What would you do?

@chippy49 (171)
United States
September 18, 2007 8:11pm CST
My son is in his third week or so of Kindergarden. Well he had a little accident today with going #2 in his pants. The teachers changed his underwear, did not call me, and then threw away his underwear. Now I do not care if this sounds sick to you, but a. I just bought this underwear for him and b. could you not have put it in a bag or something for me to clean later, its not a diaper. I am so pissed at his school right now. His first week of school he vomited after lunch, again they did not call me and if it was not for the fact of him having vomit all over his clothes I would not have known. So what do you think I should do....I already called the school when I got home but have to leave a message, what more should I have done or should I do...thanking you all in advance.
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@Rollo1 (16670)
• Boston, Massachusetts
19 Sep 07
I am surprised that you didn't get a call either time. Usually they will demand a parent come and pick up a child who has vomited or even seems in danger of doing so. I can understand if he had an accident that they would clean him up and give him new clothes, but usually they would keep the soiled items in a plastic bag for mom (I think they like handing over soiled clothes). I am not sure of their motivation for throwing out the underwear unless it was really badly soiled and they have to dispose of it by law or something. But they could explain it to you, even if it is just a note sent home with him. To not tell you is unconscionable. Is this a private kindergarten or part of the public school system? I would call them either way, if it is the school system, ask to talk to the school nurse. If these little incidents are not handled well, your son could develop some bad feelings associated with school and worry about having accidents. Maybe the teacher or nurse felt it was best in the case of the soiled underwear to take care of it quietly so he wouldn't suffer embarrassment. Kids are so sensitive about things when it involves their peers knowing their weaknesses. Maybe if you talk to the teacher, you can tell her that you would prefer to have the soiled clothes returned. I hope the rest of his kindergarten experience goes more smoothly, good luck.
@chippy49 (171)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Thanks for the quick response. At the end of the day the teacher came up to me and said that he had an accident and that they took it upon them selves to throw away the underwear cuz they did not know what to do with it, she said. I just cannot believe that they did call me and ask me what they should do with it, I would have come and pick it up if it was that much of a problem with this. I know that underwear is a minor thing to some people but I just bought it and this stuff is not cheap anymore. I will talk to the school, I dont want this to continue.
@Rollo1 (16670)
• Boston, Massachusetts
19 Sep 07
I totally agree. For some, they would rather toss out the underwear than try to wash it but not everyone can afford to buy growing kids new underwear every week, it's expensive and I know I am just glad to be able to find enough underwear and socks to get to Friday each week. It means doing laundry often. My son has a problem with socks, he used to go to after school program and summer camp at the Y. Every day he went with socks on and every night he came home without them and we never saw any of them again. He could go through a package of new socks a week. I am sure if you explain to them that you are willing to take home the soiled items if they are willing to seat them in a ziplock bag or a plastic bag, they will be understanding.
@chippy49 (171)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Well, today I had another talk with the teacher and told her about the bag. She said okay. Last night I called the school and left a message, they got it today and called me back. They stated that they had a talk with the teachers and they said that they are not equiped to deal with this sort of situation. I told her that I understand that is why you should have called and I would have taken care of it. She said that it was at the end of the school day and it was very hectic, so I said then you should have just sent him home, or told me I was in the parking lot I would have changed him. they said that if it happens again that they will call. They said as for the vomit, that they did not know about it. I told them that all is fine and dandy but now I am out of a pair of underwear. She got all snooty and then said that he will be sent home with a pair today, and then hung up. Now my husband is mad at me and said that now Kevin is going to be treated different as school. I told him, see I stand up for myself and now I still did not do something right. Ill never get any sleep at this rate.
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@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
20 Sep 07
Forget the phone! This is important enough to call a taxi (if you don't have a car) Go immediately to the school and see the Principal. Tell him whats occurred and demand to be notified next time something unforseen happens. Also tell him that the school owes you for the underware the teacher threw out. And you will not be satisfied until you get the Money! Let him know that you will go to the Board of Education in your City if You dont get any satisfaction from Him.
@chippy49 (171)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Just wanted to let you know that after a long talk with the school the school sent home a pair of new underwear with him home that day. Now its not his favorite lightning McQueen pair that he lost, but he at least got a pair back. She ended up arguing wil me and then in the end hung up, even when I spoke with his teacher later that day she said that she was surprised on how upset I got with loosing a pair of underwear...I was just thinking, have you bought a pair lately, 6 bucks for 3 pair...and then come to find out that they did it at 2:20pm and he gets out of school at 2:30, I was probably sitting in the parking lot waiting already for him. I thought the way that they told me it happened that it was earlier...so now I am glad that I complained enought to get a pair of underwear and they told me that they will call me if It happens again...so now I am really on him to not let that happen again, so that he does not draw more attention to himself...Thanks for the response...