Missing my husband...

United States
July 11, 2007 10:22pm CST
My husband is active duty Army and let me tell you, being an army wife really isn't that easy of a thing. That is a whole other discussion topic, however. He was deployed to war last year, so I spent lots of time without him then. He gets back and has to spend a week picking up equipment from the port, another week retriving more equipment in another state, long shifts where he gets home often late from work, lots of night shifts when I am there taking him dinner at the hanger and now he is in the field for training. This has to be the hardest. He's ten minutes away basically, on the post, but he can't come home because he has to pratice war like conditions. So instead of coming home to his nice comfy bed and be with his wife and dogs, he has to sleep on a cot in the middle of summer in the TEXAS HEAT. But it's hard right now because I can go to post anytime and see him normally and now this time I can't. He's so close yet so faraway. It's frustrating. I can almost reach out and touch him but I can't. Unlike the other times he went to get equipment, he's not supposed to use his cell phone. He snuck away last night to call me. We're a very close couple and it's odd not to be able to talk to him at least once a day. Now, it's almost 10:30 pm at night and I haven't heard from him in over 24 hours and it's actually hurting my heart right now. I know it could be worse and we have been thru worse, but it's almost like he's at war again and I guess that another thing that is making it hard. Plus...when he gets back from field training, the Army is sending him to the national training center, across the country in California. Three days after my birthday they are sending him and he will be gone for another 28 days. I'm really fed up right now with having to give up my husband for periods of time. The army has made sure we spent enough time apart due to war and now they are making us spend more time apart because of training. And I do understand the point of training, but my husband and all his fellow soldiers work long hard, hours at work anyway. They already spend enough time away from family and loved ones, not only due to war but normal work schedule. When do we finally say enough is enough and let them have family time? Personal time? But I guess the saying about the military, that if they wanted you to have a wife they would have issued you one is true. God and Country first, Army and fellow troops seemingly second and everything else last. That is not neccessarily true but it does feel like it sometimes. It's just hard right now and I'm a bit heartsick at the moment. I miss my husband!
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Im sorry you are going thru this. These men are sacrificing everything for their country and I'm not really in agreement that it is the right thing to do. Families get torn apart, babies don't know their daddys ...sometimes the damage is permanent. Do you see any of the men that are really pushing this war actually fighting it? Bush wimped out in vietnam and now he is justifying a very questionable war at the expense of thousands of live?? lets pray someone gets elected that will get our troops home safely. If Bush had his way, we'd be over there indefinitly staying the course!
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• United States
12 Jul 07
I see a whole side of the war that most Americans don't see because I'm a military spouse. I support the troops fully. We have many friends that are currently deployed. But you're right, I see how it has been tearing apart families and I know soldiers who didn't get to hold their babies until several months after they were born. It's terrible and then the soldiers come back home and have similar things to deal with. It just frustrates me to no end and honestly, the military doesn't encourage wives to have strong voices either, which is something I have already gotten in trouble for!
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• United States
12 Jul 07
As the saying goes "freedom is not free". Many pay the price and it's not just the troops but all the families and loved ones too.
• United States
12 Jul 07
I do know how you feel. But such is the military life. Mine is also not home right now. He's away at training. What sucks tonight is we had a big storm and lost power for 2 hours. I was alone in the dark with a child and a scared dog. And our stupid home security kept acting up as a result of the power loss. There are good days and there will definitely be bad days. But just hang in there. He will be home soon.
• United States
12 Jul 07
I am sorry to hear that. I know how you feel and what you're going thru. I am always here if you want to vent or need a friend! One night when my husband was away, I was sure someone was in the backyard and I had to call the cops to check the house because he wasn't here. It's a hard situation. I will be thinking of your husband and hope he comes home soon to you! Take care and keep your chin up.
@musicman6 (2370)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Just try to bear with them sweetie, I know it's hard to take, and I know how the military is, and right now, just be thankful, he is at least here in the states! Just pray to God, that these troubled times will one day pass, and you will look back,and be thankful that you made it through! You have our shoulders here on this website, if you need to find comfort, we will help you all we can, and I speak for me, and the few friends that I have!
• United States
12 Jul 07
Oh! That is so kind and I really appreciate it. I am grateful for all my friends because they have gotten me thru so much. I also am glad I found this site- it's an online place to vent my brain clutter. Thank you! Thank you!
@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
Well, its just that your husband is so dedicated to have spent a lot of time to serve for the whole humanity rather than his family. Yes, its a matter of sacrifie and i know their wives been into lots of worries and of course the feeling of missing. But sometimes you must realize that God is always right there and His will should always be done. It's that whatever the hardships that a man encounters in his daily life, there is that miracle that flows down that he himself can't believe he had gone against it. And sometimes, we end up expecting the unexpected and be ready for whatever discretion God has thru our own faith. Lastly, i would rather say that it is always most likely to think of any possibilities, good or bad, but don't necessarily stick to it. And remember that, prayer can move mountains. We are here to serve all humans and not our ownselves alone. Keep the faith.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Hi Mrsflygirl! I just want to thank you and your husband for fighting for our country first of all. It takes special people to make those sort of sacrifices. My husband was in the military but it was before we got married. I can't imagine how hard it must be to deal with the separation and the conditions he is going through. I hope that they are all able to come home soon to their families and loved ones.