If an old girl friend called your husband & wanted to chat what would you think?

United States
August 19, 2007 5:49pm CST
As for me, I know that I would turn three shades of red if an old love called my spouse and just wanted to talk. First off, I would suspect that they wanted to rekindle the flame or perhaps they wanted money. Either way, I don't think it would likely happen as he doesn't bother keeping up with those people from his past. Or, at least he better not! What would you do if a former girl friend called your spouse or partner and then wanted him to talk to her on the phone for hours? Would you think that she was trying to steal him away? What would you do?
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
19 Aug 07
Well it would upset me it did happen with my ex husband and they are back together and remarried. Of course he told me I was possisive but what did he expect with lieing and cheating on someone.
• United States
19 Aug 07
You're right, some men just can't be trusted. And, even if you don't know about the cheating, you just know something is not right. Something is not the same as it used to be. Things just feel different.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
20 Aug 07
Yeah you said it all and it was after he started talking to her again.
• Malaysia
19 Aug 07
Ha..Ha..Ha...what a smoke over trouble water!!!better tap their conversations just to keep 'prove of verbal'. From there can raise up the point of discussions. Better take diplomatic step, because man when he is 'blind' can leads to ambiguous happenings.....my statement here reflecting to your mentioning about 'hours of talking' between them. Business talk will never be more than 10 minutes unless on the marketing side. But man will 'die' when reacted with a very persuasive approach. That is the only 'killing weapon' that wife has.
• United States
20 Aug 07
Persuasion and temptation are a woman's most powerful weapons, going back to the time of Eve. Who could we hope to learn from better than one who used temptation so well?
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I would question why she even needed to call him, I mean how did she get our number?!? I know my husband doesn't even bother about anyone from his past especially his ex's and would probably just say HI and ok bye LOL. I would let him deal with it and not even bother. If it became a regular phone call and chat then I would most definitely have something to say.
@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I would not like it- that is for sure- But I would not automatically think there is a problem either. I trust my sig. other- I would ask what she wanted and go from there. I would think it’s odd though- I mean for what reason would they need call?
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
First of all, I am a jealous person. My partner knows that. But he also knows that I wouldn't have second thoughts giving him up if he really wishes it. He knows how much I love him. He is an adult. Capable of thinking for himself and shouldn't be possessed nor controlled by someone who says she trusts him and he trusts her too. I'd probably allow him, but he would also understand that I would feel hurt and would be jealous. But yeah, I would allow him to ~ if he wants to. I don't want him to think of the 'possibilities' or even reminisce the past if I don't allow him to. But if they meet regularly after that or talk all the time, that would mean something else. He knows my trust for him is deep. And anything he does that would damage that trust wouldn't be mended so easily. I think this opportunity would also help me decide if he's the one for life or if he's one of the stepping stones to that someone else. But with all the powers of heaven above, I really would wish and hope he'd decide not to meet the girl or talk to her anymore. I would also wish that he'd realize he don't need anyone anymore and that I'm enough and the best he could have. *LOL*
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I guess it would depend on what she wanted. If she was calling to invite him to her wedding, I wouldn't care that much. My husband has lots of exes. One even lived in our house for a while when she was down and out and I didn't even think a thing of it (It was because of who it was. If it was anyone else, I wouldn't have even allowed her near my house.). I babysat one of his ex's babies long ago too. She treated me like crap and she was a stripper and I was taking care of her baby while she worked. That ended quickly. Anyway, I really trust my husband and I wouldn't get overly suspicious unless he stammered around and had no good reason for why she called. I would not be happy with HER if she called out of the blue to chit chat knowing he was married. I think I would tell my husband that I wasn't happy about her calling and I don't expect it will happen again. Then watch him like a hawk to be sure. lol.
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
20 Aug 07
The phone would be removed from the wall.
@Gwatson (58)
• United States
20 Aug 07
What would I think? I'd be heated! What would I do? I'd whip out my little black book and start making some phone calls of my own.
• United States
20 Aug 07
I'd NEVER in a million years let something like that happen!! I'd kill a girl if she called up my husband wanting to talking for hours!
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
20 Aug 07
I dont know how I would feel. It would be hypocritical of me to say that I would be angry since I am friends with my ex and we talk every once ina while. It does not mean that I want him back, but we were together for 4 years and have a history and friendship as well. He has a new gf and I have also had a relationship. we never even touched the subject love between us and we both respect the fact that we both have moved on.
@pinnibabu (135)
20 Aug 07
I would not like it. In case it really happens, I would keep my ear and eyes open to check what is happening. I would ofcourse think that she is trying to steal him away from me
@nancygibson (3738)
• France
20 Aug 07
I don't have any problems with that, I know several of his exes quite well and he knows one of mine. We don't see each other often, but in each case we broke up amicably and its good to stay in touch with people that were an important part of your life. As long as he is open about it, what need do you have to worry?
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Aug 07
During the first 6 years we were together I had to put up with Hubby's ex calling off and on harrassing him. I never had to worry about her stealing him just that it upset our household and caused strain between him and I. Thankfully, she hasn't found us again so we haven't had to deal with her in the last year. AT PEACE WITHIN
@youless (92401)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Aug 07
I don't mind it at all. As I am confident to myself. She is not my opponent:) And I trust in my husband and he won't do anything will betray me.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
20 Aug 07
i'm not an open girl, so i dont' want my husband to chat with her. and i think there is nothing for them to chat, remembering their past time? is it meaningful? i don't want my husband has any connection with her. but i will respect my husband's thinking. if he must chat with her, i will say goodbye to him. what about you?
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
If I do have a husband, I'd also feel a little apprehensive if an ex of his calls. I guess it's just in my nature to feel that way because I am protective of those that I love. I will let her talk but not for hours! Coz if it's like that then there's definitely something wrong.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
20 Aug 07
I wouldn't worry about it. First off, I know every woman my husband has ever even dated (we moved in the same social circles in university, one where I knew all of the girls but not all of the guys, and I've met the girls he dated in high school) and they are all happily married. They also have good careers, so they wouldn't want money. They'd be calling to catch up and see how he was doing - maybe they ran into his cousin or his mom and thought of him. Second, I don't think my husband would be interested in having an affair. He's just not that type - he likes to think of himself as a traditional, good husband. Plus, of course, he loves me best!
• Hong Kong
20 Aug 07
To be frank, I wouldn't do anything at first. I would see if my spouse would talk to her. If he does go on the phone for hours with her, then I would definitely express my sadness over the issue with him. It's just not respecting me if he does that and for whatever reason, if he doesn't want me to talk to my old boyfriends, then he should do the same too! A relationship can't last if only one person is committing.
• United States
20 Aug 07
I wouldn't be bothered by it unless he acted as though he couldn't talk to her with me in the same room. But to talk for hours at a time. That wouldn't happen. My husband and I trust each other. So, it doesn't bother me when he talks to his exes. Nor does it bother him when I talk to mine.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
I guess it would depend on the history between them, But I definitely trust my partner, so even if I felt the pang of jealousy, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I might have a couple irrational thoughts, too, but I'd like to think that I know myself and my man, and there's no reason to be suspicious. =D