Are work pressures destroying the family?

Switzerland
August 6, 2007 12:31pm CST
Are working parents who send their toddlers to nursery doing the best for their children or damaging their development? New research suggests that children could benefit from interacting more with their parents at home. The UK's first independent national inquiry into childhood commissioned by The Children's Society claims that 61% of parents don't get enough time to spend with their children whilst almost half of those questioned said that they had to put their career first even if it affected their family life. Do you think work pressures are to blame for an unhappy home life? Can we cut back on our working hours? Do we spend enough time with our children?
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@vinzen (1001)
• India
6 Aug 07
Hi, this is a very good thread that you have picked up and i totally agree with you that parents , just to get to their work and suit their own working hours, prefer to send their kids to play school, right when they are able to walk a little on their own, and i pity those kids who all of a sudden have to face the dilema of sepration from their parents, after all they are so young. And parents need to understand that there is nothing more important than raising your own child in the best possible way, and that is by giving them undivided attention, love and your time. Play and be with them as much as you can, these are their tender, formative eyars, and they need to be with their own parents and know they are cared and loved, rather than being with someone else.
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• Philippines
7 Aug 07
i strongly believe in QUALITY TIME between a parent and a child. and as we all know how hard life is today, that both parents should work to make ends meet. we, parents culd try to set aside a schedule for the quality time in a day. quantity is not the question here, it is the quality of the time that you spend together. it may be short but it could mean a lot to both of you. we could also cut down on the working hours. because we're working for our children not for ourselves primarily. if we lose them then what are working hard for??? i partly believe that work pressure isto blame for unhappy home life. it is a chain reaction. if you go home and bring the work stress, everyone in the house would be affected. i know it is much easier said than done ti leave work at the office, and family trobles at home.
@derek_a (10904)
7 Aug 07
There is no doubt that there are many "latch-key" kids around. They come home from school and both parents are still in work and they are left to their own devices. I got to admit, when I was a kid, I would get into trouble just for the heck of it. It was mostly peer pressure and had my parents been working into the evenings (as many do today), I would have got up to something! My mother was always at home when I came from school - only the odd occasion she was still out, but the door of our house was open so I could get in. We didn't have anything worth stealing - only rich folks had their mansions broken into then. My mother would make me change out of my school clothes before I was allowed out again. In retrospect, I know I needed that discipline and supervision as did most of my friends.
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@nimtdk (24)
• China
7 Aug 07
sorry, my english is not well, so i only say some simply words. I think parents shall share more time with they childern but less in works.
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@1289786 (51)
• United States
6 Aug 07
Whether or not a working parent ruins a child's development, there is always one thing for sure: every child needs a certain amount of love and looking after. This amount of love, I believe, directly correlates to the person that he/she will grow up to be. Work pressure is definately something that is beginning to increase worldwide, but a parent who thinks about his/he work more-so than they do their child might as well just leave that child on the street all day. In some cultures, mothers stay home for a month after they conceive their baby. During this month, they get to bond with their newborn child, play with them, and feed them. I believe that this first month may just the be most influential time with our children during the course of their entire lives! As for spending enough time with our children, it has been proven that the average middle age man works more hours than the average Joe ten years ago. As far as the concern of working too hard goes, I think that people can work as much as they want, as long as they keep their newborn to priority.
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• Malaysia
7 Aug 07
Working parents are basically forced to leave the house and leave the responsibility of caring their children to the nursery. If they don't work, they wouldn't be able to support the living of the family, and that would be a worse situation. So what I suggest is the company should encourage work at home positions for working mothers so that they would be able to work and take care of their kids at the same time. Or maybe the company should provide a child care center within the office itself so the working mothers can go and check their kids anytime during working hours.
• Switzerland
7 Aug 07
Good suggestion you there. I thnk some companies do offer a day care centre within the office. Thank you for your response!
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I think it might and I think it is really up to the family to try to find time to spend together. They all have to work together to make it work big time.
@hari120 (623)
• India
7 Aug 07
IT is very,very important for parents to spend a lot of time with their children, even if it means not going to work, unless they are in dire need of money. children require lot of emotional support from parents, and in turn when they grow up children should take care of their parents in their old age.
@rave700 (247)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
...on average...it does because less time is spent for family bonding hence greater chances of destroying your own family..why? because we became more focus on work...if we want to make the family stronger then there must be more time bonding with them...we should be able to create a close family ties as they have said...because our family is the foundation of our personality...however in some instances like we were able to balance work and family time then it would be better but such instances are very rare since most of the time there are a lot of work pressure, this is also for us to earn for the family...
• Australia
7 Aug 07
I don't exactly work but university study pressure is ruining my social life. I find that as the semester progresses, my social time gets less and less. There are even times when I sleep for about 4 hrs each day due to such a great work load and demand. It's crazy too, as all faculties and all subjects tend to think that there course is more important, and thus they keep giving out large assignments and project and try to cram in as much content as possible. What is worse is that this happens for all subjects so you can never really focus upon one task.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
That is a good research you made there my friend. In my opinion there is really a parenting factor on how a family will end up. Of course our children need time from their parents inorder for them to be given advice on matters they are not clear about. For workaholic parents who just leave thier children huge allowances and let them do their thing, the consequence could be damaging on the life of these children. They need to be guided in all ways, especially when morality is the main concern. Point is parents need to balance their working schedule and the time they spend to their children inorder to maintain a strong and solid family.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
7 Aug 07
This is a hard one. My daughter was probably 50/50 with me at home, or in Child Care. Now age 14 years, she has turned out very well. I would have to say that there are many good child centres in Australia. They oiffer an excellent range of activities that help develop a child, prtobably more so than what many parents do. On the other hand, I do feel that it is good & beneficial for a very young child to spend qualioty tiome with at least one parent. It doesn't matter if it is the Father or Mother. Some oarents though, if they stayed home with a chiold, just sticvk them in front of a TV. They would be better oiff in Child Casre.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
7 Aug 07
It is really hard to say because there are many other factors that also play a part, but I know that I was a stay at home mom when my older children were little and got nothing but compliments on how well behaved my children were. I spent almost all of my time with them, and I think that it was a great benefit to them. My younger children had less time with me because I was forced to work outside of the home. Their behavior was not nearly as good as that of their older siblings. I do think though that other factors in their lives can play an important part. Things such as who is caring for the children when the parents aren't available, how much time the parents spend with the children when they aren't working, the quality of the time that they spend together, the parents relationship with each other, and many other factors can play an important part as well.