What have you done that has turned your life around for the better?
June 16, 2007 2:40am CST
I've realised I'm at a stage where I need to make serious changes in my attitude and life otherwise I will be miserable. I'm lacking in self-confidence, have destructive relationships, argue with my family, I'm not responsible, and worst of all...things just don't make me happy anymore. I'm not depressed. I don't cry all day and have suicidal thoughts. I just feel I'm letting life slip away when I honestly have so much to be grateful for. I feel I need love so badly or I feel worthless. So many things I need to change but I don't know where to start. I've always wanted to be one of those people who's strong and can impress people with their determination etc, but I just can't. Am I doomed to live a life of misery? Anyway, enough of my rambling. I'd like to know HOW any of you have changed your lives completely for the better? Not cliched sayings, because sayings are good and well but are not very practical when you want to try and implement them. They are often so great to hear but so hard to actually practice. Looking forward to your responses
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• Delhi, India
16 Jun 07
Touch! I think perhaps you would not like to listen to lectures or surmons from me...on your problems. LOL! I would limit my reply and would suggest you that please do not feel disheartened or disappointed with the happenings....going on with you. Take it from me...it happens with everybody...everybody faces this kind of turbulence or upheaval in life. Life is really a challange ...and you have to face it....You have to look out for positive moments...you have to count your blessings. Since you are aware about your problem....I am sure...you also know how to overcome it. Please Think big and think positive...try to insert only positive things and positive thoughts into your brain..and enjoy every moment of life. Everything will be alright in few days. Believe me! deepak
16 Jun 07
I think that is human nature. Some times you are down and sometimes you are up. There are times in the lives of human beings when they feel optimistic and full of energy. Shakespeare has well said that nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so. Long back I happened to read "Think and grow Rich" (can be downloaded from my website or blog. It stimulated me a lot for some time. Now we have "The Secret" which also exhorts one for big things of life. I think our thinking has to do a lot whether we are happy or sad. Everything in this world is transitory. Why to bother much? I know it is easier said than done. But practice and practice.
16 Jun 07
The first and simple thing to be done to change your life style and make it happier than the present one is to get up early in the morning and if possible go for a jog. Your mind is pretty dull after getting up. So, to activate it you need some extra oxygen supplied to the brain. This is possible when you are doing some physical activity. Now, you would wonder how would this have any relationship with a happy life. Once your brain is active it starts getting thoughts which will be fruitful to change the life style for good. Once your inner self is positive everything turns out to be positive. Whether its your relationships or your confidence or any other thing which comes into your life. The age old saying- "Early to bed and early to rise, keeps the man healthy, wealthy and wise." is not just a saying but is a way of life.
• United States
17 Jun 07
Exercise and dieting did me a world of good. I know its one of the hardest things you'll ever do. I was fat and sloppy, tired all the time not to mention I had high blood pressure. I quit eating breakfast and ate a bowl of Special K with a bananna for lunch, I had a normal dinner with dessert if I wanted and I worked out 20 min. a day by either walking a mile, using a gazelle, or riding a mountain bike. I pulled off on average 1/2 lb. a day and lost 4 pant sizes. I feel better, I look better, I find myself more attractive to others, my outlook on life is more positive. If theres one thing in life I'm glad I did, it was that.
17 Jun 07
i used to complain a lot even for the simplest thing, being too strict with myself (i want perfection and never allow mistakes in my life) and always look at life in a pessimistic manner... now instead of complaining, i learn to be grateful with God has given to me... He had given to me in abundance and i realize that i should be grateful and not complaining all the times... i learn to become a more easy-going person and not too strict with myself... now i loosen up a bit and when i do make mistake, i tell myself that it is just natural because i am a human... and human do sometimes make mistakes... as long as i learn from it and try not to repeat it again, then that is the most important thing... having a positive attitude in my life instead of always looking at the negative side of things really change me a lot... my self-confidence and self-esteem boost and i manage to live a happier life... of course i couldn't have change all of these by myself... i have God and people surrounding me to support me and help me to change... and now my life definitely has turned better... in fact, it gets better and better by each passing day... take care and God Bless you...
16 Jun 07
The biggest thing i have ever did that has turned my life around in many ways i did not realize is the day i decided to eat right and exercise. I was very overwieght and out of shape i was tired all the time and cranky with the kids had no self esteem and no hope for tommorrow. I also had other health problems that kept getting worse as my general health kept deteriorating. Now i am eating right my mind is clear and i am 50 pounds lighter and very physcially active. I have energy and i feel great very confident too. It has been positive all the way around and my other health problems are better too.
16 Jun 07
The biggest single thing I've ever done for my own good was to Begin doing Yoga. I've been doing it for more than 30 years. Its changed my Life in 2 different ways. First its wonderful for your health and physical condition, and also, it teaches you to, "Look within." I didn't know this when I began doing Yoga. But yoga exercises the Mind as well as the body. I'm not religious but I can now see the Perfection in Life, and I'm forever Grateful for my Health and Happiness.
• United States
16 Jun 07
I stopped drinking soda and fried potatoe chips. I lost 17 pounds and never realized it. In a weird way that motivated me get in shape. I diet, take a walk, and eat healthier along with drinking half my weight of water in ounces. It really changed my life. And my chin lol.
• Sri Lanka
16 Jun 07
My response deals with the professional side of life rather than the emotional side: I was very fond of Science and was dreaming of a future as a Engineer or some other personality doing well in science. But I was weak in Chmistry and this did not seem to get me anywhere. On my Uncle's advice I took to accounts and did very well as an accountant. I am fortunate to have made that change to my career.
27 Jun 07
Dear touchshine,even if i am too late in answering this i hope it helps you.One of the most important thing in life is to feel worthy.You should respect yourself & love yourself.If you don't love yourself & feel your worth than nobody is going to give worth to you.Never pressurise yourself to do something which you can't do.There are many things in this world that everybody can't do.Some is good at something the other is in other thing. There was a time when i used to like that.Feeling worthless.always thinking that i have nothing special in myself.At that particualr time there was a friend who made me realise that i have special power of understanding other peoples problem & helping them out in difficult situations.From then onwards i started helping others by listening to there problem & taking them out of depression.You need to talk & if you want than you can meesage me your problem.I will defeinitely help you out.Bye & take care
27 Jun 07
Dear rb200406 Thanks a lot for your valuable advice .. though it's late but valuable is valuable .. I really appreciate this. I am really glad to know about your power .. and I am also very much thankful to you that you are ready to help me personally through message :) .. Thank you so much buddy for your care :)
18 Jun 07
i haven't actually done something which could have changed my present status of mind and my ways though i feel it's just what i really need to do to make mysef happier... i do believe that there are different ways for different people through which they could change themselves. but i don't think that it's the right way to follow those things which people usually suggest for bringing change. they often demand to sart bringing sudden changes in your life and when you think in there way it's normal you are going to feel yourself under pressure and would find it hard to follow it. it's just okay when you do a lot of research and just pick what suits you or that could suit you better and than try to apply them to your life style.by the way don't you find it quite annoying when they say-- where there's a will there is a way;)
17 Jun 07
I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years. After an attempt on my life, I finally got out, and a short while after I left the country. My self esteem, my self confidence and my love of life had been shattered, and I was a mess. I arrived in Canada, alive, but not living. The move was the best thing I ever did. I moved in with my partner, and although it's taken a long time, and there are still days where I don't do so well, I feel I'm finally getting to where I want to be. I still have confidence and self esteem issues, but not nearly so bad, and I am working on that. My zest for life has returned and the sparkle has returned to my eyes. So for me, I turned my life around by leaving an abusive ex and leaving the country. I realized that I do have a voice too, and I have the right to use it.
• United States
17 Jun 07
Forget about pleasing or impressing others. Impress yourself by finding just one thing that turns you on in life. Do that first. Forget about all the many things you might want to change, for you will go crazy trying to figure out what to do. Find one or even two things that are most important for you. Take some time to think about this if you don't know right off what you are really interested in. It does not matter if your interests are popular or kind of different. Just figure out what a few of the mains one are. Then do something to make them a part of your life. Become fully involved in your interests and create dreams about them. Work toward following those dreams. When you are working on something you really like or even love, things will get easier for you. You will find yourself being happier because you are living your life as you want. And never mind the setbacks or failures along the way to living your dreams. And vow to ignore what anyone else says about you. Your life is not theirs to judge. Keep on pushing forward any way you can. And the more you are grateful for what you do have, the more that you open yourself to having more. You will never change your family and how they think. You have to find something to be involved in that will please you first. Set your sights on doing whatever it is you want to do the best way you can. Resolve to be great at whatever task you are undertaking. You never have to accept a life of misery. You can make a choice to live the life you really want to live. And that includes being the person you want to be. Learn to love yourself first and that will allow others to love you. And it is far easier to love yourself when you are engaged in activities you really like doing or that are important to you. I am in that process right now. I have failed miserably over the last several years but I am not quitting my march toward my dreams. No one understands me, and I don't expect them to. But my life is mine and I see no reason I cannot live it as I want to. That is as long as I don't infringe upon the rights of others. I have no desire to purposely hurt anyone. And I am learning to like myself more than I ever have. I let so much of my past determine my life. I have been programed with so much crap it has become my greatest task to change my thinking. But it will be worth it because to live on someone elses terms is no life at all.