I can't believe this happenned to me!what would you do?

June 28, 2007 4:30pm CST
So today I went into the store to buy a set of knives with the block.The cashier at the till asked me for proof of identity.I was puzzled because I have bought knives before and never had to show proof if identity before.So I ask her if it s mandatory and she says to me,"well,you look quite young".I say,well how young?and the girl says,"you actually look under 21 so I can't sell you the knives".I was like "what?!!!" .so then she calls her supervisor and she says the same thing.and I told them I am 32 and have a 3 yr old except that she did not come with me to the store because she is at the nursery.but they still didn't believe me.They just reserved the item for me, and gave me a reciept,telling me to collect it later on provided I show proof of identity/age.Now,I do look younger than my years.but not under 21,for gods sake!maybe I should have shown them my photos along with my daughter that I have in my mobile phone.do you think they would have believed me then?Have you been turned away from any store for looking underage?Has anyone ever questioned the truth of your age?what would you do and how would you react?would you go to the store manager and try to convince him/her that you really are older than what they say you look?share your thoughts please friends..
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@tep91005 (375)
• United States
28 Jun 07
What store checks ID for knives. I've never heard of that. At least it's a complememnt I guess. I've never heard of that before. How bizare!
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28 Jun 07
acually knife crime is on the increase here in UK so all stores now have a message that says that you can't buy knives unless you are over 21..unfortunately I noticed it only after this happenned at the store today.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
29 Jun 07
They have this same rule inforced here in the US. I know the Wal-Marts I have shopped at ask for ID as well. It's not just the UK. Only thing different is the age limit. Instead of 21, it's 18 here, well in my area anyway. They just can't sell any knives/weapons to minors. It's probably like this in many states here in the US and if not, it will soon. Things change with time.
• United States
29 Jun 07
Thats weird because I live in the US and bought knives last night without and ID. It must be a new rule where you live. We get ID for several things but not knives. I remember a few years ago I was amazed that I got ID so that I could buy fuel injection cleaner. We allow sixteen year olds to drive yet we don't allow them to do miantenance on their vehicles.
@Jasmijn (145)
• Belgium
28 Jun 07
It's really a compliment, right? I think most people like to look younger than they are, but what I really think strange is that you didn't have your ID card with you? I've always been told I should always carry it with me whenever I go out...
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28 Jun 07
I am a stay at home mom,so apart from my passport I don't have any other form of identity.we don't own a vehicle as my husband is here on deputation and we use public transport always.so no drivers licence either.Guess I have to go shopping along with my daughter in her pram or with my husband or atlease,a copy of my passport!But it almost made my day to be told that I looked under 21 today.I have gotten compliments all these years but under 21 was by far the most flattering:)
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@Jasmijn (145)
• Belgium
28 Jun 07
Oh, my passport also is my only form of ID. English is not my mother tongue, so I thought ID was a synonym for passport. I always have mine with me, but it's the size of a credit card, very handy.
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• United States
28 Jun 07
Thats is ridiculous! You cant stop knife crime by making it mandatory that you show ID! If somebody under 21 really wanted a knife kill somebody or for protection, there are easier ways to get one than going to the store. If somebody older than 21 wanted a knife to kill somebody, why would it matter if they showed their ID? Thats not gonna stop anybody. All that does is make it harder for people like you who just need a block of knives!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I don't know about the age 21. But you do have to show ID where I live as well. But you have to be at least 18. If they sell a knife or even a kitchen set to a minor or someone without an ID, they can lose their job. It's mandatory here and it is a good thing. It might not stop crime, but it stops teens from buying knifes and that way you can't blame the cashier for selling a weapon. It's life, we must deal with it. Big deal. Show your ID and go on your way.
• United States
30 Jun 07
I guess you're right. I think it may just be a liability issue. One of my co-workers needed to use some surface cleaner the other day but couldn't find it, so she bought some and brought it back to the bakery department where she works (I work at a grocery store). A manager found out and told her that she couldn't use the cleaner back in the bakery. His only reason was that if somebody were to drink it and get poisoned, it would be the store's fault. It sounds really stupid, but then again, some people aren't really smart. Thats why they decide to go buy a knife and stab people! I guess it really is just one of those rules that sounds stupid, but exists for the sole purpose of making it easier for people (or stores) to avoid responsibility.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
29 Jun 07
oh my god ...YES! When I was 25, I looked 15. I hated it!My husband who was a year older than me was forever getting picked on for "robbing the cradle". If i went into a bar, I had to show 2 forms of ID. I was in my 30s when I bought a 6 pack with my 11 year old daughter at my side and the clerked laughed at us! Oh how I hated looking young. I was in my late 30's the first time I did not get carded. I was so upset that I went out and bought my first bottle of wrinkle lotion! Now that Im in my 50's ...what I wouldn't give to be 37 and looking 21. cherish those moments!!
• United States
29 Jun 07
I work for a retail store and I will sometimes card older wormen just because they do think it's a compliment. But all in all, I card because I don't want to lose my job. It pays the bills. There are reasons for laws. Even if it doesn't make any kind of sense. Now, it is if they look younger then 27 we have to card them.
@kingri (46)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Actually I have a couple of stories I can relate here. The first is that in high school I was already starting to go bald. In my younger foolish days me and a high school buddy of mine went to a bar. When we walked in the bartender asked my friend for his ID. He was old enough to get in, but looked younger. I however, (the one going bald) was about 2 months too young to go to the bar. I was never asked for my ID. The other story is about a mother and daughter. They were co-workers of mine at a local factory. One day when we got of work we went to the bar for a couple of drinks. The mother was asked for ID. You should have seen the look on the bartender's face when she introduced the other young lady as her daughter. But, that look was nothing compared to the look of embarassment when they both verified by their IDs that what he said was a fact. Ages can be very decieving
28 Jun 07
he he,the bartender will probably never forget that day in his lifetime:)but in their kind of jobs,I guess they always have to be on the safe side.My younger sister always looked older than me and she was always telling me not to come in front of her friends because they would tease her that I was the younger oneLOL
• United States
28 Jun 07
I would not have mined at all. for one the world is not a safe place to be in. I would have thought of all the people who have been in the news lately. Had there been more of this going on. Maybe some people would still be alive. I would not have gone to get a manager. I would have either paid for it and held it Or gone to another store that did not care. I was refused liquorr at the liquorr store. I went home and got my id and came back. The manager and I laughed over 30 minutes. He still did not believe my age. I was very happy he held the store open till I returned with my id. I would not have shown the picture on the cell phone either. There are 14 year old with kids that age. What good would that have done. Lastly I would go home and thank my stars I still looked good and young. Ps. I had to spell the word wrong or it would not have gone through..
28 Jun 07
Atleast the manager waited for you.hmm,you are right though,shwoing the pictures would have done no good.but yes,as you say,I am glad I got such a flattering comment today:)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I actually had many thoughts I as read your post. First, people always think I am younger than I am (I'm 34), so I probably wouldn't be surprised if someone asks for ID. I may have been a little surprised if it was for knives though. I always have my license with me, so I just would have pulled that out. I also thought "better safe than sorry". Society today has driven us to be overly cautious in some situations. I would have been more upset about the inconvenience of having to go back to the store to pick them up later. Now, if the cashier got rude about it, that is another thing. I would seek out a manager in that case.
28 Jun 07
Actually whenever I go shopping it is always either with my daughter or with my husband so nobody really asks for my identity.But yes,I think I will have to carry some form of identity when I go shopping alone.but ofcourse,the girl was very sweet ans smiling,and so was her supervisor.so I had no reason to talk to another manager-he/she would probably have said the same thing.
@thefuture (1750)
• Nigeria
1 Jul 07
No friend. I have never anything like that. I can't imagine them seeing a person of 32 and taking him/her to be under 21. Thanks
• Netherlands
1 Jul 07
Well nageswari75, think about it as a compliment....hehehe. It happens to me all the time, people questioning about my age. That's why I always carry my ID with me just for fun. Some candy store even give me lollies because they think I'm just a teenager buying candies with her little sister (my daughter by the way), I even got discount for train ticket....hehehe. In this age case, I don't mind people underestimate me than overestimate. When I'm in you situation, I'll come back with my ID instead of arguing trying to convince the store manager about my age. Because the store nowadays more and more strict for young people to buy things that might consider dangerous nor allow for teenager to buy. We won't use that block knife for hurt other people but when it comes to the wrong hands that they afraid about. So....just take it easy and it's better to look young so we don't need to search for fountain of youth.....
• Kottayam, India
30 Jun 07
Times have changed, people lost faith because of so many problems around us. I heard they unearthed arms in Theni & In Assam people having bicycles are checked what a world we live in ?
@GardenGerty (105385)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Stores and such have to protect themselves anymore, and if the cashier thought you looked young, and did not know you from the neighborhood, she had to ask. Same with paint with aerosol propellants. I think if you had argued they would have doubted you even more. A picture of you and your daughter would not have worked, sixteen year olds have babies. I, on the other hand, unexpectedly got a senior discount at Pizza Hut last week. I am not sure that I am flattered, but it saved me money.
• India
29 Jun 07
Anyway your topic attracted so much of responses, do it was not a bad deed by the shopkeeper.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I am in my forties and have been asked for my ID on numerous of occasions. I have been asked for my ID when I have tried to purchase paint and fuel injection cleaner just to name a few. I have never heard of being ID to buy knives before and I just bought some last night. I always carry my ID on me but if I didn't happen to have it on me then I would just come back later to pick up the item or I would go to another store.
• United States
29 Jun 07
I did not realize that you could get carded for buying kitchen knives, but I know that you have to be 21 to buy hunting knives. I think that most of this comes from the world we live in now, and how unsafe it is. I am sorry that this happened to you, but I always carry my ID with me, because like other people have said on here, you never know what you will be carded for next. It does make it an inconvenience, though, but it is better to be safe. There are all kinds of horrible killings going on in the world, teens killing their parents, parents killing their children, and all that, so I can kind of see why they do it as a precaution.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I've been carded before but only due to laws..I actually get a kick out of being carded in restaurants especially when I have my kids with me who are 13.5 and 12 yrs old LOL but no I've never been carded like you were.....Admittedly its a good policy and a compliment really but at the same time it had to have been frustrating for you...I mean I could see if you were lets say 22-23 but you said you are 32 and dont look under 21 by any means so I would definately be ticked off..I would also want to know why there isnt a sign posted letting ppl knwo this is their policy so as to save aggrevation to their customers.....
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
actually not in a store but in a movie house. this happened sometime in my college days with my boyfriend ( now my husband). we were going to watch a rated 18 movie and they didn't let us in until we show them our school ID that proves that we are already 20, and my boyfriend is 22.. anyway, i was not offended, but it's a compliment for me.. we look younger on our age... hehehe...
@zaccheo (74)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
now, if isnt that an inderect compliment i should have been fuming on the injustice but... *laughs* my own story is that when i was in college, me and my friends decided to watch some violent movie that is PG-18 (rated nc-17 in other countries...?) and the cinema guard suddenly blocked our way and pointed at the poster that says no under 18 is allowed. so no high schoolers. my friends go WTF! and laughed/snorted then they demanded me to get my univ.ID out and even told the guard to call our advisory professor if he wanted proof. then a friend pointed out that im wearing the same 'college' uniform that they are wearing and if it isnt obvious. so, to save face, the guard clamped his mouth shut and let us in *snickers* maybe its also because of my height ^^;
@aissha (2036)
• India
29 Jun 07
thats cool at 32 you look 21 ,commendable ya. but they didn't sell u knife because thats not so cool. i look less than my age but surely not this young.
@sacrg793 (429)
• China
29 Jun 07
i don't know this would happen to you and i've never experienced such kind of things before and i think the cahier acted in a responsible manner so just don't blame him too much. hehe
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Lol. Personally, I would be flattered if someone told me I didn't look like I was 21. It has been a really long time since that happened to me. I can imagine what you went through at the store. I worked for a brief time at an art supply store and we could not sell any of our aerosal can supplies to anyone under 18 (teenagers were sniffing them to get high and a law was passed to prevent selling to minors). We would get some very shocked responses whenever we had to ask for an ID to sell art supplies.