Thoughts about "The Secret"

United States
August 6, 2007 1:37am CST
I have been studying the Law of Attraction for the past 4 years and while I find it intriguing, I also have many doubts about the process, especially the way it is presented in "The Secret". For example, if you cause or "attract" everything that happens in your life, how does that explain things like 9/11, the holocaust, a tragedy that happens to you in childhood? I think many things are far beyond what any one individual "manifested" or attracted into their life. Also, in the film and in many books I've read, they suggest that you have to believe the Universe will deliver (which is pretty hard if that has not been your past experience) but if you have one negative thought, then it won't happen. That seems very imbalanced to me... And, it seems a bit of a stretch to call this a "law", when it is far too complex and subjective to actually prove, such as the "law" of gravity. I do think there are aspects of the process that have validity, but I think "the Secret" and most LOA books oversimplify things. I would enjoy hearing other's thoughts on this...
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Aug 07
I saw a little bit of "The Secret" and I do believe in how you can attract the positive in your life and the negative for that fact but I think it has to do with your own journey and not to be able to control what the already negative people do in this world, we are all given choices unfortunately some choices that some people make affect others, life is not meant to be this way but if these sad people do these things well it is a failure in mankind and no-one to blame but those rotten people them-selves.
• United States
6 Aug 07
Yes, I agree that other's choices can affect us. And in those situations I don't believe that we necessarily "attracted" that into our lives. Some of it is so far-reaching and that is one of the issues I have with the premise of the Secret. That does not mean there are many ways we can positively affect our own lives, I just believe the "Universe" is far more complex than the Secret portrays it to be.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Aug 07
Yes you are probably right afer all the Universe is mega we are all just little specs in that Universe...
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
6 Aug 07
All I know is that when I was looking for a job with a negative attitude, nothing I did to get a job worked. After reading the secret, I decided to look with a positive attitude, and I got a job. It's the difference between seeing ways to open doors and the doors closed before you even try. My current job, I had nothing to put in a resumé, so I improvised. That improvisation would have never happened without an open mind. I would have just thought,"I've never done this kind of job before, I can't put anything in a resumé." I either wouldn't have tried or I would have submitted the same resumé I submit for some other job. That wouldn't have gotten me a job. Instead, I thought, "I can do this job, I love animals and I can talk to people." Some people enjoy making other people's lives miserable or have evil intent. They do not seem to be accounted for in the book. The book isn't about evil, it's about attracting good. It's about having a positive attitude. Dealing with evil would be another book. No, I can't "prove" it as a law, but when you smile and are relaxed, you can think a lot better than when you think you're already defeated. That I know for a fact in my own life. Yes, it's an over-simplification, but sometimes, we as humans complicate things. My Father used to say, "Do something, even if it's wrong!" Oversimplification? Yes, did it get me to get out of my rut and get moving again? Yes. Basically, that's the type of book it is. Hope for those without hope. Encouragement for those who need it. You have several good points. You're an interesting writer with an interesting topic. I hope to hear more from you at MyLots.
• United States
6 Aug 07
My background is in Clinical Psychology and I used cognitive techniques with many of my clients and patients. Changing your thoughts about how you approach something absolutely will affect the outcome, just as it did in your situation. But the Secret really isn't about "positive thinking" which is what many seem to believe. Rather it (and other LOA "gurus") emphasize our feelings (and thoughts affect our feelings which affect our actions...no argument there), but where I tend to question their premise is in saying it is our "vibrational energy" (based on our feelings...the ones we give the most energy) that attracts things with similar "vibrational energy". Perhaps...but I don't think it is quite as magical as they make it. By changing your thinking about finding a job, your actions changed, and that changed your outcome. That's been a basic premise of cognitive psychology for decades.
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@patgalca (14309)
• Orangeville, Ontario
6 Aug 07
I agree with both you Colorado as well as writersedge. I have the DVD "The Secret", and saw the episodes of Oprah. They do make it sound like something magical and if that something is going to happen I know it cannot happen overnight. My own experience of enlightenment upon watching The Secret is that the reason I could not find a job was because I really DO NOT WANT A JOB. Plain and simple. As hard as I tried to get a job, I just wasn't good enough. I have 15 years of secretarial experience. There is no reason why I would not be a good hire. I understand they refer to "The Universe" so as not to offend people's beliefs. As a Christian I believe in God. I BELIEVE God wants me here at home with my children. I BELIEVE He wants me to write and publish the novels I am writing. So, with The Secret in mind, I had someone do a mock-up of the cover of my current novel that I am editing. It is hanging over my desk. I figure it would urge me on to getting the job done. Has it? Well, it sure looks nice seeing my name underneath the title of my story and pictures of my characters and the location the story takes place, but has it spurred me on to finish this 6th edit? Some days yes, most days no. I do believe that I have had a lot of negativity in my mind, a result of the life I have lived no doubt. How do I turn it around? How can I change my attitude like that *snap*? It's impossible. I am the person that I am and find it hard to change that. I even asked my doctor about it. She suggested hypnosis. Perhaps I should sleep next to the TV with the DVD playing every night until I am hypnotized by its magic powers. I don't know. I just have to try and believe in God and His plans for me... and do what I have to do.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
7 Aug 07
One thing that works is keeping a journal of all the things that you are grateful for. By accentuating the positive, it puts you in a positive frame of mind. I do this almost every day first thing in the morning and it sets the tone for the day. Also, maybe the reason why you aren't getting a job is not because you don't want to work, but that you don't want to be a secretary any more. I changed careers after reading The Secret. It's a scary thing, but taking chances is the only way you won't have any regrets at the end of the day.
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
6 Aug 07
I've read The Secret and the most important thing I took away from it is to simply change the way I think. It's natural to have negative thoughts and you can't stop that from happening, but putting more energy into positive thoughts will attract more positive energy. The book lacks information on how to act on the law of attraction, more than anything else. A person just can't have positive thoughts and expect change, positive actions have to follow positive thoughts so many things have to fall into place in order to have a change for the better. One thing I do though that I got from The Secret is to keep a gratitude journal. I write in it as much as I can and I write about what I'm grateful for. That alone was worth the price of the book as I no longer focus on what I don't have, but rather what I have in my life.
• United States
12 Oct 07
I am in the process of reading this book, and I have found it to be inspiring. I see your point of view about all the bad stuff that happens and it makes you wonder, but I didn't take the entire book that seriously, It inspired me to be a more positive person and to try and push the negativity away and out of my life and although I haven't recieved much out of the whole thing, I feel better about myself and I am happier with myself now that I am learning to be more positive.
@MAX1966 (1030)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 07
I've read, they suggest that you have to believe the Universe will deliver (which is pretty hard if that has not been your past experience that is a bit my problem too but on the other hand,some things are very true
• United States
4 Sep 07
I, too, have seen the movie several times because it fascinated me so much, after I saw it the first time. I couldn't figure out at first, why I was so addicted to seeing it, over and over again. Now, I think that maybe something in it, just rang "true" to me. It was like I suddenly thought, "That's it!" There are lots of things that we don't know anything about, yet. Things that are technical, are being discovered all the time, but the mind and the world around us, is still a mystery. I could say that some of the things in the movie are completely unrealistic, but I'm sure that people thought that the Earth being round instead of flat, was unrealistic in their time, too. I've always had an open mind about things that are mysterious. There is no way that I can say that something is impossible. Personally, I think that everything is possible. Just because we can't do it, only means that we don't know how...yet. So, the bottom line (for me) is that I loved the movie, and I've taken action to follow the advice that was in it. I've gone a lot deeper into researching the hows and whys of the Law of Attraction, and I think it's just an ongoing process of learning. Someday, we will know the real facts behind "the secret" just as we now know how to build a space craft that sends humans to other worlds. That too, was just a fantasy, only a hundred years ago. Imagination DOES bring about the most fantastic ideas...
• United States
26 Aug 07
Actually, the book doesn't say that if you have one negative thought it won't happen. It says that if negative thought supercedes positive thought, then it can start a chain of negative events. But the idea is to believe that positive thoughts have more power and strength that the negative ones. Is it as simple as "The Secret" puts out there? No. There is more to it. And it's hard to incorporate this stuff into what you already believe. But I've been trying little "tests" and it seems to be working on all of it. Mostly, I think it boosted my confidence and allowed me to move forward. But I also feel like I've been alligned with certain people to make this a possibility.