life become thoughtless of others. I try to overlook thoughtless acts as I do believe most don't intentionally mean to be unkind. Their thoughts are just on other things and some people become rude. On another note, I have met total strangers that have shown much kindness even while in a hurry.
• United States
11 Jun 07
We all should, but life gets so busy that sometimes we don't, thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
I do not lie to others as I do not like others to lie to me. I respond to other's discussions as I want others to respond to my discussions too. I do to others what I like this done unto me. I do think I follow the golden rule most of the times. However, at times, when one is angry or ignorant, the rules like to hide behind the head automatically, and so we do to others what we do not want others do unto us.
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• United States
12 Jun 07
Too funny, always a pleasure to have you join my discussions, take care my friend.
• Nigeria
11 Jun 07
well i read a book once what would jesus do and it was a worthwhile reading. It was basically like before they do something they would be like what would jesus do if he were in our situation and then they act it out. I think when i read it i was like i needed to do unto others what i want them to do to me
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• United States
12 Jun 07
Thank you for sharing, it is truly appreciated.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
11 Jun 07
i always believe in karma. what goes around, comes around. and so, i do believe in the saying DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT OTHERS TO DO UNTO YOU. but most of the time, i don't remember those words exactly. what i do know is that i always try to do what is right and what is good. i admit that there are times when i get sidetracked and hurt someone. but i always get back to putting things back together in place. - anne
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• United States
12 Jun 07
How nice of you, you seem like a very good person, I wish you the best in your new adventure in Sweden. Thanks for responding, it is always a pleasure to have you join my discussions.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Bingo! I wonder how many lights just went on in some heads.I've often told my children to think before they speak or do something for just that reason. You are right because I think we do have ourselves fooled into thinking we always do the right thing. Nope, I wonder how many people would be able to count how many times they practiced this at the end of each day. Wonder what the score would be? We all need to try harder! Nice message, thanks.
• United States
11 Jun 07
Thanks for the nice response, wouldn't it be nice if we all thought before we speak, sometimes we just get to anxious to speak it without thinking it through.
• United States
11 Jun 07
MY GOLDEN RULE IS: Do unto others AS they do unto you. OR Do unto others BEFORE they do unto you. OR Do unto other AS SOON AS they do unto you.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
Funny, thank you for commenting, it is truly appreciated.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I try to do that, but you are right I need to start asking myself that question more often. Especially, when I get tired I expect too much from others and I really need to watch that in myself and realize they are probably tired too.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
I think we all need to be more in tune with what we do and say to others, just sometimes, as you say, we get tired and expect too much. Thanks for responding, it is always appreciated.
@santuccie (3376)
• United States
11 Jun 07
How true. Certainly there are things I do in a moment's haste or heat that hurt somebody else. Not all the time, to be sure. As I get older, and gradually more experienced in life, I am quicker to know how these things might affect someone. I fail on occasion to act according to this knowledge, unfortunately, but I can also make it a point to humble myself and make amends soon afterward. And better sooner than later; life passes by in the blink of an eye.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
How very truly, if more of could make the effort before life passes us by we might be better individuals, thanks for responding it is truly appreciated.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
The opposite holds true too. There are people, and we know one in particular, who think they can say whatever they like, & do whatever they want... but woah betide anyone who responds the same way, or acts the same way. Then it's a different story.
• United States
11 Jun 07
I know those kind of people too~! Thanks for responding Jenny it is truly appreciated.