Do you ever want to tell people on your discussions to "get a room"?
By Leca
@lecanis (16647)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
October 29, 2007 3:35pm CST
Okay, so we all know by now I'm sure that certain users tend to follow other certain users around and flirt with them. And then the other person flirts back, and if they're lucky a friend or two joins in, and it just turns your poor discussion into one big gigglefest.
Does this bother you? Or do you feel happy that anyone responded to your discussion in the first place? Do you feel lucky to be the host to such fun parties, or disappointed at the lack of seriousness shown? Considering a few of these people are quite respected members of the mylot community, do you feel they have the right to indulge in a little fun? Or do you just want to tell them to get a room, and get off your poor little discussion??
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16 responses
@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Hey Lecanis!
Uumm, I dont think I have had the pleasure of witnessing this sort of discussion. Im missing out!! lol
On another, but sort of the same note, I do dislike it when your commment strikes up a converstation between two people and what they are talking about has nothing to do with you, and your not really interested in participating. Then before you know it, you have 40 to 50 emails in your box fromt his conversation. Sure I could turn my comment alert off, but then it doesnt alert me to other comments on other disucssions and weeding through "disucssions Ive responded too" can be tedious and time consuming.
So, erm, are you going to direct me to these discussions your talking about? LOL Yeah Im a feak....but shhhhh, dont tell anyone!!! ;)
Bay Lay Gray xx
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Hmmm... you haven't seen this? Funny, I thought you'd see me do it at least a couple of times. *giggles*
Ah, I hadn't thought about the email issue, since I don't use the email alerts. (I'm so addicted I come here before my email anyway.) Now I'm thinking... I think I did that to you on a discussion not long ago, put a bunch of stuff under your response. Sorry!!!
There's a link to one about kitchen appliances somewhere on the first page of this discussions, which was the most recent one that caught my attention.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Oct 07
*giggles* Oh, good, I was worried it was me who flooded you inbox like that. *breathes a sigh of relief*
Haha, yeah, people who flirt a lot tend not to notice as much I think. And I think a lot of my flirts are subtler than I realize sometimes, because they're in-jokes with me and the other people involved.
Awww. I have a few people I flirt with, though one is definitely my favorite. Unfortunately, he seems to be a lot of other people's favorite too, so I have to share. =p
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@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Oh! It wasnt you sweet! lol I mean its not life threatening, but its annoying when Im using my email for other things, and I cant turn it all off. Thats all. Its more structured for me, and I can keep better track of where Ive been and where I need to go.
I will have to check out that discussion then, I guess I have seen you say 1 or 2 things but I dont notice it too much! lol Your alright with me, Im a big flirt really too. I just havent found anyone to flirt with on here as of yet! ;o)
Bay xx
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Hey I was nice on your discussions! I'm only really trouble if people are stalking me, and then they make comments, and then I make comments back at them, and it all goes downhill from there. Though I was tempted to make some dirty comment about people using you, but... I was good! =P
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
30 Oct 07
My confession, I love online flirting. It is sooo much fun and so harmless. Many times it can make a deep discussion a bit lighter. Sometimes it can make a playful discussion a bit more playful. Even if I can't think of anything to say to get in the middle of the pack, I do love to read about the action.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Hehe, I love online flirting too. Glad to know I'm not the only one who thinks it is harmless. Some people just worry too much about silly things. =)
I know what you mean about not always knowing what to say in the middle of the pack. There are times I want to jump in, but don't, just because there doesn't seem to be anything to add. Still, reading is fun.
Ah, yes, the perky ones are fun! =P
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
29 Oct 07
Well, sometimes when i have a good friend pop into a discussion it's just for a cute little flirt or 2 but it never lasts long and doesn't turn into anything, it doesn't ever really bother me unless the whole discussion is turned into something it's not.
I enjoy it when people can make the discussion fun as well as meaningful, but if they change the whole topic, i too tend to get a little irritable.
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
29 Oct 07
there sure is, and i don't mind it so much if it's a flirt or 2, or even a how ya doing thing, just gets me wanting to say 'if you want to talk about 'this' make a discussion for it, when they go off in a totally different discussion from the top, you know?
hey do i have you on my messenger?
haha here i go changing the subject, sorry :P
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
30 Oct 07
no in reality this is is not a point which it worries me such when a start a discussion or answer to another i think in both cass is good that everybody give their point of view related to the topic we are discussing..so everybody asnwer to my discussion giving a simply opinion or more detailed one is ok..it is good the same..here we are all to share so let's sharing!!
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Whoa how'd I miss heavy Mylot flirting?? ARe you serious theres ppl doing that in here? LOL omg thats flippin hilarious to me! But that being said, if it went on in one of my discussions I dont know how I'd feel about it..I mean if it was a serious discussion and an intense topic then I dont htink I'd appreciate it at all to be honest with you but if it was just a every day type topic then I'd probably just ignore it I think....
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Ravenladyj, I agree with you that if it were a really intense topic, such behavior would be offensive. I try to behave myself on those sorts of topics.
This discussion was mostly me making fun of myself because someone told me and a friend that this wasn't a dating site... hehe. So if you followed me around, you'd see some flirting.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I've tried avoiding these types of discussions lately, I'm guilty as one of those but have dropped the habit already. Most of the times, I would just chat with them through PM since I know that others will get annoyed or atleast get offended by it.
I also realized that if I were the one's who sees it, I know that I will also feel bothered by it since they are talking of things that are way out of the topic already.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
31 Oct 07
I see your point here...although it hasn't happened to me. Fun is great...but I am not sure it is very respectful to you or your discussion to take the topic in a whole different direction for their own amusement. It probably would be more considerate for one of them to 'move their love fest' to one of their own sites and carry on with it there.
Even though I'm all for fun...discernment and consideration for others is something I'd place a higher emphasis on this one.
You do have some interesting observations and experiences and it is good to give members the high five when they drop the ball. This is supposed to be a cooperative sharing community...so I agree...lets consider the cause and effect of 'carrying on' when it is not relevant to what the discussion.
So long for now Lecanis...hope things are going well with you, your son and hubby. And yes, Happy Sanhaim to you and yours.
Raia
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Oct 07
Um, Raia dear, not that I don't appreciate your response, but... to be honest I'm one of the worst culprits of the thing I'm complaining about. The discussion was kind of me making fun of myself. *blushes*
It is true that there is a point at which it becomes more respectful to move to a more private mode of communication, and I do so when that's true. However, I do often follow people around and play with them on other people's discussions. I hope you haven't completely lost respect for me with this admission! lol
I hope you have a lovely day as well!
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Oct 07
Hmmmm I had to laugh when I seen this discussion coming from one of the culprits! I had a mental list of the others and sure enough I see that you accomplices also have responded here. LOL
I never do this at all!
I think it is fun, keep it up.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Me, a culprit!?? *giggles* And yes, so many of the accomplices are here. It's like a party! =)
Haha, thanks for your support! I'm surprised I didn't get anyone who was really offended or anything here... my faith in the general fun-loving part of humanity is restored!!
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
Honestly, it doesn't bother me at all. And if i do i still couldn't find the nerve to tell them; afraid they might get offended.
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@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I have seen one topic that I wanted to spark a giggle but I was afraid they might not like it. Don't know her that much you know. The topic was so hot that you will be tempted to offer any flirtish suggestions.
I guess I just don't know any by-lines. Any suggestions?
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Hmm, you have a good point about behaving differently depending on if you know the person... I'm usually flirty with the people I consider my close friends here. A couple of them are new friends, but the one I flirt with most has been my friend here for like... 7-8 months by now I think?
Haha, for me it's usually taking whatever the discussion was and twisting it. I'm not sure I have any by-lines... I tend to just say whatever pops into my head. Maybe you're just not dirty-minded enough by nature? Actually, if you read this entire discussion, you'll see plenty of fun innuendo I'd think. =P
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Oct 07
Haha, that's a hilarious story!
I think in those situations it's easiest just to make comments about things around you, or about the mode of transportation in general, or to compliment something the person is wearing. That sort of general remark, so you don't come across as threatening or anything. And then flirt after she gets comfortable with you. =P
Poor girl, getting approached by a salesman like that! How annoying!
@topei12 (272)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
Talk about flirting, but not in mylot. I just happen to sit beside a pretty lady in a bus on my way home. Would like to start something with her but just don't want to say. When the sit across got vacant she transferred and suddenly a man sat beside her and had some nice talk with her. I was a bit surprised and got envy discovering that the girl was friendly after all. As I lestened, the man suddenly offered some leaflets and somehow trying to endorse a product. LoL. He wasn't interested with her but with her investment on their company. lol!
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