What will you do if you caught your partner cheating on you?

brokenhearted - it heurts deeply inside
@JBrulez (663)
Philippines
August 6, 2007 2:59pm CST
What if one day you saw your partner in a restaurant with someone else kissing each other in a passionate manner. That would really break my heart thinking of all the promises and oath he/she made. What would you do if you were in this situation.? Would you break your partner and end the relationship at once? Or would you give him another chance and be silent about the matter and pretend you never saw anything? Share your toughts.
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@Buggheart (445)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Well for starters I'd get a nice big pitcher of ice water. Then I would walk up behind them and pour it over their heads which would be my equivalent of turning the hose on a couple of dogs in the yard. Because first off, it's gross for people to be kissing passionately in public, and second because he'd be cheating on me. So after they realized it was me that poured the water on them, I'd wave a little hello, drive home as fast as possible and pack up all his stuff so it would be waiting for him when he got home. Depending on the time of day, I'd call my lawyer to get the divorce paperwork rolling ASAP. He and I have had this conversation before and cheating is absolutely unacceptable in my book so it would immediately be over.
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
That's a very good idea.haha I'll bring with me a video cam so that I can record every scene. Then i'll post it in the you-tube.LOL We could gain profit as much profit depending on how eye-catching and breath-taking your performance will turn out.LOL.
• United States
7 Aug 07
Ooooh yeah, now that's a great idea. LOL!
• United States
7 Aug 07
OK then I have to slightly change my answer. The first thing I would do is whip out my cell phone and call Jbrulez to get over there and watch. LOL! Then I'd do all that stuff I mentioned earlier :D And probably with more gusto as I'd have someone there who has my back.
• United States
7 Aug 07
I would confront him about it right then and there. I'd embarrass him in front of everyone and tell his date that he can keep him and that he'll do the same thing to her and then I will tell him that Karma is a b*tch and that this is going to come right back to him if not worse. I'll also tell him it's over and to forget about me forever. I would never take him back or want to see or talk to him anymore after that. I do not tolerate cheating and there is NO reason why one should have to.
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
That guy should better be faithful or else he will pay much for cheating on you.(= I do like the way you're gonna handle things. I wish I could be there to see the drama unfolds.lol. But you're right cheating is really a serious sin with relationships like these and it shouldn't be tolerated because it will always come back no matter how sorry they say they are..
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
7 Aug 07
I would be heartbroken of course..But I would at least have to sit down and talk about the situation and why it happened..I would depending on the explaination decide what to do after that..
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Yap that would at least give her the chance to explain the truth of the matter. I find that the fair and just way to deal with such situation. But still I kinda wonder, are there any excuses for what she had done. I mean kissing another guy? I don't know, if shes innocent her excuse must be one of a kind.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Aug 07
I definitely wouldn't say nothing, but I wouldn't immediately declare the relationship over either. I would actually want to talk to my partner and find out what was going on (later of course, not right there). It's possible it could be a one-time mistake, or a situation where my partner wanted to talk to me about things but didn't feel they could. Whether or not I would give that person a second chance would depend on what their reasons were and whether they seemed actually sorry and willing to be faithful in the future.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
You have a point there my friend. It sounds to me like its a fair course of action towards the matter. Anyway thanks for sharing your thoughts.(=
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• United States
20 Sep 07
I'm with you on that one. What if they weren't the ones doing the kissing, I've seen plenty of times where someone came onto them and they basically forced themselves on the other person and that person wanted nothing to do with it. It would hurt seeing that, but you have to talk things out first.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Of course I would definitely end the relationship. I would be sad and hurt but I would just think positive, that she's a worthless b_tch for doing such a thing, and that I'm better off without her. There are many women out there. I would enjoy my new-found freedom and find myself a better woman. It's all in the mind.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Thats the spirit. I like the way your gonna handle the situation. I also agree that there are better things ahead of you and that there is someone out there who deserves you more. I hope I have such attitude too, dealing it saying "its all in the mind".thanks for sharing.
@dvschic (1795)
• United States
7 Aug 07
screw that! i'd walk over, say hi, introduce myself to the other person and then say have a good life, they aren't worthy of my time, and i have better things to do than worry about what they are bringing home (diseases!)
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
That is a descent way to deal with the situation at hand. I kinda like the punchline, it would really struck the person especially if he/she still loves you. But its still cheating and it is a sin. Thanks for sharing.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Its either partner or spouse. But either way, they still deceived you. And your partner lied to you and stabbed you in the back. Don't you think this is a sin. They are not worth your time so don't thik about it.(=
@dvschic (1795)
• United States
7 Aug 07
since when is cheating a sin? u said partner, not spouse... i dont think they are worth much more than what i said but i'm curious bout the sin factor
@hotmale (810)
• Pakistan
7 Aug 07
i hope this doesnt happen to me,anyway if it does,i'll be shattered and certainly my heart will break.i will force myself to leave that person alone for good.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Thanks for the response my friend. I do hope this won't happen to you and I wish happy luvlyf.(=
@palina77 (1177)
• United States
21 Jan 08
i would break it off thats not right
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
7 Aug 07
I have been cheated on and I actually tried to forgive him but in the end I couldnt. everytime we had a disagreement this was brought up again and I could never get over the betrayal... I would have to say that I would now break the relationship, since i could no longer trust him adn it would be very hard to repair the damage!
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
Oh it's really sad to hear how your relationship turned out to be like that. But I can't blame you. I also had a relationship where I was cheated on and still gave her a chance but I was fooled again when I've learned that she repeated her mistakes before so I have no choice but to break-up with her because I completely lost my trust on her. It's up to you how you'll handle your situation, If you really feel that you are not treated fairly anymore then the best thing to do is to end up the realtionship. And as you have said the damage is irrepairable so you just follow what your instinct tells you. Everything happens for a reason so don't worry my friend because I believe that there are better things ahead of you. So cheer up.(=
@sunshinecup (7871)
7 Aug 07
Well first I would knock the snot out of him right where he stood, then I would begin the process of kicking him out and getting a divorce.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
7 Aug 07
I would definitely break up with my partner, if I caught him doing anything remotely like this. Even if I tried to give him another chance, the fear that this would happen again would always be with me.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
You do have a point. Once a person has done a serious sin in a relationship like this there is that tendency that he/she will do it again even though she made promises that it won't be repeated again. I have actually experienced this in one of my relationships back then and it was really a lot more painful the second time she did it.
@nofear07 (48)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
I'll leave her alone. I'd rather end the relationship. So what? If I pretend that I never saw her kissing with someone else then it would be a big stupidness for me. It would be unfair to me because you share and gave maybe part of your life and even trust. Same thing to her. If she caught me kissing other woman then probably she will do the same thing...Right?
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
You have a point there my friend. It is really painful inside and disgusting in the eyes with the mere fact that you caught her kissing with someone else. I don't know about her side if she caught you in the same act, it depends if she loves you that much then she might give you another chance OR she may also dump you and end the relationship just like what you've said.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
22 Sep 07
What would I do? Well take note! First off, if we were living together, all of her stuff would be in a trashcan outside. Second, I'd chain the door and make it so she couldn't return. Third, I might call the cops to say the woman is disturbing me (of course in the growing Empress society this can backfire on me -_-). She can shack up with him, go to a hotel or sleep in the streets for all I care. All and all, its over, period.
• Romania
20 Oct 07
What can i do, there is one thing that can i do.First i would wait her and have a discussion with her, i would ask her why did she done that,than everybody should go his way.Simple.
• Hong Kong
15 Sep 07
If that happened to me, the only thing i can do is to break up with her. I really can't imagine to see my partner kissing others in that way. I might not rush in and disturb their romantic time, but i am sure to show my card when she comes back home. There is not any chance to compromise. I can't stand that kind of cheating because I can't imagine how many times she has cheated me before. Fortunately, that has not happened to me, and I hope it would never happen to me!^_^. Good luck and have a great day!
• Canada
20 Sep 07
I've been married since June of 1979 and have almost 30 years invested in my relationship so if I saw him with another woman, kissing passionately - I would approach him right there at the restaurant and in a normal tone of voice ask him what's going on. I would politely introduce myself to the woman and then invite her to leave so my husband and I can talk about our relationship....it would only be pleasant and civil until we get home, then all hell would break loose!
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Shocked at first because i value trust in relationships. Next would be brace and compose myself as I walk towards them. Then, say hello and ask, what do we have here? Last thing, just walk away bravely as you bid goodbye. There is so much more to explore in this world...
• India
20 Sep 07
Firstly if he is my partner i am sure he cant do that coz i always start any relation on the basis of trust.If i have no trust on that person i cant move on my relationship.Even then if he does this i will never give him a chance,if he can do it once it means he is not right kind of person,coz this is not just mistake which can be forgiven....
• Canada
20 Sep 07
Depends on the situation but most likely id dump them. Obviously I was never real important to them if they are to do that.
• United States
21 Sep 07
I would definately end the relationship! Although it may hurt for a while you'll find someone new and hopefully they will respect you a lot more. I believe once a cheater always a cheater and would never think of getting back with the cheater on a personal level!