women and men - on courtship?

@rouwel23 (1353)
Philippines
September 24, 2007 7:23pm CST
how many women on these mylot citizens were the first one who courted their husbands and ended up marrying them? perhaps their husbands were just shy or their husbands did not just happen to see them? Is it okay if the girl or the woman makes the first move? is it okay if the woman initiates the courtship? do you guys not get intimidated by these women? or do you like women who are aggressive? I was the one who initiated the courtship to my wife and we ended up married happily. some women nowadays are aggressive and society is beginning to accept this changes. society now is beginning to understand these cultural changes and deem these things as normal. what is your view on courtship?
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I kept giving this guy a hint that I was available, I liked him, and finally that he could date me. But he had given up on any woman liking him. He is not considered handsome and all the woman talk to him about other men they would like to day. He is like their big brother. lSo he thought I was just stating or complaining that I was available. Then when I indicated I liked him, he thought I meant like a brother. When I indicated he could date me, he thought I was picking on him. So I called someone else who acted as a go-between, matchmaker. She called him up and asked him if he was dense or what? So he explained. She told him to give me a call and gave him (with my permission) my number. He was very surprised and thought she might be picking on him or I had put her up to picking on him. But he called and cautiously started a conversation with me. We talked and we went out, eventually, once he realized I was serious, not using him to get back at an ex-boyfriend, or playing some other kind of game. It took a long time and a lot of confidence building, but we went steady and he eventually asked me to marry him. But I thought I was going to have to hit him over the head with an anvil to get the point! He just thought no woman would love him, just be friends with him. So he could not and would not believe it at first. But we are now married and very happily so. But if I had waited for him to make the first move, we'd both still be single or I'd be married to someone else and not half as happy.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
hehehe. very nice and wonderful story. yeah. that is one success story of a girl who made the first move. that is amazing girl. may you live a happy and prosperous life together with the man you loved. so are you the one who is dominating your relationship right now?
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
27 Sep 07
No, I don't dominate the relationship. He was a Sgt. in the Air Force when he retired. I have two college degrees. So we have a lot to talk about. The 20 years before we knew each other in our professions and the 22 years before that. We got married at 42 years of age. Take care
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
how come both of you were married late?
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@MarieJ23 (1041)
• United States
25 Sep 07
In our case, I didn't initiate any move but when he told me that he likes me so much the first time he saw my pics and slowly fell inlove with me day by day, I didn't even have a second thought to answer him when he asked me if I have a feelings for him. I told him right there and then, "yes I do & I am willing to know you better". It was then the start of everything until he proposed to me and we got married. We both got NO regret. *smile*
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
so where did he first saw your pics? in an internet interaction site? that is a wonderful success story. and both of you are living happily now without regrets. good for both of you. another happy marriage in the making. keep loving each other.
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@MarieJ23 (1041)
• United States
27 Sep 07
yes, he saw my pics online in my friend's site, it was a group pic & a pic of me and my friend. Yeah, certainly we got no regrets. Well, we can't say what tomorrow will bring but at least we are sure that wherever and whatever life will take us, we are both willing to work out our marriage life to the best we can. thanks for the best wishes! You too, wishing here for more wonderful years of your marriage life!
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
of course we do not know what the future would bring but we should be sure regarding our commitment to our partners.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
25 Sep 07
I called my husband first, but in the course of that conversation, he asked me out. He also paid for many of our dinner dates. I don't think he would have cared had I asked him out first.
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@MarieJ23 (1041)
• United States
27 Sep 07
hi cute! i might as well do what you did if I really like the guy and that I can sense that the feeling is mutual. I will call him just to let him know indirectly that I am just here waiting for him to tap my shoulder. FEw men need a sign before they'll gonna make a move because they also have worries to get busted. Ego factor....hehehe..
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
to cutepenguin: that is one bold move you did to call your ex-boyfriend now your husband first. good for you to reap your rewards. have a very wonderful life with your husband.
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
hello. i am in a relationship right now and we just had our anniversary. i am not shy to say that i made some initiatives to tell my bf that i like him. well we have a very long and complicated story. when my bf first courted me i dumped him and after almost 4 years i realized that he was the one for me all along. so i made some very obvious ways to show him that i like him. haha. now i am happy being with him and being loved by him. :) hope and pray we'll end up to be happily together for a lifetime.. :) i am happy to hear stories like yours ROUWEL.. :)
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
I am glad you like my story. good for you to find your boyfriend back and marry him. that is nice that you have a wonderful life together. good luck with your happy life with your partner.
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@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
Of course for me my husband did the first move, and he courted me. I still believe in courtship which is the man will do the first move and the woman will just wait for that man to court her. As a woman it is improper to be one to initiates or show his feeling to the man she loves.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
but this is now common these days wherein women would initiate themselves in the courtship. so you still believe in the traditional way of doing courtship? good for you that your husband made the first move. how many happy years are you now in your relationship?
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
yes, traditional way is still the proper way of courtship between male and female. On december we will be celebrating our 8 year anniversary, and our relationship is still going strong each day. We already have a 5 year old son. Hope that God continue to bless and guide our marriage life til forever.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
I pray that God would bless your marriage. good luck.
• China
9 Oct 07
Hum,yes,the world is changing now,many women want to seed something include boy friends,but I like boy to pursue me,because I like to be taken good care. Maybe I didin't meet my true love,if I meet it,I may be on initiative.Good luck,god bless.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
perhaps you have not meet someone wherein you would try to do your best to take the initiative.
• United States
2 Oct 07
I courtshiped my husband. He was shy and inexperieced. Were happily married now and i would do it all over again.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
so you already had some experience regarding courtship before you met your husband? of course there are some men who are rather shy. good for you to have seized the opportunity and enjoying the fruits of your labors now.
@bishu_sinha (1460)
• India
18 Dec 07
Keep smiling, don’t think so much about negatives. There is so much of it around already that killing will only add to it.