Nasty People
By missbdoll
@missbdoll (1165)
Australia
September 23, 2007 4:10am CST
My partner died 3 weeks ago, I'm so upset and alone.I don"t have any family and his do not include me.Last week I went to visit a friend and while I was there another woman, a friend of my friend came in.She knows my partner died, and knew him too, and this is the second time she;s seen me and she doesn't even say anything, just ignored that he died.She's just sitting talking to my friend all about her, her. her.
Then I said something to my my freind about the situation I'm left in and then this woman decides then to say something and she was just so nasty to me.I really want to still see my friend but I cann't cope with the idea of seeing thos "hateful" person.I cann't ring my friend to see if she's going to be there, as she would not know "cause she just dropps in.I was just so upset taht I could not leave my house for the next 2 days. How can people be so rude and ignorant?
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6 responses
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
23 Sep 07
I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be devastating. I cannot understand why this person would be so hateful to you.
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@sephrenia (567)
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23 Sep 07
you said that the woman who said nasty things was a friend of your friend yes?
If thats the case then I would take your friend to one side as soon as you get a chance and tell her how much her friend upset you. From what you've said its obvious that the friend of your friend knew what she said would hurt you so she has no excuse. Ask your friend to talk to her friend about her behaviour because it is completely unacceptable for that other woman to say nasty things to you especially after you have just suffered such a hard loss.
I would also ask your friend not to bring that other woman near you for a while until you have at least got to the point where you can handle stupid, ignorant people. If your friend is a good one, she will understand that you dont want people around you who dont understand at all.
Hope that helps
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I'm so sorry about your loss. Some people just are plane rude. They don't know any better or just don't realize how hurtful the thing that they say can be. You are also more sencitive at this time and that is understandable. she still should have been more sencitive at the same time. sa another reponder said take you friend aside and let her know just how hurt you were. I'll be praying for you
@smacksman (6053)
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23 Sep 07
Sorry to hear about your loss. Loneliness is a terrible thing to bear so friends are especially important to you now.
People can be cruel without realising it and women especially are renowned for openening the mouth before the brain is engaged. haha
People are rude and ignorant. Maybe you just have to toughen up your skin and live with it?
Best of luck. I'm sure you will pull through.
@nic24uk (571)
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23 Sep 07
firstly im so sorry for your loss.i cant ever imagine any human to be so cold like that shes a disgrace, i dont know how you kept your cool i would of probably slaped her. your well to keep clear of her she doesnt sound at all nice. maybe you should tell your friend how she made you feel and she could have a word with her or something, maybe your friend could come to visit you at your home that way you will be able to avoid seeing her again.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I was in your situation too 17 years ago and know just where you're coming from. My partner was killed and a few people acted as if nothing in the world was wrong which crushed my heart. I don't understand how people can be so cruel but they sure can be. The best advice I can give is to ignore them for they're not worth your time. They're the one's with the problem, not you. It'll be a long time before you're able to move on with your life but hang in there for that time WILL come. Bless you and your long journey ahead.
