I Love Her ! But I Can't Express My Feelings to Her ! What to Do ?

@prazad (281)
India
October 24, 2007 5:45am CST
I love one girl she lives near to my home, we used to talk, but now i think that i am in love but i am unable to tell this one to her, what to do? Expecting intelligent, Experienced suggestions (help) from your heart.
3 responses
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
24 Oct 07
If I were you, I'd send her a written love letter and ask her to meet me somewhere (in a cafe) at an appointed time and date if she feels that she has feelings for you too...so that you guys can talk about it then. Plus you'll get a date at the same time. ;-D Just don't wait too long, though. My brother waited too long once and found out that another guy was faster in declaring his love for her! YIKES!!!
• Finland
24 Oct 07
Yeah, but I mean you can tell her in the letter how you really feel for her...and then ask her to meet you at a specific cafe at a specific time as an answer if she loves you back. If she doesn't come, then you'll get your answer.
@prazad (281)
• India
24 Oct 07
but dont you think with this i may lose her friendship!
@prazad (281)
• India
24 Oct 07
Dear ailema, We had met in cafe and have had lunch, moreover we are friends also, but the problem is that i love her, but i don't know whether she loves me other than friendships.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
24 Oct 07
I see that you are from India --first of all, is the girl educated? Do you know her or is she just a simple acquaintance? Do you think that she is likely to have a conditioned upbringing? In many communities, here in I ndia, the system of arranged marriages is prevalent and if the girl is from a conditioned background she may not welcome your overtures. If you are seriously considering making your life with her , then , do not hesitate to talk to her . Just be friends, and see if she also feels that there is some attraction . Ascertain her background and do not get disappointed later. Continue talking to her, and try to find out her views about arranged marriage, love marriage, her expectations from life etc..,Assess if there is a fair chance and make up your mind well-think logically and clearly whether she will suit you in every way and do not fall for whims. Women are good in taking rational , sensible decisions and if she does not look like a person who wants a commitment from you then it means she thinks you are not suitable. Only talking through things will help you come to an instinctive evaluation of the situation. Is she open enough to share her ideas with you? Does she want to spend time with you? Check all this before you tell her-you should not cut a sorry figure with her.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
24 Oct 07
I read all the other discussions only after I posted my first response, but now I realise that you have been spending some time with her and are not sure of her. Are you well settled with a good job? Now, you talk about serious matters-as I had told you earlier, about her expectations from life and try to assess your chances.
@prazad (281)
• India
24 Oct 07
thank you for the advice. i she is very close to me but only as a good friend, for me the problem is that if i express my feelings i may lose her friendship.
24 Oct 07
First off, you need to get the communication going between you both again, why do you not speak anymore? Don't jump in with both feet blurting out your feelings, she'd probably run screaming to the hills. If you manage to start talking again you'll have something to build on, but take your time, give her time to like you too.
@prazad (281)
• India
24 Oct 07
actually i talk her regularly but i am afraid to tell her that i love her, how can i make her to know that i love him!
24 Oct 07
oh, you said you used to.. I think you'd know if she had any interest in you beyond friendship, does she give you any signs? Ask if she'd like to go out for lunch with you, it's not quite as intimate as dinner, and if she says yes i'd say you were in with a good chance of her sharing your feelings. Don't rush it though, good luck
@prazad (281)
• India
24 Oct 07
we had lunch together and went for some movies also.. i think she consider me as a good friend. What should i try to know whether she is willing a relation ship with me ?