Troublesome Lifestyles...

Ppl in Trouble... - Ppl in Trouble...
@twoey68 (13651)
United States
September 28, 2007 9:07pm CST
Do you have someone in your family or a friend that seems to constantly be in trouble? Going to jail, getting arrested, getting in fights, ect.? Do they live a lifestyle that encourages trouble? I know several ppl that live troublesome lifestyle's... running around with druggies, biker ppl, gang members. They are always getting arrested, going to jail, having to go to court, having to be picked up at the hospital from fights, ect. I live a quiet life...I keep to myself and try to keep my nose clean. But I see others who seem to welcome trouble with open arms. I feel for them when they are in so much trouble with the law and other ppl but at the same time I feel like they bring it on themselves. If you had a child like this, that was always in trouble, how would you handle it? How would you handle it if it was a family member or close friend? Would you turn your back on them and keep your distance or keep helping them out and hope they wake up one day and that they don't drag you into their troubles? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
30 Sep 07
Both my daughters got in with the wrong crowds at a young age at school. The elder one sorted herself out but the younger one continued to hang out with people who were a bad influence. Or perhaps she was the bad influence. She kept many secrets but us Mums have a way of finding out things even when we dont' try or would rather not know. She lives tied to the computer these days playing role play games and neglecting her 10 yr old. Her 18 yr old disabled son has gone to live with his aunt, my eldest
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
30 Sep 07
I do not think that we should turn our back on them or judge them. I think that we should try to help them, love them, and show them compassion. I know that if I were having these kinds of problems, I would not want someone to turn their back on me. I would assume that a person would be like this because they are troubled.
• United States
29 Sep 07
Sadly I would try an intervention and if that didn't work, I would keep my distance.
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• United States
15 Oct 07
I don't have any family members or friends that are constantly in trouble like that. I do have friends that live lifestyles that I wouldn't live though. They just do things that I don't agree with and things that I would never do. If I had family or friends that got in trouble all the time I would try to help them out to a certain degree. I wouldn't let them drag me down into it but I would try to help them the best I could. If I could see that they were just getting worse then I would just walk away because I don't need that kind of stuff in my life.
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@mouse27 (1155)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
i know lots of people that have run a destructive life including me i never ended up in jail but i was leading a very destructive life hanging with lots of bad people but now i try my best to stick with the people that are trying to turn there life around as i am
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I had 3 sons this way,but think God the are over it now.I went through it for years,but it is finaly over my youngest son is 20 has got a good job.He is still doing things he should not,but noting like he was.Things is getting better.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Oh yes I have a member in the family that is always in trouble. He is the blacksheep of the family. And he does it to himself so I dont feel sorry for him either. I know he is family but I dont have time for them kind of people.
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@lgwlong (199)
• China
29 Sep 07
to be honest ,i did have such a family member,he bring our whole family too much trouble and even influence my life ,i alway wish one day he can find himself and let our family have a peaceful time
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Families are there to stick together through thick and thin. Ya dont turn your back on them ya try to let them see the error of their ways . MMOst kids are good at heart but do get lead astray IF you let them run withthe wrong crowd . Its a full time job there to see who your kids are running with. Keeping good tabs on them invite the friends over get to know them . I made my house like a safe place for them to come hang and that was the best was to keep them out of trouble. Make them want to hang at our house and enjoy they didnt have to go run with gangs to get into trouble
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@carolbee (16241)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Actually, I don't have any family members who have ever been in trouble. Guess I am very fortunate. Would never turn my back on my kids. They are top priority.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Twoey, I do have a child like this.He is 44 and he has been in trouble most of his life.I had him when i was very young,actually to young to date,but non the less i had him and he stays in trouble....He has given his dad and I lots of trouble,he is always getting hauled off for something..He has been married ,divorced,married and divorced,and now he's in another realtionship,one of many....I have had my heart broken many times,have cried tons and tons of tears over him,and i have prayed many prayers for him.....No i have never turned my back on him,NEVER,he always needs me,and i am always there for him anytime...I feel that i must have done something wrong,but my other children are fine ,productive adults...I get a lot of looks and lots of advice,everyone always telling me to let him go ,but i can't..I love him with all my heart,and i suppose i will be there for him until the day i die...I do not coddle him,i try to direct him in good ways...Im actually closer to him due to the fact he needs me...He works,he don't need money,he needs me for emotional support and to talk too...I could never turn my back on any of my children,no matter what they do,but it does hurt very bad sometimes...He always tells me that he could not live without me and that is scarey....I have faced the lose of a father, mother and husband but God help me I hope i never have to face a loss of any of my children...