Isn't it rude for people to continue to talk even when you've taken a phone call

@ranitam22 (1147)
United States
August 19, 2007 6:37pm CST
I had a co worker who was a bit of a talker. It didn't matter what the conversation was they always had a similar situation or had something to say. At times I would go home with headaches from the constant running of the mouth. anyway, many times I would be grateful when my cell phone or the office phone would ring and I would gladly answer it. After about a few minutes into the phone conversation I was having, I would begin to hear my coworker asking me questions or saying something in general. I would politely say to hang on and that I'm on the phone. It would sometimes work, but other times she would just keep talking whenever even though I was on the phone. She would also do it when I was talking to someone in person. It wasn't just me either, it was everyone she came in contact with, so maybe she just had a problem with butting in. Do you think that it is rude for people to cut in and try to talk to you while you are on the telephone or having a conversation with someone else? Has it happened to you? What did you do? It was harder to be rude and be mean because I couldn't cause friction in within my job.
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
20 Aug 07
In my opinion your co-worker is indeed rude specially when he continues talking when you're taking a phone call. Thankfully this never happened to me , but if it did I would talk to the coworker and explain that there are certain times that I really do appreciate that she respects the fact that I am paying attention to other conversation be it on the phone or with someone else. I would not be rude, but make sure I communicated my needs clearly. If she continued even after us discussing this then I would have to think about something more effective without being rude.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
20 Aug 07
that's the thing, i've tried everything but being rude. here lately when it happens I just end up ignoring her and continuing my phone conversation. Sometimes she gets it sometimes she doesn't. It's a daily trial and error..lol
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
21 Aug 07
LOL she really is dense huh? :) It is true that there are times that short of being a bit rude some people still don't get it, strange but true :)
@venshida (4839)
• United States
20 Aug 07
That is rude, you need to lay it out to her and tell her how rude it is and annoying. I would request to change seat or something if possible.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
21 Aug 07
i wish that were possible, we share an office from time to time.
• Canada
20 Aug 07
I used to work in a call center for a local telephone provider. I had two co-workers who were just as you describe. The most irritating part was, it was our job to answer phone calls, yet they would often completely ignore the fact that I was already on a call, or had received a call and was trying to answer it. I have a high tolerance for people who talk a lot, but when they interfere with my ability to do my job, I get a little frustrated. My way of dealing with the situation was to have the following conversation with them: "XXXXXX, I want you to know that when you're talking and I interrupt your conversation to take a phone call, I'm not trying to be rude. I really care about this job and want to do my best, so to me, that phone is the most important thing in my world, from the time I get here until the time I leave. At the same time, your conversation is important to me as well. If I'm on the phone, or have to take a call, it affects my ability to give you my full attention. So from now on, if I'm on the phone and there's something important you need to tell me, would you please do me a favor and write it down? That way I can respond appropriately as soon as my call is over. If I get a call in the middle of a conversation, I would of course be happy to continue it after the call is over. Does that sound all right to you?" Long story short, it worked. I validated them and made them feel important, but created a personal boundary. Also, I gave them an option; if it's important, they write it down. If it wasn't that important, then they forget by the time the call is over, and I'm spared another babble-session!
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I'm glad that worked and maybe I will have to break it down to her like that, thanks.
@artemis432 (7396)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I do think its rude - right up there with call waiting! I turn mine off - you are saying to the original caller they're not important. Especially when you take awhile! Notice when you first start getting to know someone they ignore it? But then when they have you as a friend, lover - they always take it. By the same token, when spending time with friends or lover it very rude to take phone calls. especially on a date. If you must bring your phone - please turn it off. To get back on topic, I let them know they I need to take the call and I can't concentrate. If I'm in the middle of a conversation with a friend though, when my phone rings - not office phone - I never take it - its rude to your friend. Great topic. Hope you're having fun and its cooler where-ever you are! ITs just about 100 degrees here.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I hate when people put me on hold for call waiting too. With my best friend or if it's somebody I was wanting to get off the phone with anyway, i count for about 30 seconds and hang up. I think that is long enough to tell the other person you were on the other line. Anything beyond that, they must be done with our conversation, or they'll call back.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
20 Aug 07
How annoying. I like to talk, too, and I often talk too much, but if someone looked like they were busy, or started looking at their desk or something, I'd go away. And since then, I've gotten better at keeping chitchat short. Some people just can't take a hint, though.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I'm glad you at least know how to take a hint. I don't mind a talker since I am a quiet person, but just know when to stop talking. Thanks for your response.
@eyewitness (1580)
• Netherlands
20 Aug 07
It is very rude.I even have that problem with my family.And i have this little sister who just screams when she thinks something is stupid.I do agree with her at that moment but she just starts to yell and it's pretty annoying.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I hate that, when it seems at times people think they should always be the center of attention no matter how young or old and I think that in a lot of ways that is what is wrong with my coworker. thanks for your response.
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
20 Aug 07
Its really irritate us. It is ofcourse rude and uncivilised. This happened to me day before yesterday. I was giving some important details over phone when a person came and interrupted me inspite of signalling him to wait.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
20 Aug 07
I hate that too, when you specifically tell someone to hold on a minute, but they continue rambling like you are not busy. Some people just weren't brought up with enough manners i guess.
@Aghorri (86)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Of course it's rude (and also very irritating). But consider this: the telephone is the rudest invention in the world - it doesn't care what you're doing or who you're talking to, it just yells its little head off until you answer it. It is also used to push in front of others; you can have waited in line for twenty minutes at a local store, the phone rings and guess who gets answered first - the phone of course! These days I carry on with whatever I'm doing when the phone rings. I fail to see why someone should get priority just because they're too lazy to come and speak to me personally. And, if they give up when I don't answer, that's fine - obviously it wasn't all that important in the first place. So don't be too hard on your coworker - she never learned how to close her mouth, that's all (and who knows, she might learn one day). People can be rude and ignorant but they've got nothing on the phone.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
20 Aug 07
yes, the telephone is rude and I do find myself at home just letting it ring because I'm not in the mood. My motto is if they didn't leave a voicemail or anything it wasn't important. I agree.