How do you help your daughter to become more confident?

United States
October 28, 2007 4:41pm CST
I think one of the greatest gifts we can give our daughters, is the ability to trust her own judgement. To be able to speak up when she has a question or an opinion, without fear. My daughter is very sweet, kind-hearted and sensitive. She is fifteen and I am noticing more and more that she likes to be in the background when she's with kids her own age. Does anyone have any tips on perhaps getting her to become more sociable?
4 responses
@dpk262006 (56479)
• Delhi, India
30 Nov 07
I agree with your views. We must infuse self-confidence and ability to fight all odds in life, besides taking decisions herself, in our daughter. Good Post!
@SViswan (12071)
• India
29 Oct 07
Maybe she's an observer and likes to watch and not be in the thick of things. You can talk to her and ask her. I feel it's not important to push her if she doesn't want to do it. You have appreciated her good qualities and know her as a sweet, kind-hearted and sensitive girl. That is what is important. Ask her why she doesn't speak up when she has an opinion. She probably doesn't want to argue when her opinion is different. As long as she is honest with herself, I guess you should let her be. But a frank talk would help you to understand your daughter better.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
28 Oct 07
Find something she is good in or wants to do and let her be with kids her age who have the same interests. If it is something she is really good in she will gain confidence. Of course some kids are just quiet by nature and it has nothing to do with confidence.
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
28 Oct 07
Hello and god evening. I have a daughter 20 years old. She moved from home for about 8 month ago. Living on the same street as me and her brother. I noticed the same thing with my daughter in her early teens. However, instead of telling no to everything she wanted to do I listen to her and what she had to say. I said I will think about this, and come back. After a couple of day┬┤s I went back to her and gave her my thoughts about it, some different respective on the issue we had. Then I said to her, you make your own decision and even if I did not like this I knew it was the best way to get what I wanted. But I taught her to make her own judgment and gave her a better confident and it made her more self shore of what she could do and not do. We had and still have god relationship with no or less conflicts. And her friends do wonder why sometimes. I think it is important to let go, but you help out to get what you want without any big conflicts. I hope this help a bit anyway. Being a teen is not easy and today with all the must do things even for kids it is harder and harder. It is easy to lose your self confidence. You can do so much as a mum. And just by letting them make their own judgment can do much.