If your parent needed a place to live, would you take him/her in?

United States
November 11, 2007 9:01pm CST
Are you close enough to your parents that you would take them in or would you send them to a home?With me, I would take them in.I was close to both parents. But what if you aren't close? Would you still take them in?
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24 responses
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
Hello sarah!c",) Yes no doubt that i would take them in, i love them both and i want them to be happy for the rest of their lives. They have been very loving parents to all of us and i want to spend my life serving them. Seeing my Aunt now and my cousin's situation makes me realize how lucky i am to still have both my parents...
@femimi (872)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 07
Of course I will take them if they want.
• China
13 Nov 07
of course i will take them in. in fact, i am not that close to them, but i love them. they brought me up, they gave me the best education, they afforted me what i need, there is nothing could be more important than them. so, if they have no place to live, i will take them in.
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@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
13 Nov 07
In a heartbeat. I wouldn't think twice about it. My parents put a roof over my head and took care of me. If they need anything I would be there because I know that they would do the same for me. There's no way I'd turn my parents away.
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@gwendovere (1283)
• United States
12 Nov 07
H*** no! My parents were abusive, and I would send them to a state hospital where they would be forced to endure the abuse & hatred & anger toward them that I had to face the first 22 years of my life. What goes around, comes around.
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• United States
12 Nov 07
Exactly. If they had treated you right then they would be treated right when they got old. But since they weren't, they won't have loving care now that they are old.
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@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
In my country, the Philippines, it is not a practice to have our older people sent to caring homes. Children takes care of their ageing parents. We take it as a responsiblity among ourselves that we take care of the older people in the family (even if they are not our parents, like an aunt or a grandparent) if they are sick or are not able to care for themselves already. It is our way of showing respect for them and thanking them for taking care of us all when we are still kids. In our culture, we believe that what we do that our parents, like taking care of them, will also come back to us when we grow old. We would like to set good examples to our kids, showing to them that we love our older people, so that someday when we grow old they will have the same values and take care of us also.
• United States
12 Nov 07
It sounds like how it should be in all families.The parents took great care of their children and when the parent need help, the children takes care of the parents.Fantastic.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
i would still take them in even if i weren't close with them. think of it as a way of paying them back for taking care of you when you were under their wing. i know it can be difficult living with them but they won't be here forever. it's a little sacrifice compared to what they've gone through raising you and your other siblings.
• United States
12 Nov 07
What if they weren't there for you when you were young? Would you still take them in?
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
A part of our culture is by having close family-ties, we're not sued to sending them on nursery homes or shelter. It's like we're brought up to it, even if we don't have that much we would keep them just to make sure that they are personally taken cared of. It would be ungrateful for a son or a daughter to not keep their parents who took care of them when they were still kids, even if their parents aren't that close to them. Besides, there's no other person to look for each other but us families.
@nempel (139)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 07
hello sarahruthbeth22, for right now, in my mind, definatelly I'll do that, I will take my parrents with me, but who knows about future, I can't even predict my future mind and atitute, but I wish I'm not.
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• United States
12 Nov 07
I would take my parents in to live with me. I am close to both of them.I could never put my parents into a home. They took care of me and in return I would take care of them.And if I was not close to them.I would still take them in.
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@Ann2407 (306)
• China
12 Nov 07
Surely I will, remembering the self-giving love they ever gave to you when you were still a little kid.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
13 Nov 07
It is really a personal choice... You would make that choice in accordance with the relationship you have with your parents. But I was told recently about some interesting law in France. Parents who have money are not allowed to refuse any of their children their inheritance. They cannot give their money to anyone... but their children once they die. On the other hand... once the parents reach 65... if they are poor and need assisstance... the children are forced by law to look after their parents.
• United States
14 Nov 07
That type of law would never work with some families here in the States. I could see some children going to jail instead of giving an abusive parent any money.
• Australia
14 Nov 07
Not that simple anymore. With the advance of technology and the computer, the governments now deduct what ever money they want from your monthly salary before it evens get into your bank account. And if that don't work... they'll get you at tax time. Besides... going to jail won't help you. They'll just take your house or whatever you got. You cannot fight the government if you have any kind of money.
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@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
28 Dec 07
I am close with my mother, so it is hard for me to answer the last part of your question. As it is, I would gladly "take my mother in" if she needed or wanted me to. She just turned 76 and lives in an elderly only community. Her own lovely house and many friends to keep her busy. Her second husband left her quite well off, so she doesn't suffer from lack of security. She is going to hawaii in January. She is living her elder years quite comfortably and she deserves it. She was always there for her 6 children and still is. PEACE
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• United States
28 Dec 07
Wish your mom a fun and safe trip for me.
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
28 Dec 07
Aw, thanks sarah. I sure will. PEACE
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@scorpio16 (1707)
• India
24 Dec 07
I do not think that if someone is not close to parents, they would like to keep them along. First of all, there has to be an adjustment between parents and themselves so that unliking would not come in between, But if once it has cropped up then probably, they would not like to stay together.
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• United States
27 Dec 07
Unfortunately, there are households where the kids and parents never got along. I don't see the kids having the parents stay at their place.
@dianagnes (1088)
• Singapore
21 Dec 07
Im having a living with them in this humble home of my family.In future,i will take them to stay with me..i will take care of them likewise they have take care of me when i was young until now. For being a good young teens and able to lead life like normal.They are my parents and i dont dare to send them to a olf folks home or etc.They had childrens,their daughter and sons.Why must we all let them away... They give all their love and care to me and i wont miss the chance to give them all my best to take care of them and support them all they way.. Let say it is an "IF" If they are not close to me;for what reasons...they are apart of me for years...or they does not care about me when i was young,suddenly i knew them now..hahaha.. thats maybe i will consider because if parents are like that..we must check out whats behind the scene..if acceptable..i will..if not..take on consideration.. lol...=) But still,i will always care for my parents throughout my life! =)
• United States
23 Dec 07
If they are loving parents then of course you would want to take them in and care for them like they took care of you.But if the child and the parents aren't as close, then would they or wouldn't they take them in.
@youless (93521)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Dec 07
Sure, that goes without saying. I am also a parent today, so I know it is very difficult to be a good parent. And I like my parents to live with us. It is more like a whole family. And I can take good care of them.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
28 Dec 07
i will definitely take them with me. I am very close with my parents. so i like them very much. i want to supprt then well when they are old.
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• United States
28 Dec 07
Right now i live with my mom (since i cant afford to move out). So i would definitely return the favor and take her in if she ever needed somewhere to live. I think even if i wasnt close to my parents i would probably take them in.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
28 Dec 07
Right now I am living with my parents. I am planning to get married in one or two years. I would like to stay with my parents as they had stayed with me when I was young. I think most people should stay with their own parents and take care of them. In our places most people live like joint families. I also like the idea of joint families. It is fun to live in a joint family than single family. Years ago in our place most people lived in big houses together. There were houses which have more than 22 rooms and had more than 20 people living together. I support joint family. I love to stay with my parents.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
24 Nov 07
I would take them in, but get them services like I have as soon as possible so they could get back to be independent amd I could get my life back. No I wouldn't send them to home as I hate nursing homes!
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