What is your scariest parenting moment?

United States
November 19, 2007 4:09pm CST
My scariest parenting moment was when there was a scorpian in the toy box that my then 9 month old daughter was playing in. You can read the whole story here so I don't have to type it all out again: http://www.helium.com/tm/697447/there-moment-stand-above So, how about you? Is there one thing that stands out above all the rest as the scariest moment for you?
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
25 Nov 07
When my boys were about 5 and 7 I guess, they were playing in the yard. I had gone into the house for something and when I came back out my youngest was gone. My oldest said he didn't know where his brother went. We lived right across the street from the beach so I ran there first to see if he had gone that way. He was nowhere to be seen. I checked all around the yard, then checked through the house thinking he had followed me in. I was about ready to call the police because I was freaking out - I had gone back down to the beach again just to double check. When I went back into the house to call the police, for some reason I checked the bedroom again and found him taking his nap, on the floor between the 2 beds on top of the blankets. I hadn't seen him the first time because when I looked I only saw the blankets. He was always really good about just going in and taking his nap whenever he was tired, but it sure did freak me out!
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• United States
25 Nov 07
OMG, I could imagine that happening! My youngest daughter is like that, too. All of the sudden she just gets up and goes to take her nap. When she was one we were all in the house and I said, "Where is A?". I don't remember what we were doing that we didn't have an eye on her. It turned out that she was in her room under the bed taking her nap. I can understand your fear that day completely.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
25 Nov 07
It's so scary how you can turn around for like 2 seconds and BAM, they've gone somewhere else. Fortunately they were safe, eh?
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• United States
25 Nov 07
Yes, fortunately they were.
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@youless (86445)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Nov 07
There are a lot of scary parenting moments. Such as if my child is sick, then I will be very worried about him. I hope I could be sick for him.
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• United States
20 Nov 07
It's hard to watch our kids suffer. I always want to take away their pain, too, when mine are sick or hurt.
@jakesmum (154)
• Australia
20 Nov 07
My scariest moment was when my son was still a toddler (he's 14 now). I was changing his nappy & he kept kicking and wriggling. I just lost the plot and slapped him on the body with the nappy. He cried, I cried, and I freaked out at my lack of control. I've since realised I was suffering post natal deprssion for quite a while, and I cried a heck of a lot back then. I'm over it now, but I was so scared at what I might have done to my lovely boy back then!
• United States
21 Nov 07
jakesmum, I can understand that. I did not suffer from depression after giving birth, but I believe my sister-in-law did. That is a really tough time.
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
19 Nov 07
When my son was about 2 1/2 years old I left him with his father alone for the first time. (We were not together and he had not really been a part of his son's life) I went out with my sister for a few hours and he stayed at my sister's house with my son. When we got home my son was asleep, but he hear me come in and woke up. He was crying and would not stop. After about 15 minutes I realized that he was holding his arm up against his chest and would not put it down. I ended up taking him to the ER and found out he had something called Nursemaid's Elbow. Basically a tendon in his arm had gotten moved over and was pinched in the elbow. It is caused most often by a child's arm being twisted. They took x-rays to make sure that was the problem. The doctor took his arm and put it to his chest and POPPED the tendon back into place. His father denied that anything had happened and my son was too little to say. My son will be 8 in 2 months and his father has only been allowed alone with him once since and that was for like 2 hours.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Oh, wow, that story made me cringe. I bet that was NOT a fun night for you! I can only imagine the emotions that must have been going through you at the time. Was your sons elbow completely healed or was there any permanent damage?
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
20 Nov 07
He is fine now, but I was told that once it happens it is easier for them to do it themselves. Because the tendon was stretched out a little when it happened. Like swinging on the moneybars or something like that they can twist their own arm just right and do it themselves. So far it has not happend again.
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• United States
20 Nov 07
I'm glad to hear that it hasn't happened again yet. Hopefully as he grows up and starts playing sports it will stay in place.
• Australia
20 Nov 07
LOL. I read the article the other day! I thought it was quite amusing! My scariest moment so far would be finding myself all alone with the girls for several months (not my choice)and having no one to help me! I was really scared for their safety and mine! The caravan park we were in was mostly men and was miles away from the shops! I don't drive, so had to rely on taxis, and only having one in that town meant I waited for hours! Thankfully, we are all together now and in a house! lol. But knowing that the organisations that say the help were not interested in my case, I was devastated. I felt like I was a lump of clay on the bottom of their shoes. Other than that, giving birth! lol. Knowing that my baby was leaving the security of the womb to join this scary world! lol. i love being pregnant.
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• United States
20 Nov 07
I could not imagine having to take care of my children for several months on my own. That would be tough! You are quite the survivor, new! I know that lots of women do it all the time, but I have to admit that I am very spoiled with my family around. The longest I've had my kids alone is when my husband went out of town for business for 17 days. The day he returned the kids and I all slept for like 11 hours straight. I guess all of us were not sleeping well while my husband was not home. Giving birth- that's a great answer!
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• Australia
21 Nov 07
I have a greater respect for single parents! And more appreciation of what my husband does around the house! All good, I know that if I have too, I can cope on my own. And giving birth was pretty scary! Exciting to have a new baby, but then it hit me that the world was a cruel place and i had to help this helpless being cope in it! lol. They are all doing great so far!
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Well there were a few falls that were scary, but i think the scariest so far for me was the one time my daughter was sick. She had a fever and was sleepy all day. She was sitting with me pretty alert then all the sudden she went very limp and was very listless. It was just a bad virus, but when she went from awake to limp like that it was scary.
• United States
19 Nov 07
I'm beginning to think I shouldn't have started this discussion! LOL I just feel so bad for all these little kids who had to go through so much. It's amazing how we, as parents, can do what we need to do for our kids. Did you wind up taking your daughter to the ER that day, or did you know what was wrong?
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
20 Nov 07
i called the doctor right away and they were able to get her in that day.
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@luvstochat (6916)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I would have to say waiting for my son to come out of surgery when he was 4 years old and had his tonstils out when he was in recovery he threw up blood and it scard the holy you get the idea out of me!
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• United States
19 Nov 07
That would be scary! The only real issue I've had regarding my kids and illnesses was a breathing issue that my youngest daughter had when she was a month old. No one could figure out what was wrong with her, and her doctor even said that he had three other doctors throughout the country trying to figure this thing out. When we went from AZ to CA for a visit with my brother her breathing suddenly improved. After that whenever she had a breathing issue we would just get her into a more humid area and she would be fine. I am fortunate for the health of my children. I'm glad your son came out of recovery ok in the end!
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• United States
20 Nov 07
yea, that actually happened to my son, as a man i never thought that i would have been so scared for my son. i just wanted to see him through it.
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Mine was when my daughter was nine months old, and she wanted me to take her out of the crib. I was busy and told her NO. she took it upon herself to jump out of the crib and I went ballistic. I made her father take us to the emergency room and check her out, but she was ok. That truly scared me. that happened the Day after Thanksgiving 1990.
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• United States
20 Nov 07
Oh, no! That sounds like one of those stories that was terrifying at the time but funny to tell later since she was ok. My daughter was about that age when I walked into her room and her entire crib was covered in blood. I couldn't figure out where it was coming from. My husband came in and got her cleaned up and found that her lip was bleeding. We figured that what happened was she hit her lip on the crib bar because I didn't come in to get her out quickly enough when she was crying to be let out. That is a very fun and scary age all at the same time.
• India
20 Nov 07
Well yes and I had mine just a month a go..it is under a discussion i started here on mylot under the title "my daughter gave me a scare".
• United States
20 Nov 07
I just went and read that, and I can imagine how terrified you must have been. Wow, even my heart stopped for a second reading that!
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I think the scariest for me was when my daughter (my first born) was about 6 months old, and we were at the pizza place in the mall, and she choked on a pretzel. I was screaming like a crazy person for help, and I was rapidly becoming hysterical, until she finally hacked it up. The next worst was when this same daughter got rear ended, when we moved to Florida. She called me crying, and although she was fine, my heart stopped every time she drove somewhere and she called me. I was scared crapless like that for at least 6 months after that.
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• United States
20 Nov 07
Your kids being in an accident and you not being there has got to be heart stopping. I remember my first accident when I was 16. I had only had my license about 3 weeks. I had driven a friend home from school and was on my way home when a lady rear ended me. I insisted I was okay I first, but then started not feeling well as soon as the police officer who had taken the report drove away. My primary care doctor was only about 1/2 mile away, so I drove myself there. They called my mom, and I think she made what was usually a 25 minute drive in about 12 minutes. I always teased her after that about how she broke all the rules that would have gotten my car taken away for a month.
@patgalca (13962)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Nov 07
Isn't it funny how the scariest moments always happen to be about your children. We would take a bullet for our children rather than see them suffer. I watched my now 11-year-old go tumbling down the basement stairs while an infant strapped into her car seat. I cried for an hour after that. A year later as a toddler she went tumbling down those same stairs as I watched from the bottom, helpless to stop her. "Noooooooo!" was all I could do. My other daughter fell off her two-wheeler once and got quite a few bloody scrapes. I was terrified but she was okay. Oh, this one is not so good. My now 11-year-old daughter (there is a reason why she is a nutcase! - and I mean that in a good way), she was a baby sitting in a wading pool. She fell over backwards and was laying on her back just under the water. I wasn't sitting right next to her but I ran like the dickens, slipping and falling in the pool myself.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Those are all very scary stories. That's funny- my parents say the same thing about why I'm a nutcase. When I was 4 my mom accidentally hit me with a baseball bat because I ran up behind her while she was playing ball. I fell down the stairs in my walker when I was that little, and an uncle dropped my from his shoulders onto a cement block in our backyard. It's amazing what we can live through!