My Best Friend is having affair with a married lady!

@amirev777 (2552)
India
October 14, 2007 4:32am CST
Hi! my best friend has a neighbour-she is a beautiful lady in her mid-twenties.Its been 3 years since she is married-she has no children.Her husband,not avery energetic person,still a good person frm heart works on Transhipper-his is one day on,one day off.When he is on duty his wife is also on duty with my friend.I have tried my best to tell my friend to stop this affair-but he says that woman cant just leave without him-what shud i do?
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12 responses
@lucy67 (819)
• China
14 Oct 07
try to persuade your friend to stop such a dangerous thing coz it may hurt three persons involved. tell your friend the terrible result that may may come. perhaps you may also tell the woman about the terrible result.
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@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi! i have tried my best to tell my friend but he will never listen coz he believs that its best to have an affair with married woman coz'they dont tell,yell,swell and you dont have to ring the wedding bell'!!!
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@Dee351972 (743)
15 Oct 07
Hi, well i am not really sure if there is any more you can or should do. Your freind is a grown man he needs to handle it himself. If you already told him you disaprove then i feel that is all you can do. The olny other thing is for you to tell the husband but then again you be getting in his busniess and i am not sure if you should or not. His this man your freind also?
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@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
14 Oct 07
I think if you have tried already to get him to stop having a relationship with her, then you should leave them be. He is responsible for what is and what could happen by continuing the relationship with a married person. You did what you could. It is up to him to stop it.
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Hello amirev, That's a stup?d alibi amire. Sorry for my use of word I he says no she can do nothing about it. If he believes that the girl can't leave him then he should initiate and do the parting ways. The only key to stop that elicit affair of them is only your friend.
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@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi! my friend will certainly not initiate coz he is getting to eat the cake and have it too!For him its lust i m sure not love.
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• Philippines
15 Oct 07
What was he waiting for? A more worst scenario to happen? What if they will be caught, then it will be a big problem. So let him choose and decide. If he's willing to take the risk of what he is doing then you need not to tell him. It his life anyway! At least later on you will not be blame you have told him already but he is such hardheaded.
• Malaysia
14 Oct 07
If you want a good end, you should explain to the lady. Or if you brave enough, tell the husband. Maybe you can warn your friend to tell the husband should he still have an affair with the lady.
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@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi! i have never spoken to this lady-even if i were to give her some advice she will surely tell me to mind my own business!
• Malaysia
15 Oct 07
Your friend is your business, So you're minding your own business. And the lady is doing something to your business. Their affair will come to either to an end or the husband caught your friend. There will be no forever like that. What do you prefer? If you don't care about your friend, then go on with your business. And hoping that the husband will not shout at you: "Hey damn idiot! Tell your friend to stop f**king my wife or I'll shoot both of your a*s!" Figure it out, before it happens. Good luck.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
Its always best to mind your own business! Why should you get involved in another persons private love affair? These things have a way of working out, (and its usually for the best) if left alone. Theres an old saying that Goes......All things work out for the Best!
@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
HI! i knw it is best to mind my own business,but the husband of this lady is a descent guy,someone who does not deserve such a wife-dont u think his wife shud tell him the thruth rather than cheating him like this?
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• China
14 Oct 07
hi amirev.i think your should try to persuade your friend to consider many factors,including the real attitude and towards him and her purpose,the relationship between her and her hubby,the lady's real intention ,the problem facing them in marriage.i think loveing a person especially marry a ever married person is absolutely an easy thing,which will be involved in many things hard to settle.so he must think before leap.if they don't want to get married,just act on impulse,i advise him to stop their relationship as soon as possible which will do good to they three.do you think so?
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@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi! I have tried my best to dissuade him from continuing with this relationship-but he just doesnt seem to understand.I knw that he wants a no-string attached relationship with her.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
Accept the fact that there is nothing you can do about this, it is between him and the woman, and the consequences will be theirs, you may lose a friend over this if you interfere and it will accomplish nothing as the affair will continue until what ever ending is going to happen, happens. so stay out of him love life and keep you thoughts feelings and ideas to your self, any or all can and will cause a world of hurt and you will be no further ahead
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@paintwet (165)
• China
14 Oct 07
let it be. maybe they have the deep feeling.love is not anyone else can know.
@amirev777 (2552)
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi! i know its not love but lust from my friends side and i wud consider it really outrageous for a married lady to love some other man when she is still living as his wife.
• Romania
15 Oct 07
Do your best to tell him that what he is doing is wrong and it may change his life.. if the woman's husband finds out! They can't keep the secret for ever.. the neighbours may see them, a friend may tell the whole world through the internet! All you can do is tell him that sooner or later his husband will find out and he'll need a new backbone! If he doesn't listen just tell him that you did your part as a friend!
@shadowing (309)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 07
Hi Amirev. Well, in fact there is nothing much you can do right now. I mean you have done your part by advising him, since he refused to take it, just forget about it. It is not because of you don't really mind about his action but you can't do anything. Anyway, he is a lucky one to have a friend like you. Take care and all the best.
@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
15 Oct 07
since there is nothing you can do to stop them two because it is their choice. now the only thing that you can do is to keep on advising to your friend that it is not good since the girl is already married. you tell him about the the commandments God has made and one of which is the though shall not covet thy neigbors wife. it is a sin. i am not saying that you would tell the ladies husband, no that is not good. just let the time come that her husband will discover it someday. okay then bye