please share your opinion-for or against?

@abhisree (521)
India
October 24, 2006 9:13am CST
a muslim girl was forced to take divorce from her husband because her father-in-law had raped her.she wants to live with the husband but her family members have decided against it.what do u think should ahe stay with her husband or should she start afresh?
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16 responses
• India
30 Oct 06
this is a clear case of interference of religion in ones life when none is required,my view on it is that if both husband and wife want to be together then they shud not heed to their familys views or wish, at the same time husband must support his wife no matter what, as it was not her fault and shud not give in to the preasure from the family or some insane clerics.let sense prevail in such enviorment as no religion calls for such unwanted behaviour on any ones part
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@abhisree (521)
• India
2 Nov 06
but that's the sad part that religion here plays a very illogical role..
@ntony9 (491)
• United States
29 Oct 06
If the husband truly love s the girl he would ptotect her at all costs. I suggest they move to a place nobody could find them and start a new life but if this is not possible then by all means divorce him. She is entilted to her happiness.
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@abhisree (521)
• India
2 Nov 06
the couple are going against the law and getting married again and they want to stay together..however the father-in-law has not received severe punishment..
@neon2000 (2761)
• Philippines
28 Oct 06
That's awfully a bad thing. She did only the right thing, divorcing her husband. Her father in law should go to hell.
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@abhisree (521)
• India
30 Oct 06
the problem is that the guy was pressurised to take divorce..
@zeus1a (1048)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 06
What her father in law did was just awfull..no words to describe it..does her husband know it? If she would like to stay with her husband i dont see why this shouldnt be the case..I believe she needs the TRUE support from her husband as these moments will be very difficult for her. I wish everything best
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• United States
2 Nov 06
but it's not her fault? If he raped her she didn't have a choice. I think she should be able to stay with her husband... especially if she's willing to or wants to! I don't think I could live in a country that told me what to do with my life.
@denax1 (708)
• United States
3 Nov 06
What the father in law did was horrible but I don't think she should be forced to leave the husband over it. Her father in law should be stopped from doing it again.
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@chalmette69 (3010)
• United States
2 Nov 06
That is so terrible, he should be ashamed of himself, I think the husband and wife should be allowed to stay together as long as he is not mean to her and they love each other. I think the father-in -law should be in jail. Good luck.
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@dixielol (1581)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I dont know what the muslim laws say about it. If she was to stay with the huspband, would she be living in the same house as the father in law? If so then i dont c why she would want to stay. If not then i do see why her family would have a say in it.
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@pumpkinjam (5801)
• United Kingdom
28 Oct 06
In a situation like that, she needs the support of her husband, providing that is what she wants. It was her father-in-law who did something wrong so why punish the girl and her husband for that? I can kind of see that her parents might think that her husband could turn out to be like his father but they shouldn't just assume that. If she wants to stay with her husband, it is up to her. Her family have no right to force her to get divorced. And she has the right to decide whether she wants to live with her husband. As long as he is not abusive and he knows about what has happened and is going to make sure it can;t happen again then she should stay with him if that's what she wants. I know my family would rather I wasn't with my partner but I am and that's my decision. It's ok for families to look out for their children and everything but it is wrong to make decisions for those who are old enough to make their own.
• United Kingdom
28 Oct 06
And that whole law of her belonging to the father-in-law is so outdated and I think this might be a good opportunity to get that law overthrown. It shouldn;t count if it was rape anyway. I don't understand why she would want to be in the same house as her father-in-law but I can understand that she would want to stay with her husband no matter what. If her and her husband really want to stay together, they should but they should go somewhere else. And, I don't know how this works with Muslim laws but if it was here then she should report him to the police because he has committed a serious crime.
@abhisree (521)
• India
2 Nov 06
thnx for responding:) thats the problem with muslim laws. if someone rapes a girl he is equivalent to her husband. and thus here her father-in-law has become her new husband and her original husband has become her son. it's crazy!!
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@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I have such mixed emotions. I'd like to see her stay with her husband/children and get as far away from her former father-in-law and his supporters as she can...and as soon as she can. What a sad situation. She is a victim and still being victimized.
@abhisree (521)
• India
2 Nov 06
thnx for responding:) i agree its sad and very tragic.
@maddog108 (3441)
• Australia
28 Oct 06
it just makes me glad im not a muslim they sound rather silly to me and after recent comment from one of the leaders over here i was shocked they have lost my respect
@abhisree (521)
• India
2 Nov 06
thnx for responding:)
@shi_2000_21 (2681)
• India
31 Jan 07
Why there is no muslim giving his opinion in this matter. They will talk about true justice, but nobody will talk about this matter, where the muslim law takes the side of the rapist.
@anup12 (4180)
• India
31 Jan 07
Her father in law has already been punished and her husband should also be punished severely.As far as the girl is concerned she has got justice and she should be now free to marry anyone.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
15 Dec 06
it depends on her husband too, if he is strong to stand by her inspite of all the opposition from home, then she can think of staying back. elase no point living with a self centred coward.
• India
15 Dec 06
i think she should stay with her husband. its also important to know what her husband thinks?
• United States
3 Nov 06
You can't fight cultural religious Idioligy.Get the hell outta that culture.
@the_vicar (1478)
• United States
3 Nov 06
First of all....her father-in-law needs to go to jail for the crime against her. Secondly...her husband should stick by her and deny his father!