Are You Selfish???????

India
September 14, 2007 12:41am CST
Hello! Tell me honestly, are you selfish? Some of you or most of you may say "no". But I don't think it is true. I believe every human being is selfish. If you don't care about yourself, how can you care about others or how can you even survive? Life wouldn't have any importance if you aren't selfish as you wouldn't have anything to do for yourself and how much can you do for others when they aren't thinking about themselves too. What do you think about this???? vani^_^
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Now, this depends on your definish of selfish. I love myself, but I don't consider that selfish. I sometimes put my needs above others and that can be considered selfish. But often times I put others needs above others. I consider that a balance between my needs and others. Selfish denotes putting your needs above others to the detriment of other people. I try not to let my needs be the problem of others (since my car accident, sometimes they do and with a my rental home needing repairs because the ceiling is becoming a problem, so these may be a little detrimental, but they're not my fault and I wish I didn't have either of them). Maybe self-centered is more what you want, thinking of yourself. But even that seems negative. English, in America anyway, doesn't have many words about the self that don't have a negative connotation for some reason. Interesting topic.
• United States
15 Sep 07
In my opinion, everyone is selfish. But the appearance of selfish depends on individual's situation, such as the wealthy, healthy, interest and hobby. If I am a millionaire, I wouldn't compete with others for resource or for a job as I can pay the bills without any difficult, and I could alway think the way other people think, I could donote some money to the poor. In other people's eyes, I am not selfish as I don't put my need over other and don't get my benifit over others pain or lost. The problem is if some day a huge change make me into a poor. Then I will begin to worry about how to pay the bill, and will value every cent I can get. Now I am thought selfish. So nobody is not selfish, the reason that you think you are not selfish is that you are not in a poor situation.
• India
15 Sep 07
Thanks for your responses!
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Poor is relative and I'm not sure about your definitions of selfish. I have a lot less money now than I did before and I have to think about money and myself more, but selfish in English has a connotation of being more than thinking of yourself first. It brings to mind not sharing and more than me first, being very much you only. I understand your definition and the way you think about it makes sense, but most people think selfish means me only. Take care
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
14 Sep 07
Basically all humans are selfish. There is every reason that makes a man to be selfish but to what extent one can be selfish. He is selfish in making a house for himself (not providing shelter to others), he is selfsih to find food for himself (not sharing with others), he is selfish to take care of his own children (not taking care of other hapless children)so on and so forth. But these selfishness is desirable. What is not desirable is to sntach something belonging to others, keeping things which does not belong to him and play of all games which amounts to cheating. There couldb e exception that some couldbe selfless, but it is a rare commodity. Regarding your question, yes I am selfish in most aspects and I will be able to share, help and give to others only when my requirement is fulfilled.
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• India
14 Sep 07
Thanks for responding!
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@ssh123 (31100)
• India
15 Sep 07
I sincerely thank you very much for givingme the best response for this topic.
• India
14 Sep 07
yes sometimes im selfish..but always but thinks a lot..ven i feel selfish my heart pmprts me not to continue..the feeling..i hate myself then i thn go for it
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• India
15 Sep 07
Selfishness is human beings nature, so there's nothing to hate yourself for it. But if you hurt somebody due to selfishness, then you need to have control on it. Thanks for responding!
• China
14 Sep 07
Hello friend, I have the same opinion as you ,When I am in high school or in my middle school,I cansay taht"I am not selfish",I am always thinking about others,I don't have my own self,However,when I entered in college,just as every says"college is a small soicety,it is the first step before you enter the society",Whenever I come along with others ,at first they are so good,and care about others feelings when they do things,but as time went by,their short comings exposed,selfish is human nature,we can't avoid it.even ourselves have this weak point,so I think it is common.
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• India
15 Sep 07
Thanks for responding!
• Romania
14 Sep 07
Hello again. :) Yes, depends on person, I think every of us is a little selfish. Unfortunately, I am also selfish, too... not all the time, but mostly I am :(
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• India
14 Sep 07
Yes, every one of us is a little selfish. Thanks for responding again!
@nkr861 (9)
14 Sep 07
no every body is not selfish in this world.don,t balme of selfishness.r u crazy.
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• India
14 Sep 07
LOL! I am not blaming anybody. I just wrote my general view and asked about your views.
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
well for me it depend on the situation..yeah im selfish..im selfish to someone i just met..not really that i not met..im selfish to people that i don't trust..
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• India
14 Sep 07
Thanks for responding!
@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
14 Sep 07
Hi Indiavani, excuse me but you have placed the question too much in black and white so to say, and I cannot agree with your statement that "we all have to be selfish and are selfish in order to survive"? This is a very simplified look at life according to me, and you do yourself and the people at large a great injustice too :) But bear with me and I'll explain why I am saying this. See as example, all the saints in various religions, and how they were depicted - giving, and unselfish, and kind, and fighting for the rights and happines of every one. And even people who recently past away, like Mother Theresa of Calcutta. Do you think that she was selfish too? You see what I mean? There are far more "saints" among normal people that you are not giving credit to. I do not wish to play one, or be called one, however I have always placed the GOOD of many above the good of one or two. I'd rather live without the things I need, or like to have, and feed my extended family, and helping others in need, than look after my own needs first. And I am defnitely not selfish, and hate that you think everyone on this world is one, and has to be one in order to exist. God Bless :)
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• India
14 Sep 07
Thanks for your valueable response! I don't believe much in saints. But yes I agree that people like Mother Teresa are not selfish.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Yes I will admit it sometimes if its to much. I love to share with something to others "if" I have something more than I have to give. Not all the time life is good and no shortage will come, there are times life is hard and if it happened no one will help me to survive so I just thought maybe It is not bad to think of our selves first before others.
• India
14 Sep 07
Thanks for responding!
@jatamogue (367)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
It cannot be always helped. I for one see myself as selfish at times. Taking care of yourself can depend on your view of be selfish, when I take care of myself the part of being a good example comes into play. It also involves other people. I cannot see one getting along with people when you think of yourself. This is sometimes the thing I see people arguing about. They stubbornly stick their beliefs and protect their pride of not being right. While on the other hand, It takes a little courage to forget oneslf ones in a while. Besides not taking of oneself also means taking care of other people for me... 8-)
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• India
14 Sep 07
Thanks for responding!
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
I think that everyone are selfish. Just in what way they are selfish. If there's something that i have to be selfish in order to get it,I will definitely do it. Sometimes it also depends how serious you are. I have one classmate. She's really selfish. Sometimes she makes me hate her so much. Everythings she did is just for her own good. She didn't even think of other classmates.
• United States
15 Sep 07
I agree with that everyone is selfish. If something is not important to him, then he can generously give it up and give the change to others. But this doesn't mean he is not selfish. If he thinks the thing is important to him, is he willing to give up? If he has a very nice and a lovely girlfriend, and another more handsome guy wants to get familar with his girlfriend and marries with him, does he want to break with his girlfriend. Yeah, selfish alway exists if the resource is scarce. If the resource is enough for each one in the world, things will be better but selfish still can't be eliminated as lots of people want to consume more resource than others.
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• United States
15 Sep 07
I do believe I am a vary giving person I do not give much money. How ever I do give alot of my time. To my wife kids family, and about any one that asks for my help. I do not ever ask for any thing in return. I think it is in some people to just be giving like this.
• United States
14 Sep 07
I am not selfish and i hate selfish people but my friend saad is very selfish and mean.
• India
14 Sep 07
well everyone is selfish to some extent... thats a necessacity to survive
@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
14 Sep 07
Before I even touch this discussion, let us look at the meaning of the word - selfish. The LOngman Active Study dictionary defines that word as "caring about yourself and not about other people". I dont have a selfish behaviour. I do things for myself and my chidl but that does not make me or you selfish. When you do things and do not care the repurcussions that may result of your actions be it negative or positive I beleive that is being selfish. Yes there are people whoo are all for themselves and would not even care or look at the next person they are passing going up but speaking for myself I cannot be like that. Becuase of this alot of times I am exploited. i loan my good friend some money to fix her car and years after I still have not received that money. i called her hoping to get some assistance in paying my cable and internet bills befoe cut off (tomorrow) and instead of calling me or sending the money to my account she did neither. Now that is beign selfish. She had promsied that I would get back the money the weekensd and it is now going into several years which put me in a bad position then and now I am in a bad position and need her help she is not forthcoming but that is people for you. I dont rely on anyone if I ask I always have another back up plan because when I need assistance no one is ever there for me but I make it a point of my duty to help because I am here to serve. There are times when I have to harden my heart against exploiters but if that makse me slefish them I guess in that light I am. So tell me what do you think India?
@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I would say that over all I'm not. But there are certain things that I am very selfish about. My family time, I hate it when I feel like people are intruding on my time with my family time. My car, I once had someone borrow and wreck it, and left me screwed. So now I am selfish with it. And my dad, I am very selfish with my dad. I don't like other people taking my time I have with him away.
@amishagg (186)
• India
14 Sep 07
I would have to say that considering all aspects I would be grossly selfish. Come to think of it I hardly think about others feelings and emotions while saying and doing things, much of them I am not proud of.
@sweetcakes (3505)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I try not to be, but sometimes i am. i just want some things for myself.
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Well, people have always it's dark side and being selfish is one of our dark side. What you say is true. It's just the same as saying "How can you love others if you don't love yourself."
@Stiletto (4584)
14 Sep 07
Everyone is selfish to some extent. Even people who appear saintly and self-sacrificing will have their moments of selfishness. To some extent it's necessary for our survival. I mean at some point we have to put ourselves first! It's not necessarily a bad thing if kept in proportion. Of course if someone's ONLY thoughts are for themselves that's not a good way to live. It's just about getting the balance right.