Overwhelming Response!!!

@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
November 14, 2007 5:39pm CST
I started a discussion yesterday that I considered pretty run-of-the-mill. I figured I would be lucky to get 7 or 8 responses out of it. Who knew? I received such an outpouring of heartfelt responses from this topic that I really agonized over which responder to award the best response to. I think I went through them all about 3 times before I finally settled on one. This brought up another question: Have you ever felt that you deserved to get the best response from a discussion and were disappointed when you did not?
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22 responses
• United States
15 Nov 07
I wish that we didn't have to choose the best response for any of our discussion. I am grateful to all who respond to my discussions. Never am I disappointed when someone else is chosen for best response. But, I feel that the best response system should be done away with because it can hurt the feelings of others.
@GardenGerty (157622)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I like to recognize what best fit the spirit and idea of my discussion, or whatever solution helps me most with a problem.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I don't think it should be done away with, Elusive. I see nothing wrong with being recognized by your peers when you give a good, thoughtful response.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
I still don't understand why we even give a "best response". How often do you notice when someone has received it? I don't even notice the times I get it never mind anyone else. I really don't think it hurts anyones feelings not to get it.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I feel the same as GardenGerty. I don't even care if BR has already been awarded I still give my best anyway. I'm not a mnd reader so there's no way for me to know exactly what the person was looking for. Just because mine or someone else's seemed "best" to me doesn't mean it was "best" to them. When I do get it I feel really good and when I don't, I don't even think about it.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I appreciate your honest response, foxyfire. It is what we should all strive for-to give the best answers that we possibly can.
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@GardenGerty (157622)
• United States
14 Nov 07
No, I do not worry about whether or not I earn a best response. I actually have gotten some that I did not think I deserved. I am flattered to receive them, though, and feel good about it.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Believe it or not, GG, I have never even checked to see if I've gotten a best response.
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@Aurone (4755)
• United States
15 Nov 07
No, I am pretty hard on myself and would never consider my comment to deserve the best response. I am always thrilled when someone chooses mine as the best response. But I always consider the fact that the information I provide, just might not be the information the person is looking for. I have, however, run into the problem of who to give the best response to. Sometimes you get some really great responses and it is so hard to decide.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
The choice can be tough at times, Aurone. The discussion I mentioned previously was, I think, the hardest one I ever had to choose.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I really don't worry about it as I figure that I will answer a discussion even if they have already given the best response to the question. I am here to discuss what I can and make a little money and help my friends make some money.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Well, carolscash, it's not high on my list of priorities either. I was just curious about how others feel.
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
15 Nov 07
No I never get disappointed about not getting best response, in fact, it's the opposite feeling when I do...I'm genuinely surprised to get it. I often have your dilemma though in trying to choose best response for people who have responded to my discussions though. I sometimes have two or three maybe four that are fantastic and can't decide. But I always rate everyone pluses anyway at least
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Yes, pyewacket, I agree that it's only fair to rate the responses as long as they are semi-intelligent.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 07
No it doesn't bother me at all it never has I just put my opinion and that is it
• United States
26 Nov 07
I get dissapointed when the poster choosed a best response before I even get a change to see the discussion. Some posters seem to choose a best response a few hours after they posted. I think they should give more people a chance, since you can't change it.
• India
15 Nov 07
I never thought about getting applaud for best response andi always right what i feel and i try my level best to express my feelings and opinions about the discussions...
• United Arab Emirates
15 Nov 07
I am never disappointed for not selecting my response as the best. I believe there are lot of people here who give the best of opinions and they deserve it. Yes, once I felt that my response will be selected for being the best, but then I did not get it so I left it. No hard feelings. If I ever get selected for the best response, I will definitely be happy.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
15 Nov 07
well to me my friend i think we shouldn't have to choice because every reponse i get is always great information to me and i always have a hard time choosing,but if i do recieve the best response then i am very flattered about it and i greatly appreciate it as well.pattie
• India
15 Nov 07
No it don;t make any sense , only one person can be chosen as the best responder of a question right - so we should not get disappointed even if our response is not the best response , but we should try again and again for that - finally we will be the best .
@babs_h (20)
• Ireland
15 Nov 07
Im reallt new to this site and i dont even know how to check id i have gotten any best responses. How do I check that??!!! I just reply to discussiob that i feel ionterested about
• China
15 Nov 07
my answer don't have any best response , i think it is all my mistake.maybe my answer is too short .
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Nov 07
its the case with me one or twice. As i don't get much responses for my discusions. But when i reply and I guess I should have got best responses, its very sad if i get none. I have stopped hoping taht as now I get very less best response.
• United States
15 Nov 07
No. I am amazed when I do get best responses. I just do my best to fully answer the questions. And when I can suggest something, I'll add that too.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
i haven't felt that way worldwise. ^__^ because whenever i respond to a discussion, i don't expect the author to make it the best response. however, i really make my responses as interesting as it could be, fun to read and not boring, true to myself, and related to the discussion. ^__^ and besides, its better if i don't expect anything, because i don't like being disappointed in the ends. ^__^ congratulations on having a lot of responses in that discussion of yours! ^__^
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Nope. I just hope that what I have given as a response was helpful to the poster and other readers :)
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Isn't it funny how things work out here on mylot? I've been surprised at the amount of some of my responses to. I have no idea how many "best responses" I have because I never check them. No, I wouldn't be disappointed if I didn't get it. It's all up to the writer who's response sounded best to them.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Hi Worldwise1, I really hate trying to figure out who to give Best Response too! I am just happy that everyone responded to my discussions...I don't mind if I get BR or not...It makes me happy to see when I have but I don't keep track of them...