Does he support you?

United States
June 14, 2007 10:49pm CST
You would assume that all men understand a mom's need to be at home with the little kids. But some guys don't. Does your husband support your right to be a stay at home mom?
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
15 Jun 07
My man would love it if I could stay at home and take care of the kids and perhaps home school them... however, this is not viable in our country and we barely make ends meat on our two incomes - we would have to go live in a shack if I had to quit working and stay at home. Instead I have to work and then still take care of the kids and the home after hours. I am glad that you get to stay at home with your kids. Enjoy it because it really is a luxury and should not be taken forgranted.
• United States
16 Jun 07
Thank you for giving voice to the other side of the equation. You have made a wonderful brave choice for your family's sake. Your children are very fortunate to have such a wonderful and loving mom.
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
17 Jun 07
Thanks so much for the response. Sometimes I do not always feel that I am doing the best that I can. But I guess we all have days like that... Thanks for the encouragement.
• United States
16 Jun 07
My husband wants me to be a stay at home mom but with just all the bills and the fact that I can't hold still long enough in order to be a stay at home mom. I need a vaction away from my daughter (as much as I love her) so my work is my vacation
• United States
16 Jun 07
All moms have days like that! You are not alone.
@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
16 Jun 07
My husband would support me either way, being a stay at home mother or working out of the home. We both agreed though that I'd stay home from the day my first child was born untill they all go to school. I just really wanted to be with my kids while they're little, it's just so important to me to be there. I'm sure I might start working maybe part time when they're all in school, I guess just depending on how we're doing financially. We've made it okay all this time with only one income but I thank God everyday for the opportunity to be able stay at home with my children. There are alot of mother's who can't stay home because of finances and I'm sure would love to be able to be at home. So I never take advantage of that and take it as a blessing everyday.
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
15 Jun 07
My husband support me in either ways..... whether I want to be a stay at home mom or working mom. Of course, he prefer me to stay at home as he always feel that mom need to be at home so the kids and he will have more attention from me. Alternatively, if I wanted to return to work force, he will also support me but we have to discuss how to manage the time.
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
15 Jun 07
My husband does support me staying at home with our son. We are able to pay all of our bills on just his income now, so I don't have to work. I do a few things that I can do at home, so that we are able to save some money for emergencies, and so we will have enough money to pay for Christmas and birthday gifts when they come up. That way we don't get behind on other bills then. If his checks weren't enough to adequately take care of our needs, I would go back to work. I wouldn't expect him to get a second job like so many people do. I would work an opposite shift so that one of us was always home with the baby. That's what we did when our son was small, so that we could get some bills paid off, and it worked out just fine. I would never expect my husband to shortchange himself, and not get a chance to spend any time with our children, just so I could stay home with them all the time. I don't think that is fair to anyone.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
15 Jun 07
My husband supports my right to stay at home and I did for a few months, but then I got bored and found a part time job that suited my needs. The hours are good, the pay sucks and the manager is an anal retentive control freak, but otherwise, the hours are good hahaha! A little extra cash doesn't hurt and I do have fun with the other employees and have met some great people. If I chose to stay at home, as tight on finances as we would be, he would still support my decision to stay at home. He has always been supportive of my endeavors.
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• United States
15 Jun 07
My husband is very supportive of me staying home. When money gets tight, he picks up a second job or extra hours. He also helps me around the house when necessary and gives me time for myself. In return, I do my absolute best to give him good food, a clean house, and to waste as little money as possible. I do contribute financially here and there, but it is not a lot and he doesn't mind.
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@angela2006 (1846)
• China
15 Jun 07
I think he will not,because our financial condition is very poor.in recent years,we can not afford to raise a child.even having a child,there will be more need of money in our family to support a child,so I will go out to work to share the burden.
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@fatragu (349)
• United States
17 Jun 07
My husband is actually the one that suggested that I stay home with our kids. I stopped working a month before our first one was born and have been able to stay home with her and our other daughter. Right now we have a 1 and 2 yr old and for them to be in daycare so that I can get a job is $850 a month. And we are due for another one in October so it isn't afordable for me to go out and get a job right now. I am looking at getting a part time job in the near future but that is only for a couple months so that we can save up some additional money to help with moving expenses when we do our big move.
• United States
16 Jun 07
I think it depends on where you live and what lifestyle you have or want to have. These days, a single-income home simply can't comfortably support a family. Ever since the induction of the dual-income, inflation has risen to where it's night impossible to be as comfortable on one salary as used to be possible. It's not about "understanding", it's about paying the bills and giving your kids the "what I never had" lifestyle that most parents want.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
16 Jun 07
I think this is an odd statement, in an ideal world yes every mother wants to stay home and be with their kids, But in the real world unless you can live on a budget that your husbands salary covers,as well are able to save for the future, it is not practical for the mom to stay at home. and usually this is discussed before a pregnancy is a reality. but to assume, is wrong, you need all the facts and figures in place, and this doesn't happen very often. as prices are constantly rising above a salary cap. May I suggest you ask questions before you assume. that way no shocks.
@lisagayle (395)
• United States
16 Jun 07
My husband is very supportive of me being a stay at home mom, he was a say at home dad for a while and h understands what it is like and that it is a full time job. My father is the one who has a problem with me being a stay at home mom. But I will not leave a 12 year old on her own in this day and age, it is just not safe, it really wasn't too safe to do so when I was 12.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
16 Jun 07
my husband supports my decision to stay with our son completely. we did need a second income so i became a nanny. it's a huge pay cut from my career but it's worth it to be with our son. at night i'm a work at home mom and that makes up even more of my lost income. i think i'm going to home school so don't see myself returning to the work force anytime soon.