Missing Judy
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
United States
October 1, 2007 7:43pm CST
Several years ago I met a wonderful woman. My daughter was in a relationship and they moved in together. A year into their relationship we were invited to a party for my daughter's boyfriend. His mother, Judy, offered to let us stay at her home (my daughter had no place for us to sleep). I found this a little odd because we had never met Gregg's mom.
When we arrived, she gave us a big hug. She said that she thought the world of Celisa and considered us family.
After the party was over and everyone had gone home, we retired to the living room. I quickly realized that this woman was wonderful. She was friendly, loveable, and caring. We talked until well after midnight.
Through the next 4 years and many visits to the Northeast Kingdon, Judy became one of the best and most important friends I would ever have. We often talked about the difference in our ages. She was the same age as my mother, but I never thought about her age and she never thought of mine. We just hit it off so well.
Judy passed on a few years ago. She died just a few months after she was diagnosed with colon cancer.
I can still hear her laughter, see her smile, feel her warmth. I miss our long talks and time spent together. She will always remain my best friend.
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@VoteforPedro (301)
• United States
2 Oct 07
This is a happy-sad story.
It is so good that you discovered such a friend in your lifetime. I think that you are most fortunate to have had this experience, and I think that many people never have such a friend.
I grieve with you in missing your friend.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I can't remember one moment that wasn't good with her.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
4 Oct 07
Friendships come and friendships go, but this friendship was clearly a special one of four years intense duration. I'm sorry you lost such a close and wonderful friend. I lost a very special friend in 1995 to cancer, and the grief was awful for a time because I didn't expect her to go so soon. In time, the pain passed; but I still stop and think of her sweet and warm and gentle nature from time to time.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Thank you Carl. I know how hard it is to let someone go that means so much to you. But, with keeping them in your heart they live on. Big huggers to you.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
2 Oct 07
It's obvious you thought the world of this lady. Your post was very heart warming. I have always thought of how nice it would be if I had someone in my life outside of my daughter to love me enough that I could talk and tell everything to. You'd be a good friend for anyone with your understanding of a true love/friendship. Take care my friend
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thank you. Meeting Judy was a wonderful experience. I still think back on the fond memories I have of her. Wish we could have had more.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
3 Oct 07
We never know who is going to walk into our lives and change us forever, Elusive. This must have been a remarkable woman for you to honor her so. Rest assured that she is up there smiling down upon you and remembering the wonderful friendship that you enjoyed.(:
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
4 Oct 07
She opened her door to us. We were welcome in her home at anytime. She had the biggest heart I have ever known.
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
2 Oct 07
Hi Elusive, and it was really heart warming and at the same time so sad to read your story here. Thank you for sharing it with us, nad I am sure that somehow your friend Judy knows what a difference she has made in your life and is still with you :)
Friendships as the one you had with her is not easly to come by and have, so you were really chosen to live such a friendship and be able to tell about it. I am sorry about your loss Elusive, and no one could ever replace it. Rememeber her as you do, and she will always be part of your life, until you meet her again. Peace
TheFortunes
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
3 Oct 07
I often find myself talking to her as if she were right beside me. She will always remain close in my heart.
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. She sure sounds like she was a wonderful lady who touched the lives of those around her. I hope you can treasure those good times you had together and pass on some of that love she showed you. Cancer is a nasty disease that sneaks up on you. I hope they find a cure soon. Best wishes.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
2 Oct 07
It is sad when you lose such a good friend. You will miss her for a long time. It is not often that we can find that type of friend. Just always remember the special times you spent together. I am sure you were as important to her as she was to you.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
2 Oct 07
That is a sad story but just think, you had had time to enjoy and nurture her friendship so now you have nice memories to draw on.
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@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
2 Oct 07
it's so sad to hear your bestfriend is gone. But don't worry , she is well taken care of right now with our heavenly Father. I am sure of that.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
2 Oct 07
That is very touching. It is not easy to find someone that can touch your life in such a way that Judy touched yours. You are truly blessed to have had this woman in your life. I know you must miss her terribly, but she still continues to make you smile, to laugh and you have such wonderful memories of your long talks and time well spent together. I think that is more than some people have in their entire life. Thanks so much for sharing this part of your life with us! I was really touched by this.
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@sunfish05 (32)
• China
2 Oct 07
I am sorry to hear that your friend passed. I never have the experience about friends leave me forever, so I can't understand your mood completly. But i konw you so sad that miss her so much.
I can say you have many friends also, be kind with them, just remember her is ok.
@chym1101 (169)
• China
4 Oct 07
hello, elusivebutterfly. You are lucky that you have got such a good friend. There are some people who can make you warm and comfortable when you communicate with them or even beside them with no words. I think Judy is such a person.It is a pleasure to have a true friendship, so you are lucky.
I think Judy is lucky too, because she had a good friend like you, and she must have appreciated it. And Judy should have not suffered much pain as she passed on just a few months after she was diagnosed with colon cancer. So, don't be so grieved!
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