Should mothers interfere in their children's married lives...?

Quite frankly, It would have to be a major disagreement before I would interfer in my married childrens lives, I wouldn't want them to tell me to butt out, I would think they would know what they want otherwise they wouldn't have gone into a marriage that may not work, I dont really know, Ive got a partner and my mum doesn't interfer, yet I know she is always there for me and I know my partners mum is always there too, she don't interfer in our quarrels, but a mum will always be a mum and do whats right by herself and her family.

I have two married daughters and one separated son. One of my daughters lived with her husband and inlaws for a long time. I was not in favor of that but I could not say anything. I really have seen things that I dont like but I can not say anything. They dont listen anyway. Years later they may realize what I tried to say. Sometimes I try to gently enter an issue and suggest something. Then again I sometimes have to use our unmarried daughter to find out what is going on. I tried one time to suggest to my oldest daughter that she take it easy on her oldest kid. The daughter was 11 going on 21. But it did no good. I sometimes feel for the now almost 12 year old who is really smarter than her mother. But, like I told her mother once -Pay Back Time. Now you know what I went thru.

My daughter is only 14 years, so I hope to be a good way from this issue. However, I can relate to my mother when I married ( I still am married). To be honest, although my mother mostly meant well, I found it interfering, when she offered some of her advice. It was more that she would express disapproval. More often, my mother would do things I had not asked her to do, so that I would feel "obliged" to her. I know this sounds mean, but it really got to me in previous years.

I feel giving a helping hand in the time of need for both the couple is fine. But too much of guidance is also annoying at times, moreso when in law is not in good term with daughter inlaw or son in law.

I think they are just concern of what will happen to their child. For me they should not interfere but to guide their child for being a new parent. Their child needs love and protection sitill, but they will just interfere when the problem have drawn the line, or their is an incident of physical abuse inside. But in times of misunderstanding of the child in their marriage, they just have to listen and advice their child whenever they lean on them because there are not part of the marriage or in that relationship.

It is my job to stay out of my kid's married lives and, especially not kill any of the girl's husbands or boyfriends which takes a lot of willpower. (My son keeps his romantic life to himself so I don't think I will need to kill anybody there.) When they ask for help, I try to help. My mother-in-law was a major problem in my marriage but that was my husband's doing. He called her five times a day and had her over at least three times a week, which made it very challenging for me to be a wife or a mother!

No a mother should not interfer with their childrens'married life,but it it is to give advice yes or to guide yes because that is what parents are here for a mother can give that child advice rather or not the child takes it to heart is up to the child and as far as guilding them I would had hoped that while they were growing up their parents we both loving and understanding with each other so the child would be able to get married and looked back on the parents and how great their marriage was and remember that every thing does not come with an instuction manuel

I have always tried to do my best to stay out of the personal aspects of my adult children's private lives. However, I will give advice when it is asked of me. That is a parent's responsibility. I've always labored under the impression that you don't stop being a parent just because your children reach adulthood. Ther are still going to be plenty of times when they will still need you.

I've always believed that there's a certain time in our parenting where in we should have taught our children good values already, and when they decide to settle down we should just let them apply what we have instilled. Mothers who kept meddling with their children's marriage are those I believe have not had enough time to be with their kids really. Because they continue teaching them still even if they are already grandparents. Give each one a chance of a family when ours is over. Mothers let your kids play their role, so back off!! lolz

As a mother, she should not interfere in their children's married lives.When their children are married,they are having their own life which differ from their parents'.As a good mother,she should respect their children's lives

In a way yes, I have to advice my daughter. In fact before her/his marriage I will be telling him/her some points in life so their lives will be okey. But if there are some disagreements between the two I will not interfere if not asked. They have their own lives to live. I am just in the background just in case.

If the child asks for help or advise, the mother can give them. But interference is really not proper, unless the child is already in deep trouble because of the spouse. I think a parent should always respect the decision of their child when they chose to be married.

Did the son... the child of the mother... marry their mother or their wife? If I marry someone, am I going to marry my mother, or my wife? My wife. Not my mother. So, no mothers should not interfere with their children once they are married.

mothers are considered to be the light of the home but in regards to interfering the marriage of their children is a different story. If the married son /daughter is having problem with the new family then I would say that's the time the mother will interfere but before doing so, a consent from the daughter/son should be ask. An advice should be given and letting them understand that when all else fail still a mother will be there to comfort.

See this is basically both side traffic. Too much interference from parents can cause a problem only when the children are not mature enough and the children are not mature enough if the parents don’t give them adequate liberty in their growing years. By adequate liberty I mean that parents should allow their children to make mistakes and learn from them. Parents should act as support to their children in times of need but never try to make decisions on their children’s behalf. Children on the other hand, should believe more in their spouse than their parents. Many married people turn to their parents for advice instead of sharing the problem with the spouse and this causes friction in relations. Also we kind of feel bad to be rude to our parents and ask them to just shut up. So the best I think would be tell your parents only that much which has no link with something related to both the spouses. Whenever it is something that both of you should solve, never bring parents into it.

I would not interfere with my daughters marriage..She is an adult and I respect her ways. If she asks me for advice then I would be glad to help. I don't want anyone doing this to me so I would not do it to my daughter.

Now I am not a mother or have kids. But if I would be a father I would stay out of my kids married life, unless they want my help, but unless they ask I will have nothing to do with it in that way.

Guidance is good and best when led by example. Interference and unasked for or unwanted advice is not good from anyone. It's a matter of having clear boundaries, I think, and knowing how one will handle the situation when it occurs, either with a quick one-liner, changing the subject, leaving, some way of establishing and maintaining boundaries without animosity. I know some people who have learned the hard way not to complain to their parents about problems with spouses because that really activates the parental instincts in a mother or father to protect their child.

yeah, in a way, mothers can still interfere with their children's married life as long as it has its own limitations.. i mean, mothers are still mothers after all.. they are there to guide their children in every way possible.. but this guiding thing shouldn't be exaggerated that the children will be irritated and feel that they dont have their privacies with their lives.. mothers knows best..

As hard as it is, to watch your children sometimes pick and be with people you do not approve of, you must let them make their own mistakes. They are grown up, you can only hope you gave them enough sense to pick good people. I do not interfere ever in my children Marriages. It is hard sometimes, but the way it should be.