How many hours do you work every week in your mom job?

United States
August 15, 2007 5:58pm CST
These days it seems like I barely have ten minutes to sit down during the day, before someone else needs something from me. And, whether it's a sandwich or glass of milk or just another expedition hunt for lost socks and shoes, my mom day is full of movement and activity. And, part of the problem is that as a stay at home mom, I'm on duty 24 hours a day. And, my spouse and child know it! So, unlike a job that has regular hours the mom job is pretty much full time, all the time. From the moment I wake up to the minute I go to sleep, I'm on call for any potential mom tasks that might need to be done, as well as the usual house cleaning, cooking and caring for pets. During any given week, I'd estimate that my work load well exceeds forty hours. So, how many hours do you estimate that you are on call for mom duty, cleaning or cooking during the week? How many hours every day do you work on behalf of your family, either caring or cleaning or cooking while you are at home?
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
16 Aug 07
Oh I remember those days! Yes a stay at home mom or one that works outside of the home rarely manages to find to for things that others often take for granted. I remember taking showers in the middle of the night just to make sure I got one in. A decent nites sleep was a rarity. When the kids were in bed it seemed there was so very much to do that I often stayed up quite late just catching up on things like bills...planning next day etc. Taking care of the homefront and especially when you have little help has got to be one of the hardest jobs. I know that I used to put in well over 40 hours. I still put in quite alot but things have settled down alot for me the last couple of years so i have much more free time.
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I would say the only time I get time off from my mommy job is after my son and husband have gone to bed. I might get the odd minutes here and there throughout the day, but mostly when they both are asleep or busy playing games or something, that is the only time I have off. I would say way more than 40 hours for sure :)
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I’m on mom job every hour that I’m alive- I’m even on mom job when I’m at my day job- there isn’t a day that I would not drop everything and run home or somewhere if she needed it- No matter where I am- I’m mom first- I often spend my lunches running mom errands- Groceries, etc. When we’re home I’m on mom duty all the time- and I love it!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I am on duty 24/7 hours a day! I have a 5 year old and a 19 month old. Now that school has started, I do have those few hours that I will rest. My 19 month old actually will take his naps while my 5 year old is in school. And I always do my house cleaning and my last bit touch ups the night before after the kids are in bed and then throughout the day, I just hang with the kids. My 5 year old pretty much cleans her own messes up, so things have gotten a little easier with the cleaning part. I think the only days I can really sleep in and relax 100% is the days my husband is off work. He actually lets me rest on one of his days off a week and then he will rest the next day. So it work for us, for now. But, I am on call 24 hours a day, even when Daddy is home, because sometimes Daddy doesn't run things right. I will wake up and the house will be a mess. HE doesn't clean. LOL!
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
16 Aug 07
well i get up in the morning, i make sure that everyone is eating (my 2 daughters are 10 & 14), i generally leave with my younger daughter, walk her to a friends then walk to the bus stop for work, i work til 1 (ish) its around 2 when i get home...i spend some time on mylot while eating a quick bite, then i generally do something around the house ie laundry or ironing etc etc...then hubby generally makes supper and my kids do the dishes, but i find there is always other stuff that has to be done around the house, so i generally end up doing that.
@wdiong (1818)
• Singapore
16 Aug 07
I can fully understand what you are saying. Other than aprroximately eight hours of sleep daily and catching up on my reading when the kids are asleep, I'm practically on my feet the whole day long doing household chores and looking after my two kids.
@pinnibabu (135)
16 Aug 07
I totally agree with you. My position is similar to that of yours. My day is also full of movements running around here and there. I leave my daughter to school, go back to fetch her. Also attend to her school work and studies. Inspite of my life being so busy, I get to hear from my near and dear ones asking me "why aren't you working." "why dont you take up some job" I just would not get time for myself. Its been 3 months now, I get some time in the afternoon when my kid is off to school. This is when I log on to the net.
• India
16 Aug 07
Hi friend,till now i haven't face ur situation.If i face i will divide my work accordingly.It is always better to keep go in a particular manner.The best way to go is keeping a good timetable for ourselves and going accordingly.I am still learning.If i have time only i will help my mom otherwise i will take care of myself even they also cooperate with me, they wont say anything.
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
16 Aug 07
I dont think that it ever ends...lol..Usually as soon as I think I have 5 minutes to sit down and relax, as soon as my bum hits that lounge it mum, this, mum that...There is always something that can be done..
• United States
16 Aug 07
Okay, honestly I don't even want to think about that. I'm constantly working for the family as well. Just today I was thinking how I'm ever going to get back at working at the computer and doing my online stuff. I get the kids ready for school, change diapers, feed them, try to play with them at some point, read books, give baths, and put them to bed. Then there's the house, laundry, cleaning, dishes, meals. Lately I've been doing all the mowing, putting produce in the freezer from the garden. Taking the kids to the park. When do I get any MOM time? And not only is doing all these things not enough, but use moms are also the keeper of everyones schedules, the keeper of things; and that means anything, clothes, food, tools, money...need I go on?!? People ask if I'm ready for my oldest to start kindergarten today. I boldly reply "Yes!" I can't wait to have naptime all to myself again. Sometimes I feel I'm being selfish that way, but am I really? I can't wait for MOPS to start so I can have something scheduled for me to do with no little ones around. Please don't make me count the hours...and my husband has said he doesn't think I could handle his 70+ hour per week job. Well, honestly one week a month I would love to try it! Well, sorry, but thanks for the vent...I guess maybe I need a break more than I thought. Thanks for the discussion.
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I would say I average around 8-10 hours a day, 7 days a week taking care of my family. There are days when it's less, and days when it's more, but I would say that is about average. Between cooking breakfast twice, lunch once, dinner once (sometimes twice) making snacks four times, getting everyone up, washing dishes, doing laundry, paying bills, letting the dogs in and out, making sure they have food and water, and just general cleaning, I don't get much time off. That doesn't even include story time and play time, which I consider fun instead of work. :) By the time I put in a few hours at my work at home job, I really don't get much free time. But it's all worth it. I love taking care of my family.
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
I know I get to sleep soundly for 2 hours and fitfully for 6 hours (if I'm lucky). The rest of the day is devoted either to my children, my husband, or my home. If I do get time off say for the computer, I am always "on call" in case one of my kids cry or need something from me. They say it gets better when the kids grow older. We'll see.
@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
15 Aug 07
I havent even thought about how many hours,but i know its alot like you.Theres always something and someone who wants something.Just as you sit down you hear "im hungry"or so and you just got done asking if they want something and they said "no".7 days(24hrs):16hrs/day x 7days=112 hours i would say.Now im wondering where the heck did the time go?Wow.Sleeping(me)7-8hrs what am i thinking.Ha,ha!