my friend just found out she's two months pregnant!

Singapore
August 1, 2007 3:18am CST
a friend of mine just went to the gynae and found out she's two months pregnant! she's happy but at the same time quite shocked! i think she and her husband hadn't counted on being parents quite so soon after marriage! and they could hear the baby's heartbeat already. So i guess they are first of all stunned, and second of all happy. i was thinking of telling her, well you've got 7 more months to get used to the idea of becoming a mum. Sometimes i think that's why we get 9 months of pregnancy. after the 9 months one gets used to the idea of having a child and is more 'ready' than if the child pops out after 2 months! then it'd really be a shock! What do you think? 9 months is a good adjustment period to get one 'ready' for parenthood? or is your opinion that one is never 'ready' for parenthood and parents just have to learn to cope as they go along?
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@madzie09 (279)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
hmmm...I thought about what you've said that 9 months is long enough to prepare being a parent..guess your right about it..It's long enough for an adjustment and also to learn about being a parent.. :)
• Singapore
13 Aug 07
yeah, some probably need to ease into the role.
@ahgong (10088)
• Singapore
7 Aug 07
First of all, send my congrats to your friend! It is indeed good news to hear that they are gonna have a child. 9 months. I guess that is nature's way of letting us prepare mentally for the long road ahead when the child is brought into this world. 9 months is a good amount of time for one to be mentally prepared IMHO. I guess we can never really be prepared to be parents. It is always coping and adjusting and adapting along the way when the child is growing. With kids getting more and more intelligent these days, there is no telling what they are gonna be up to exactly. We can only hope to impart the parenting skills we observed when we were kids and cross our fingers that they will turn out alrite, i guess. Again. Send my congrats to your friend.
• Singapore
13 Aug 07
thanks! guess all of us need all the skills we can learn.
@itkasp (266)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
I think 9 months is only enough to get used to the idea of becoming a parent. But you never really ready to become a parent. I found that having a child is completely a change of life. It changes your view and your priority of life. Congratulation to your friend!
• Singapore
13 Aug 07
thanks! kids are a real big thing...
• United States
2 Aug 07
some people are born to be parent and others have a learning curve. Once the baby arrives it changes everything. They will realize that they brought this living thing into the world.
• Singapore
13 Aug 07
yup priorities totally shift.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
1 Aug 07
My wife and I were together for 6 years before we got married. After being together for about 4 years we decided we wanted to have kids. We discussed this at length deciding we'd ;like one boy and one girl. But just two either way. We tried for years to concieve but to no avail. We both had many tests done finding out there was nothing wrong with us. We were told it could be stress. So we basically gave up trying to have kids. Well not the act of it but the thoughs of it. HAHAHA! Before we knew it she became pregnant. And alll told we were lucky as that we had a girl first then less than 2 years later we had the boy. So she got her tubes tied. Now the children are full grown. OParneting is a lernded skill I feel. We learn from the way we were raised so I feel there is no real time frame to "get" ready for parenthood. Good luck and grats to your friend as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Singapore
2 Aug 07
thanks for sharing so much grandpa bob - and now you're all ready and enjoying grandparenthood. You're so right abt parenting being a skill that learned along the way, not something any amt of preparation can give! cheerio!
@foxyfire33 (10021)
• United States
1 Aug 07
There is never "enough" time to get ready and just when you think you have it figured out you realize you've entered a totally new phase that you know nothing about! But 9 months (or 8 or 7 1/2, considering most people don't know they're pregnant immediately after conception) is a decent enough amount of time to realize that you have a lot to learn and prepare for learning it anyway. I remember going in for my first ultrasound with my youngest daughter. I had everything figured out and was quite confident that I was 9 weeks along. I was showing a little more than expected but since it was my third child I didn't think that was unusual. It turned out that I was 17 weeks! I won't explain how that happened but let me tell you it was quite a shock! I suddenly lost a whole 8 weeks of preparing. I went in there thinking I'd just see a heartbeat and make sure "it" was alright, I walked out of there knowing that "she" was perfectly formed and beautiful (at least as beautiful as an ultrasound picture will show) And then she came a week early. When I first thought I was expecting I thought I would have a baby in the beginning of October instead today is her 7th birthday. My sixth baby is 8 1/2 months old and I still don't pretend to be prepared for any of it. Sure I basically know what I'm doing but every baby is different and will do things differently than any other baby.
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• Singapore
13 Aug 07
thanks for sharing... yup it's the shock that does you in. my friend thought she was one month preggers but turns out she was two! yours was double the time you expected too yah? congrats on being so brave and being mummy to 6 kids! that's a real accomplishment.
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
1 Aug 07
Its never enough, its a lifelong adjustment period when the baby comes out. Each stage is a glory after the other, as the baby grows there are mysteries that uncover and they will have to prepare themselves for the best. There is so much joy in new life and they should face it with excitment and anticipation.
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• Singapore
13 Aug 07
yup, I haven't met them recently but think they must be still mentally adjusting.