I've been thinking about dating outside my race. I've heard that white

United States
June 27, 2007 11:13pm CST
men treat women better than black men. Have any women here ever dated outside your race? and do you feel that the man of a different race treated you better?
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@Qaeyious (2357)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I can assure you that abusers are of all races and creeds. I wish there's a simple answer to this, but most of the time the stories I hear are that at the beginning they act so romantic and sweet until a point is reached, whether it is the first act (you know...) , or marriage, or something, and then they change to the monsters they are. They come in all colors, all faiths (or lack of) I dated two people in my life. Both got so needy and demanded more from me than I had. Sorry, relationships are not my forte ...
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@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
28 Jun 07
Yes, I have dated outside of my race and to be completely honest with you, race does not play a part in my relationships! The treatment that I have endured I have received from the personality of the person not the race! If a man has good values and want to treat a woman right..that is because he has been raised to. There are many different races in this world but the one factor that we all share the same is our values. It doesn’t matter what race you are from or where you grew up, it is the compassion and the values that have been instilled on you that shapes you into the person you are.
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• United States
28 Jun 07
I have dated out of my race; and in my race. I found that I was never conscious about the race of the girls that I have dated, I come from a bi-racial background (half-African American and half-Filipino American) and I was always taught that the race of anyone doesn't matter. It's all about the person to me, not the race. Honestly, I had similar experiences in all of my dating with the girls, regardless of race. I know other people have had other experiences, but in my own, it's never made a difference in race.
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@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
28 Jun 07
i am married to a white guy and im a filipina, yes i would say that hes so much better than my X-boyfriend, he trait me better than my x and im so bless that i have him as my husband.
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@Calais (10893)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
I did, but it was many years ago and we were young. He didnt treat me bad or anything and we had a great time while it lasted, so i suppose it was just like any other relationship.
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• India
28 Jun 07
its not abt race..its abt luv...dunno abt black men tho..
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@magnet (2087)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I don't think that it's true that black men don't treat women as well as other races. There are some good strong black men out there. I don't think that race plays a part of how well a man will treat a woman. I've also heard some white women say that black men treat women better. My man is a strong black man and I'm proud to say that he is soooo good to me. Anyway to answer your question I have dated someone outside of my race because it was a blind double date. He was nice to me but no different from any other date with a black man. We only dated once because he just wasn't my type although he was very nice.It was funny going out with him because so many people stared at me so I acted like I was really in love with him just to tick people off that was looking at me hard.
@rdougl (469)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I've only dated inside my race. But I've heard positive and negative stories from my friends which of all races. I think you have to find someone how is wonderful and treats you with respect. You can find a person like this in all races.
30 Jun 07
My husband is white/Mexican/Apache. He has treated me better than black men have, but he's treated me better than anyone else; that's why I married him. Anyways, just because you run into some bad black men doesn't men that they are all bad. There are men who will treat you badly in every race. Think about it, if white men really did treat women better than black men then every black woman would be with a white man.