parenting qualities

@bgerig (1259)
United States
October 14, 2007 3:52pm CST
What would you consider to be the five most important qualities for a couple to have to be good parents?
6 people like this
17 responses
• United States
19 Oct 07
This is a tough one... I think they should be devoted to their kids, the whole "I'll drop everything if my kid is sick", they should be financially secure, actually take time to play with the kids and teach them things, be nurturing, and take them out and not drop them off at the babysitters all the time
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
17 Oct 07
love,patience,communication,responsible,honesty,respect wow that more than 5,well those are what i think.
• Canada
17 Oct 07
1) Love 2) Patience 3) Communication 4) Compassion 5) Understanding
@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
loving - Good parents love children unconditionally. It doesn't matter if the child is physically attractive or not, intelligent or not, has problems with health or not. Good parents love their children no matter what. responsible - Good parents recognize that it is their responsibility to give their children a head start in life and seek to give the best that they could given the resources available to them. This refers to all aspects of life, the physical well being, the emotional needs, the material things, the parent's presence etc. Good parents are reliable. Good parents are always there to support their kids. patient - Every parent knows that children may be exasperating at various times in their growing up stage. Good parents recognize that this is part of growing up and are patient enough to endure these stages. morally upright - Good parents have a firm moral backbone and can diffentiate between what is morally right and what is morally wrong and make sure their children grow up with the right values. selfless - Good parents put their children's welfare before their own.
@youless (87499)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Oct 07
1. responsibility 2. care 3. love 4. patience 5. devote
@kaplya (1578)
• India
16 Oct 07
1.responsible, 2.caring 3.humorous 4.desciplined 5.understanding in my opinion these are the things a must for couples when it comes to good parenting.
@mouse27 (1156)
• Canada
16 Oct 07
love is the most importand one then theres patience acceptance tolerance and understanding
@kevere26 (223)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Here's my list: 1. To be patient, loving and affectionate. 2. To be consistent. 3. To honor the child's uniqueness as a human being through active listening. 4. To honor the differences in other people. 5. To praise children for their accomplishments.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
15 Oct 07
I consider what I am applying to my family now for parenting qualities, is the best to me and my family. And it is all about to have and apply; 1. One' family Organization Chart, 2. Decision Making System, 3. Family Teamwork Building System, 4. Family Financial Planning (short-mid-long term), & 5. Family Operation, Monitoring and Control.
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
15 Oct 07
nice discussion bgerig. i think they should be God-fearing, teaching their kids the way of the Lord. they can also only get the best parenting techniques in the bible, such as not to exasperate children. they are parents more than just providers. they are there for their kids. even if they earn so much money and their family is wealthy, but if they are not there for there kids, what value is there to that? their kids will not appreciate it. in the end, they just become spoiled brats, no discipline, no love, just material things. :-)
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
15 Oct 07
1.loving parents because if you don't love your children you will not be an effective parent 2.a good listener because we parents need to listen to our children so that we will know their feelings and so that we know how to solve their problems and be always open in every ways 3.a responsible parents because we need to work not only that, we need to be responsible in many ways that we can as a parent 4.a role model because what the children see from us they will immitate that, so we need to be a good model for them 5.lastly, a patient parent because parents need to be patient to their children because as we all know children don't know yet what are good and bad for them,they have more weaknesses that need to have guidance and need to give more patients..
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Love, compassion, commitment, patience and the ability to listen.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
14 Oct 07
The first thing is the parents must know they rule the house not the kids. The second thing is the parents must show by example, and there be no do as I say, not as I do. The third thing is the parents must not show favoritism. The fourth thing is the parents must remember their children are not miniature adults. The fifth thing is that God is above all, and just as the children must obey their parents, the parents must obey God.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
14 Oct 07
Pateints,love,good rules,helping hand,guidence
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
14 Oct 07
First and foremost would be UNCONDITIONAL love....Also being patient, being understanding...accepting and ALLOWING the child to be his/her own person rather than an extention of the parent OR how the parent THINKS the child should be (that drives me NUTS)....Great communication...NOTHING should be considered "taboo" or off limits to talk about...Being honest with the children (age appropriate of course)...WANTING to hear their thoughts and opinions as well as taking them into consideration when making family decisions..and DON'T tell them they are wrong for thinking, feeling, believing as they do... I think thats more than five LOL I could go on and on about it too...and ALL of them IMO are important..there is IMO no limit or grading when it comes to what it takes to be a good parent....does that make sense? I also truly believe that what is excellent and what works for one family of course won't work for the next ya know....
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
14 Oct 07
Five qualities that I would choose as necessary for good parents are: loving, compassionate, patient, understanding, honest. These are only five, there are many others. Blessings.
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
14 Oct 07
Hard workers, as it takes alot of hard work to support a family financially, and children. Good listeners as one has to be a good listener to understand the children. Good problem solvers, as child will create many different challenges, that the parent will need to resolve... Good heart to give the child the proper love and caring that they need. Good Judgement... because a child will try to patience, and judgement. - DNatureofDTrain