Fake friend for a year and never knew........
By laydlexius
@laydlexius (133)
United States
June 16, 2007 11:18am CST
I met this girl when I moved to my local area and she and I became real close. To the point of the same schedule, after work going to eat at resturants, hanging out, shopping, etc. Well, 2 days ago I spoke with someone who was real close to her. He told me, "well despite what she has done to me, I want you to know that she never did like you from the beginning." I was so hurt because the discussion we had was so clear because he filled in all the bits and pieces of her stories that I only partially knew. Huh! Imagine that! Can you really trust the people you consider friends? They come in your home, but can you trust them? I say, "sometime you have to leave work at work!"
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8 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
16 Jun 07
It is a shame that you thought you had a friendship in this girl and she went and did this. I guess it is better for you to know what kind of girl she really is. I truely believe that you can have true friendships established threw work environments....you just had a bad experience.
Sounds like you are a nice person....consider it her loss.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
18 Jun 07
True, you never really know a person and unfortunately you chose the wrong type to befriend.
Thanks for marking me best response:)
@laydlexius (133)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Yeah I guess you can never tell until it happens. But there is really nothing wrong with friends in the work place its just who you know and associate yourself with.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
16 Jun 07
I must ask, are you taking this persons word before talking to the so called friend. I know that if I did not like a person I wouldn't be bothered with spending time with them, They have spent a part of a year with you, some thing about this doesn't sound quite right. If you have any doubts, I would talk to the person who shared so much time, not some one who may have a hidden motive. This just an opinion, and you are free to discard what I have said as I do not know the whole story
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@laydlexius (133)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I though about it as well but the avoiding me and ignorung and lying all speak for itself as I said he completed my broken stories that she would tell and I deserved to know why when wasnt talking to me when I did no harm.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
16 Jun 07
then this is a betrayal of your trust, and I would go on my own way. no one deserves to be treaded as badly as you have been, particularly when you gave your all to be her friend. it is a shame , but she has lost a good friend and I do not blame you one little bit.
@darkness01 (1300)
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16 Jun 07
Hello and welcome to Mylot.
I think you have raised an excellent point here. I also share your views about knowing when your colleagues are only friendly towards you because you have to work with them and be around them for many hours per day. I know for sure that if i met some of my colleagues when i was outside of work i would not want to be their friend neither would they want to be my friend.
Dont confuse people being friendly towards you with people being your friend.
@laydlexius (133)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Advice openly accepted and the worst part was it was very personal and really hurt my heart because my children loved her.
@navtech (1773)
• India
17 Jun 07
Hi, laydlexious, A man introduced me a man to me. Slowly we become frinds and he was out of employment. Considering my friendship with him I used to support him finacially. One night he wanted to sleep at my quarter since he could pay his rent bill. I agreed and also told him I would pay his rent tomorrow so that he can go back to room. What he did, that night he emptied my purse and before me getting from bed, he left my quarter and never returned. I had this fake friend.
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
17 Jun 07
I had an episode of that a motnh or so ago with someone I thought was a true friend. It turned out that she unmistakably was not. And then it took her three weeks to even notice I was upset with her. This isn't a friend from work, but rather someone who used to be a neighbour. I realised in the end we don't have half as much in common as I thought, and she lost a better friend than I did.
@loopylou2406 (382)
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17 Jun 07
its so true, what some posters have put i suppose you have to trust your judgemant and 1st impressions, its a difficult one, some people are just liars, and some cant help it!!
have you confonted this so called friend if so what has she said???
if u dont mind me asking
@laydlexius (133)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Thats the point she ignores my calls and doesnt return them. When we used to be on the phone she acted like we lost connection but i would call back and no answer for a whole 2 weeks. She is just one less person I need in my life
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Well, some details are missing here, so from a reader's p.o.v., maybe this other fella' was just lyin' to start some crap. On the other hand, if what you believe is true it wouldn't be too surprising--people are so capable of being fake, and let's not forget the entire separate category of fair-weather friends... They might not necessarily wrong you, but when you're in need of a then they're nowhere to be found.
@cherry_pig (118)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I agree that you should confront her to get her side of the story. That being said, I've had "friends" like that. Some people are emotionally handicapped and just don't know how to be a functioning human. I think I've gotten pretty good at recognizing those types now and try to stay far away from them.
