When do you want to die?

Philippines
September 30, 2007 12:59pm CST
Hello friends! There was an old woman in the neighborhood, maybe she's more or less 90 years old. Her family is having a hard time with her because she is already acting like a small kids according to them. Though they love her so much, sometimes they cant help but feel bad. I find the old woman helpless, And I think she is no longer capable of sensing how she's behaving. Shes like a child. Sometimes she just cry and get mad. And it really breaks my heart to see her think that she was not loved. (In fact she was really loved) I guess, I dont want to reach the age of 90. I want to die at the state of clear mind... remembering everything that happens. How about you guys? At what age do you want to die?
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53 responses
• United States
30 Sep 07
age has nothing to do wich clarity of the mind my mom lived untill she was 96 and was as sharp as shew could be the whole of her life !
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Well, I can say that your mother is really lucky. MAybe she really took good care of her health when she was young, thats why she's healthy even at her older age. Clean living I guess. We the younger generation should practice it. And just pray that you should be like her with your 90's age. Thank you for your response.
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• United States
1 Oct 07
It depends on what your oppinion of clean living she was a retired British policewoman who smoked and had an occasional cocktail all he life her job was as stressfull as any and she was a single mom but she always was able to tend to her own needs till the end
@ElicBxn (60907)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I don't care how old I am, I just want to go QUICK. And since I fully expect to die of a stoke, I hope to be some what ready for it.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Huh? You really believe that you will die of stroke? Wow! I mean you're the only person I know that has some way of expecting how to die. You're really extraordinary. Your answer is really unexpected... I never thought there would someone in this world who is expecting in a way how she or he will die. Thank you for your response.
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@GardenGerty (109145)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I still want to live to be at least 100. Many people are clear minded even after that. It is not the age that causes the dementia. I do not want to be dependent on others, but I think I will age well.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
wow that was good! I mean 100 years old and still clear minded! That would be really amazing. I look at your profile and it says that you are 54. I just hope during taht time mylot still exist so I can keep in touch with you. I'll be very glad if in your 100 years you will still recall this little conversation. I would be really happy. :) Thank you for your response.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
30 Sep 07
so sorry for you neighbor lady/ but you cant pick the age ya die . Is she ooin a Doctors care usually when they get this bad hospis come in to sooth her and put her on med to help her thru the bad times. Alot of poeple last into there 100s and have a clear mind. I depends on the help they get they say when you are bad off like that you dont know you are loved but I do think that she knows she is loved. She just cant show it right now . am hoping they get help with her soon so she can rest peacfully
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yeah you are right. I guess although she is in the state right now that cant recognize and remember things easily, I guess in her heart she knows how much she mean to her family. Its never easy growing old, little by little you grow weaker each day. Love and support from family really matters. Thank you for your response.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
1 Oct 07
yup it is hard to see any one health going down Is the same with my mom. BUt she is very alert when I get to take to her on the phone I dont see what my brother and sister sees for I am not up there. but she fights to do the best she can. and family support is the best of all meds. and your welcome
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Your mom is really strong and I adore her for that. I guess until her old days she want to set a good example to her kids. She just showed you how strong she is even in the days of her life when her strength is slowly been taken away from her. You must be very proud of her. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I would want to die, if the time came, that I was unable to take care of myself. I don't ever want to have to depend on anybody else. I could never be happy if I were unable to get up and do what I need, and want to do. To me, that would be utter hell, to depend on others, and I would just be too unhappy, and not want to live.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Me too, I dont want to burden others by taking care of me when I grow old. I want to die in the state that my memory gap is still not that much and I will be able to remember things and memories with my loved ones. I dont want to be a bed ridden... I dont know what is the use of living in that way...I can no longer recognize family members... I dont want to reach that time. Thank you for your response.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
i think if i become a burden to my family members and I'm just a living mummy, I might as well leave this earthly place than people see me in misery. And if I've know that my life will end in a sickly bed, I'd rather go out to enjoy my final days. Than to suffer in the hospital bed and add up to the daily expense my family would have to pay. In the end, it would be better than for them to suffer the financial burden that I will leave them for my unfortunate lot.
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
me too.. i dont want other people to pity me and live in misery. That is too much for me. I would like to die bringing clear memory of my last day on earth with my loved ones. I hope to remember this day that I made this discussion. Thank you evry much.
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@shadowing (309)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 07
I am not greedy, haha! Maybe 60 should be enough. Haha, not really sure but guess I don't really wish stay up to 90 years old.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
hehehe... I guess not all want to grow old that much. Maybe some wants to look good and gorgeous on their last day on earth. Like just a princess/prince sleeping. Hey! Hey! Hey! What am I saying here? Thank you for your response.
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• Malaysia
1 Oct 07
Haha, it's ok, I mean maybe you are quite true.. Haha
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@MarieJ23 (1041)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I am not being hypocrite here but I wanna live until God will allow be to. I still want to show my families and the people around me how much I love them and I think my whole life will not even be enough so I want to have a long life as much as possible.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yes you have a point in there, if you are with your loved ones then you will be dreaming of having the longest life possible just to be with them. Just keep on dreaming and give all teh love that you can give to the people you love. In that way, you will never have regrets in your life. Thank you for your response.
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• India
1 Oct 07
well i cant say the exact date but i would say i would be happy to die when i finish off all my duties and responsibilities and when i have done something useful to the society
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yeah you are right. I guess anyone will die peacefully the moment he/she knows that everything will go well even without him/her. Your family is in happy and good life. You are happy and satisfied with your life. You already showed and receive love you ever wanted. Thank you for your response.
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@prrajan (15)
• India
1 Oct 07
You have touched upon a very nostalgic question. We as humans have this great ability (or shall I call it requirement) to have people close to us; especially so wheh we look at close relatives. We always want them to stay with us (atleast in eternal contact) and this makes us very sensitive towards them. In the case you mentioned Lucky, I guess her relatives would always want her to be with them but at the same time, they would have wanted her to die peacefully since they also cannot tolerate her misery. I have had this experience with my grandfather where we were very charged up emotionally since he had to suffer for a full 6 years before his demise. Coming to myself, I do not have any preferance on the age but when it is comes, I hope and pray it comes in a flash without me troubling myself and/or my near and dear ones. If you want me to point a number, I think I would say about 70 since our immediate family might be settled, kids married and probably have some good time to spend with the grand-children too. Again, the human mind alway wants more - so you never know :-)
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Hmmm... you are very much right with that. You have given a different answer to this question. I should say taht thios is ONE OF THE BEST ANSWER that I receive here in this topic. Thannk you for your time responding. I guess there is nothing more left to say. God bless.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I don't think I want to die at any age, but I don't want to die when I am in good condition, then there would be no reason for me to go. While I don't want to be a burden on my family I want to live as long as I can.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Hmmm? then when will you die? You made me think with that. You dont want to die when you are strong and dont even want to be a burden to your family. :) I guess we cant really choose... this discussion I've started is silly in one way or another. Anyway, thank you for your response.
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• United States
1 Oct 07
I can't put an age on it, but when my health and mind goes, that would be a good time to go. They say that old people regress back to childhood. Sounds like a good case of it!
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yeah you are right in it. The moment taht your body and mind felt taht you need to go then its the right time that you can say its time. We cant say when will it be. The only thing taht we can do is make sure that we live our life to the best that it can be. And we made it meaningful. Thank you for your response.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Hey l_w, This may sound crazy but I don't look very far into the future-I thank God for each day I'm given & when I close my eyes I can say "today is a good day to die-if I don't wake" I'm ready when He's ready for me. +'s |:)
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
You are right in saying that. We have to live by the present. I really enjoy my life as it is right now. There are lots of ups and down and I can never really can tell how many times I was down. Right now, I still sometimes think about the past and what is going to happen in the future. But it doesnt mean that I am not living in my present... sometimes, things just make me wonder. Thank you for your response.
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• United States
1 Oct 07
Well I can not say at what AGE I want to die because, everyone ages differently. You can bet there are some 90 year olds who are pretty much healthy. But I'm like you. I want to live until I can live healthily and happily. I want a clear mind for my whole life. And once I can no longer control my behaivors, that is when I would want to go.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
me too, I cant imagine living in the days that I can no longer go to bathroom to wash my self or comfort room to pee. I dont want to wear diapers and have my daughter or grand daughter change it for me. I cant take it holding from one furnitures to another just to reach the other side of the house. That is too much for me. Thank you for your response.
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I would not want to reach the point that I was incoherent and didn't know what was going on in my life. Like you, I would rather die in a clear state of mind. It' so sad to see elderly people that have gotten to the point that they have no clear conception of what is happening or who their family members are.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
yeah, I guess its hard to be on that situation... but now I am just wondering if they are aware of what was going on with them... couldnt they at least realize the changes that occur to them. I guess its pretty hard but not for them, because they lost all their worries. They might not even thinking what the others thinking about their behavior. At least they just see teh laughter in the eyes of their beloved one. Thank you for your response.
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@barehugs (8985)
• Canada
1 Oct 07
I'm almost 74 and I've been acting like a small kid all my life. MY family loves me and I love them all back. I never feel bad and neither do they. They Laugh and have a good time with me.I try hard to be like a little child. Sometimes I can pull it off very well. I never cry or get mad because I'm laughing too hard. Almost nothing bothers me! Now I'm laughing at this silly Posting. It doesn't make any sense to me at all. My mind isn't clear right now cause I think this is so funny! If you think it funny also, please laugh too.
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Whew! Now I actually getting a response with someone who is slowly reaching a higher age. I salute you with your way of thinking. You really seem not to worry at all. I hope when my turn comes that I'll be on your age, I would also have the courage to laugh and not be bothered at all... Thank you for your response. I really appreciate your time with this silly topic of mine. hahahaha! thank you very much
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@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
That woman is lucky to reach the age of 90. In our generation today, the life span of people have decreased. Old people acting like child is normal. There a lot of old people go through this kind of condition. All the family members must be patient and continue to love their old parents. Sometimes they have depression and feels that they are just a burden to the family. So it is best to feel your love to them.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yes in our generation today, I think that its a little more harder to reach that age with a sharp mind and healthy body. Maybe its because of the food we eat, lack of exercise, the polluted environment we are in, and the chemicals of the instant foods. There are lots of things taht made life easy nowadays.... and it also make dying easy to achieve. Thank you for your response.
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@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
It's been my constant prayer that if God will take me, maybe it be during the times where my kids are all grown ups already. Just for me to make sure that they are already living and heading a life of their own. With a family of their own and a very stable career. I just want to make sure that they will be all okay when I leave.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Wow that was really something. You really love your kids... and it seems they are the only reason why you want to stay alive and long. Such a very touching words... I know how it feels, because I am a mother of two and I know what you mean by that. Im sure they want you to have a long life. Thank you for your response.
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I know a guy that is 92 years old and is happy as can be.. He loves life he's a funny guy and yeah he's dating my grandma.. Their has gotten to be something the matter with this lady to be like this.. Sometimes when old age sets in, some older people gets alls timers (SP) disease and maybe that's what she has.. Maybe... Most of the time people that have this act like this.. It's something people get at that older age or maybe she's sick and don't know how to control herself and acts that way cause that's the only way she knows how.. I am really not sure.. Anyway to answer your question I wanna be as old as I can until god takes me home.. Because not everyone gets the chance to live until they are 90-100 years old.. It's gods way of saying it's not your time yet..
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• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Well, dating your grandma at his age? Wow that was really amazing. I mean... at his age to actually date woman is really unbelievable. And I wonder how old is your grandma. They are really lucky because at their age they still manage to enjoy life. You are right taht not all are lucky to reach that age... Thank you for your response.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
30 Sep 07
Unfortunately... you cannot choose when you are going to die. And believe me... most people who make it to 90 without major health problems... don't want to die. I have seen quite a few women of that age who were remarkably healthy. There is not a set age for being sick or senile. It is an individual thing. And it is half genetic and half a reflexion of your lifestyle. People without major health problems today can expect to live up to 90. Even with health problems... many makes it to 80. When I was 20... I could not imagine being 30. And when I was 30... I could not imagine making it to 40. Today I am in my fifties and it does not really worry me anymore. I take it a day at a time and see what happen.
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Wow that was really amazing! I mean I perfectly see your point and IO guess you are right. Our health does not depend on our age. I just really dont want to reach the point of nothing to remember at all... no matter what the age. If will be given a chance... lols. I just hope when it start to happen, I will not forget this simple wish of mine. Thank you for your response.
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@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I don't know about when I'd like to die chronologically, but I'd like it to be after I've contributed something to the world.