My son didn't come home last night.

I stayed out all night without letting my parents know when I was only 16. I just stayed at a friends house and could see no problem with it. There were no cell phones in those days and I didn't like to ask my friend's mother if I could use theirs and they didn't seem to worry about it either. My parents were frantic when I got home the next day, but they did forgive me eventually. I always let them know from then on if I wasn't coming home - but sometimes they ordered me home.. :-0

hes probly with a girl

Sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him that he needs to let you know where he is. Have a calender telling you when he is going out or something. Tell him to answer his phone. If it would be my kid I would worry like you. I think he is wanting to be free. Tell him if it keeps up to go look for another place to stay.

Your son probably thinks that being 19, he's old enough to have some freedom. You know how grown up teenagers are. They want the freedom to do things on their own without being dictated to, so I guess you need to give him some space to exercise certain amount of freedom. But freedom also comes with responsibility, and I feel if he is going to be out overnight, he should at least tell someone at home about this. I think that's the responsible thing to do. It is just a phone call away, and that should be hard to do. What if something happened to him, and no one can tell where he's supposed to be? Also, what if there is an emergency at home, and he cannot be contacted because he's keeping silence about his whereabouts by not answering calls? Anything unplanned can happen in reality. Even we adults act responsibly to inform someone at home if we should be away from home for prolonged periods, so that others at home will not worry about us. At least I do, and I feel that's a considerate thing to do.

time to tell him it does not matter how old he gets as lond is he is at home he is not a adult and need to obey your rule. tell him it called respect

Hello TheCatz :) You sound just like my mum back in the dayz:)I think you need not worry. You should however ask him to give at least a call or even an sms when he is staying out for a day. That will keep you from worrying:)

i am not a mum yet but i totally agree with you... your son should have phoned you and let you know where he is... and you are right that as long as your son lives under your roof, he must abides with your rule... even though he is 19, but still it is not right for him to do that to you...

Well I sure hope he got home by now!LOL I was guilty of that many of times. I think the kids today have it made by having a cell phone.LOL

Are there any friends of his that you can call? If so I would call them and ask if they've seen him and you are worried because he didn't come home all night. He should call and let you know he's safe. If it embarrasses him, good! Maybe that will teach him to call you and abide by your rules.

My son went threw this at 18. He would go out and not answer his cell phone. I would worry all night and then he would show up and get upset that I was mad that he didn't call. Talk to your son. Tell him that if he isn't going to come home he at least has to show some respect for your feelings and call you or else he will have to live somewhere else. My son chose to live somewhere else and one month later he was home. Now he lives here and respects our rules.

Well you should tell him about how worried you are that he dosnt come home and you should warn him if he does it again then you should ground him if he doesnt call you or something you should have to worry like that and a good punishment might be is take away is phone because if he never uses it whats the point I know my mother did that to me a few years ago and it worked lol.

I am so sorry to hear that your son was out overnight without calling you to let you know if he was ok or not. Maybe he was with his friends at a pub or a disco hall or at a net bar to surf online. I hope that he was ok and will never stay outside overnight again without letting you know about it and keeping you worried. Anyway he is an adult now. He should know how to protect himself away from home. Be blessed, friend.

Do not worry at all, this are commong signs of growing kids, he needs a lot of your attention and care, You must need to sit with him and have a cool discussion with him he might be facing some problem So you need to talk to him, Do not make strict rules for growing kids and your son at the age of 19 must need some freedom at home and in the society, think it twice and I forcing you to have talk with him

im 19 and i dont make it home till 3 am sometimes i am a chronic partyier and live in the fast lane. i do however agree with you if he already knew what the deal was he should have let you know. on the other hand im spoiled and have been since day 1 and i can probally get away with as the saying goes "murder" i feel bad about how i act but my mom loves me and knows that i will make the right decisions. my mom lets me do whatever i want and i feel it has given me a real understanding of right and wrong and the differecne between wants and needs. you might disagree with me but your only 19 once and we only get one shot at life and never know when it might be over so live it to the max. again i would need more info to judge the situaition seeing as i am biased but as long as he does what needs to be done let him live a little. my quote that i live by is this "keep it real,keep it real safe"-CZheck

Well one thing is for sure when he gets home you need to show him who's boss. If he thinks he's an adult then treat him like one. Make him pay rent, wash his own laundry, do you pay his cell phone bill? Let him pay, no, make him pay his own bill or no more cell phone. Doesn't his father, your husband tell him anything? Well another thing is for sure at least it'll come back at him for pay back.

yeah its true..i was then told by my mom also..but the thing was i was precisely a good girl when im still single...but my son is good boy too but sometimes do that stuff like your son...as mother all we can do is pray i guess for their safety while outside and during the night...its the strongest weapon we could have ...

When I was at your son age, I do stay out late and totally forget to call home. I think hard for a reason to tell my mom, usually I told her I am unable to find a public phone, public phone is spoilt. She is very upset rather than angry. I can see that from her eyes. Till one day, when there is only 2 of us in front of the TV (normally, my brothers are around), she told me that regardless how old am I even to an age of 50 years old..... I am still her child. And, she will continue worrying about me as long as I am not with her. So, no matter what time is it, I have to call her to assure her that I am fine. Till today, she is in Singapore and I am in US, I make a point regardless how busy am I, I call her at least once a week. Let him know that you care and worry for him.

if you can reach him and let him know how worried you were..maybe this would have an effect..a son can be very stubborn and muleheaded..so can a daughter.. just try to reach him without kicking him out.. if he is 19 and probably out of school..he should be working or going to school..we were not allowed to not work and if we did not work we had better be going to school..do what you want with your son..but to get respect..you have to stand up to him and let him know that you are not running a hotel for him. he either obeys your rules or take the consequences. This is called TOUGH LOVEbut do so with wisdom..get some guidance from people who have the answers..chidren have to be taught..that is how we learned..and i was no angel either..but i did have respect for my parents home.. if i would have talked back to my mum in front of my father..(and he was a gentle man() I would have not heard the end of it..we five kids all knew the rules..my brother was a very tough guy..but he knew never to talk back to my mother and we all loved her with her cranky ness..lol

rules rules rules... endless of rules. that is why kids rebel to parents. i did the same. As if parents don't trust their children. Best way to handle is... talk to your son about your concerns-- his safety, your worries. NOT YOUR RULES! It would only make the situation worst.

HI, i experienced that too. Basically im a good son before...its a natural feeling of a mother to be worried about his son but the way you describe your son that he is good so you should not be worry about, just trust him and ask for the guidance of the lord. :)