"Teenage Pregnancies"

Teen Pregnancies - this is a picture of a teen mom who will have a baby soon.
@claire03 (1444)
United States
September 27, 2007 11:17am CST
Every year teenage pregnancies goes up high we don't know to really prevent this but the question is if it is you will you consider abortion, adoption for your baby or keep and raise it by yourself without a partner? what will you do and why? Give us some ideas and opinions about this. If it was me and i get pregnant during my teenage years, i will continue my pregnancy and keep my baby no matter how hard it is to raise a child by yourself. Abortion would be a NO NO for me and i wouldn't want to give away my baby to be adopted by somebody else i don't really know. I just have to face the consequences and challenges if i we're to be a teenage mom. How about you? what will you do if you're in this kind of situation?
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25 responses
• United States
27 Sep 07
I was a teenage mom and raised my two daughters by myself. I had the first at sixteen and the second at eighteen. they both have the same dad and I enjoyed it. It was defiantly hard but life isn't always easy. I never considered abortion or adoption but this is a personal choice that people should make. Raising a child on your own is hard if you don't have the moral and financial support that you need. School can also be a problem. A lot of people say that they dont' see why people drop out of school just because they are preganant when it is a lot easier said than done. I praise anyone who has went to school while they were pregnant.
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
27 Sep 07
thanks for sharing to us your life experience rosaflorence. it gives us additional ideas on how to handle this situation. i am glad that you made the right choice and you're happy with your kids now. Take care and God bless! :)
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@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Teenage pregnancies is a fad right now. Maybe becuase of the fast phase of the new generation. If it can not be avoided, better treach our children to take the consequences of it. Teach them to be responsible enough. And don't resort to abortion. Personally, I am against of killing your own child. better raise them to the top of your ability. Its your want, and so stand for it.
• United States
1 Oct 07
It's not the "cool thing to do" teens just don't think it's going to happen to them. NO matter how many times people try to convince them other wise.
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@runsgame (2034)
• India
29 Sep 07
it is really increasing in india day by day . control by government is not at all a successful one . but u know each and every individual should have proper self control to avoid this teen pregncy
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@williamjisir (22903)
• China
28 Sep 07
To begin with, I am a man. Suppose I were a teen girl, I don't think that I would go on with my pregnancy. I would stop it at an early time once it is discovered. Why? It is not helpful for a teen girl to get pregnant as she still has a lot to learn at school and she needs time for study. A teen mom cannot be a good mom at all as she doesn't have financial source to support the baby. Her first task to learn enough and later find a good job after graduation...
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
27 Sep 07
My opinion is, if you play you may pay. If I were to get pregnant as a teenager, I'd definetely keep my baby with or without a partner. I don't believe in abortion in any case. It's murder no matter how it's done. I'd keep it because it's mine. No one else's but mine however I'm all for someone giving a baby up for adoption if they couldn't handle raising the child and I'm all for a person to keep it as well as long as they're wanting to and not forced to. Because there are so many out there that want to have a baby but can't and it would be a wonderful blessing for the childless couple and for the baby to go to a good home.
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
28 Sep 07
i think you offended somebody Sacrificialclam. hope you'll apologize to CatsandDogs cause she didn't really say anything wrong, she was just voicing her opinion about this topic. CatsandDogs please calm down, you made a very good point about some issues and i agree to what is right here. child is really a blessing to any couple who wants to have one. Hope you two can patch up the miscommunication here guyz.
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
28 Sep 07
i didn't say teenage moms should be punished but they should jst be responsible for their actions, they knew the possibility of getting pregnant and if they are not ready yet to have a baby, they should wait or be careful. Abortion is not the solution to this also it just means the person is immature to handle problems and don't want to face the responsibility even if they are the one who did it, the baby is innocent! you are entitled to your own opinion sacrificialclam and everyones entitled to their own opinion too so you don't need to be judgemental if it doesn't agree with you. Just want to be honest, i hate arguments here and you started it. Please be sensible to other people's feeling so you won't offend anyone here and have enemies!
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
28 Sep 07
if they aren't ready they shouldn't have done it in the first place! is that mature and responsible? being mature and responsible is doing what's right, that is facing your problem and responsibility cause you created that yourself and not somebody else. If you want abortion it's for you but not for everyone else!
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• United States
29 Sep 07
I would have adopted it out. Teens are financially too unstable to give a baby what is needed. It takes an average of a hundred thousand dollars to raise a child in America, and this figure is rising fast. * On the other hand, those who are financially and other wise stable are finding themselves challenged in the baby making department and desperately want children. * In many ways, America is backwards. When a young couple's bodies are in baby making prime, they're not in a position to bring it up due to a very long modern adolescence plus education requirements to succeed financially. * When the pair finally make the transition to fiscal/emotional adulthood, they find their bodies past baby making prime. In fact, they are declining fast in fertility. * Biology has not had time to catch up with modern society.
@eden32 (3976)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I'm raising 3 children, soon to be 4 in the US and it does not have to cost anywhere near that to raise a child. Being wealthy in no way proves a person is going to be a good parent, have you heard of Brittney Spears?! Nor does having a modest living mean that you are unstable or not providing for your child. When I was expecting my son (16) I put in for extra shifts at my job and saved every nickel that I had, fortunately I was still living at home & only paying a token amount in rent. When he was born I was able to take ample time off to bond & rest, then I went back to work part time and started college full-time. There were some very lean years, but in no way did my son's quality of life suffer. Our society puts way too much value on disposable luxuries and hardly any on building families. My partner & I chose to live a modest life, because time with our children is much more valuable to us than having 2 cars or a bigger home.
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• United States
2 Oct 07
You are fortionate to have family. Very many do not have that. The extended family is something indeed to be cherished. My family is very tiny. I only have my parents and two nieces plus a nephiew. My sister passed away. * I refer mainly to college education as well when I state the high cost of education. High school education doesn't cut it in the job market. I'm not sure if Junior College would. Am I incorrect?
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• United States
2 Oct 07
Some folks do make it. There are folks that can find a spot in the economy where they can fit and earn a good living. * The American economy is getting more competitive, service oriented, and computer based though. Finding a nitch with out years of expensive education is just going to get harder as the decades move along and jobs are outsourced. Still, some will continue to find spots. * Some beat Vegas too.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I was a teen mom. 16 when I got pg. I turned 17 just a few days before I had her. LUckily I was able to attend alternative high school with a day care facility and graduate on time. When I had to go out on my own it was a little hard. I went with my dad for a couple weeks and when I got back my mom had moved! I had to scramble to find a place to stay, fortunately a friend let me stay with her (well her parents let me) for a couple months till I could find a job and get an apartment. It wasn't easy. I worked 60- 80 hours a week and still barely made ends meet. I'm so glad my life is more stable now.... I'm hoping my daughter will be smarter than I was or I'll be a Grama in my 30's!
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
1 Oct 07
thanks for sharing your story here crazed_moma, you're such a brave woman. you faced your problem and you get back on your two feet again. i'm happy for you. i hope your daughter will also learn from your story. take care and God bless!
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@sherrir101 (3670)
• United States
28 Sep 07
My daughter gave birth 3 days before she turned 18. She decided to keep the baby and raise him herself. It was a rocky start, but she is doing quite well. Abortion or adoption was not even in the choices for her. She decided right away that she wanted to raise her baby.
@claire03 (1444)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Your daughter is a strong woman and i think she made the right choice. I wish her baby good health and thanks for sharing your story here. God bless!
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• Malaysia
27 Sep 07
well this type of question is one of my assignment project. I can tell you that abortion is not a way for you but it has help others. Do you know how a baby will suffer not to mention the girl who bare the labor to suffer prematurely due to lack of facilities. Yeah, its a mistake to get unwanted pregnancies but if the couple are not ready to start their own family, how do they give the best for their kids. Talking about adoption, it maybe sound not cruel but towards the baby's future psychological impact is huge. They will be seriously effected by the news and some says they rather get abortioned. So i do think this is a very personal response only those who is involved should know what they are doing. there is no definite answer to this
• United States
7 Apr 08
...how many of us, if given the choice would prefer we had been aborted/terminated?
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
1 Oct 07
I was a teenager who got pregnant. I knew nothing about raising a baby, there were so few babies in my neighborhood, and so many babysitters, that I never had the experience of caring for any. I only had a brother a couple of years younger than myself so did not have experience that way. I gave my baby for adoption or rather was persuaded to, but had I been told there was help for me, would have kept my baby. But in those days, they kept that information secret because they wanted the girls to give their babies up for adoption. Back in those days, we could choose the religion, character, and the type of person we wanted to adopt our babies and the social workers made sure they were of the same background, or what they considered the same background which meant that the baby would be thought to be the birth child of her new parents. Now there is open adoption. I would not consider abortion, it is wrong to kill an innocent, and if I were on the other foot, I would rather adopt someone who looked like me or my husband, which gives us a broad range because between us is German, English, Austrian, Danish Viking, Dutch, ancient Roman, etc.
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Hi claire, If i got pregnant in my teenage years. Abortion would be my last choice. Im not really in favor of abortion. I like to have a child and I believed that child makes a woman complete. And it's true. :) But when times like my friends and let say cousins are involved and they come to me and tell me that they are not still ready to have a child i tend to tell them to have it aborted. LOL! Too bad of me I guess. I know it is wrong and it kinda risky to life of the mother. But I can't help sometimes to tell it to them just to have a quick solution to their problems.
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• United States
27 Sep 07
I had my first child when I was 23 and it was tough enough at that age. I can't imagine being a teen & having a baby. The high school that I went to was #1 for teen pregnancies in the nation for the longest time. If I were a pregnant teen, I would hope that my family supported my decisions and that the baby's dad would be a part of it all. Unfortunately, alot of times it isn't like that.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
I blame the parents for their children getting pregnant as teens, and if I was in that situation... you know what, I would never have been in that situation because I had a horrible time with guys back in high school, there is this guy I like now and it feels like he doesn't even notice that I am there. Anyway, ladies, make you own decisions, but just to let you know if you get pregnant as a teen you have three options: adoption, abortion, or keeping the baby, and believe me, neither of those decisions are easy. In fact, I have known people who have been in those situations, and neither of those choices are easy.
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I'm sorry but blaming the parents of the teen who becomes pregnant is just absurd. My mother was very strict, very involved in my life, very candid & honest with me when it came to understanding the 'birds & bees'. As strict as she was, no parent can watch their child 24/7. My partner & I were in love, we spent the next 10years together so I think it's safe to say it was "real love" in hindsight. We lied to our parents often to be together, when we were allowed to be with each other we lied about where we'd be & what we'd be doing and we became pregnant. Short of having me fitted with a chastity belt nothing was going to stop me from being with him once I had decided he was "The One".
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• China
3 Oct 07
Teenage pregnancies is a question exist in most of country.in china,too.my sister is a doctor,she said that,in those years,many middle school students went to hospital to abortion.in china,most of people think that teenage pregnancie is degarding and vile.but i don't think so,now,in china,many organ wa built to hepe those girls.i think school should teach students to learn more konwledge about it.
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@cwilson26 (2737)
• United States
2 Oct 07
My sister had her first child at the age of 16. She is now 35 and he will be 19 on the 27th of this month. She had her second child 8 years later when she finally got married. Her second child is now 11 and a beautiful girl. They have different fathers. If I would have gotten pregnant as a teenager I would definitely keep the baby. I don't believe in abortion under no circumstances. I am 27 years old now and still no children but hopefully one day soon. I would like to at least have one. :)
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• Canada
28 Sep 07
If I impregnated a woman, I would do my part and pay for child care. If my spouse and I had a child unintentionally, I'm sure we both agree that we would give it up for adoption. Why? If we can't take care of the child properly, why should we raise it in a harsh environment? I would soon rather find a family who's willing to take in a child and be able to raise the child with a rock steady financial background than with my spouse and I. We're in no way described as having a rock steady financial background. We would also keep in contact in case that child wishes to meet us one day. In short, the child does not need to experience the same harshness of our reality if that were the case.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 07
if I will be in this situation.. I will keep the baby no matter what.It will be the most wonderful blessing you could ever have
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
27 Sep 07
By choice I had my first at 16. Good or bad, I always wanted a child & I was in quite the rush to do so. It wasn't quite what I imagined, but it was mostly better than I expected. It certainly wasn't the life sentence to poverty & a miserable life that many warned me it would be when I was expecting him. But regardless of what I did & regardless of how old a woman is when she becomes pregnant; it's her choice to decide what should happen next. I support ALL women's right to make their own choices.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 07
you can't correct mistakes by doing another mistake. be it, raise the baby and live a good life with your baby and thats the best to do. well no ones tell that they don't like because they have a baby, rather all says that it's fun and fulfilling having a kid. i know you will fell that after the is is born. chowwwww
• United States
25 Apr 08
I also don't support the issue of abortion,i think it's better to give birth to the child and face the responsibility than to have an abortion. I know of some teenagers who terminate their pregnancies but i hope and advise that the best way is to give birth to the child and face the hard task. Because aborting a child means killing a soul,and the Bible says thou shall not kill