Would You Ever Ask Anyone to Be Your Friend?
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
November 21, 2007 1:25am CST
I can vaguely remember someone asking to be my friend when I was a kid. I think it was a new student who had come to our school. The incident that stands out for me, however, happened when I was an adult. I met a family who lived in the same apartment complex. One of the young ladies was about the same age as I was. We got on famously from the very beginning, and she asked would I be her friend. I was so touched that I immediately said yes. We had a friendship that was closer than sisters for many years. People used to tease and say when they saw one of us they saw both of us. We eventually fell out over something trivial, but I still cared about her a lot. I can never remember, though, asking someone to be my friend either as a child or as an adult. What about you?
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19 responses
@mythical01 (184)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
theres nothing wrong with that because i myself do that too. .. maybe i ask someone but not through speaking but maybe thay can feel that i want to be their fren... but theres this one person that i really really want to be fren but wen i try to be his fren.. it hurts that somehow he refused because maybe i dont know... but that really hurtz!!!
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
The best way to get around that, mythical, would be to come right out and say, "I really would like to be your friend."
@mythical01 (184)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
but i have my pride.. i dont want to be the one who is running for something that dont wamt me.. maybe wer not meant to be friends.. maybe.. tnx again!!!
@neednewjeans (65)
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21 Nov 07
I don't think people ask to be your friends, it just happens. If you get on great and have lots in common and make each other laugh then you find yourself spending more and more time with them, before you know it you are best friends. Nobody asks it is a mutual understanding that you enjoy each others company :)
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Believe it or not, neednewjeans, people DO still ask. I had a neighbor ask me to be her friend over 10 years ago. I wasn't too receptive to the idea at first, but we have been fast friends now for over 10 years. We have gone through a lot together. People do find themselves in a new situation where they don't know anyone and are in need of a friend. It happens all the time.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Ouch! I can imagine how much that hurt, riyasam. I don't think I could turn someone down who asked to be my friend.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I may have asked someone to be my friend when I was younger but these days, I don't ask, it just kinda happens. If we get on well then we do things together and make an effort to call one another and chat. I also had a falling out with a friend (and it was trivial) as well and she hasn't called ever since. Oh well, I suppose it just wasn't meant to be a long lasting friendship.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Yes, maddysmommy, some friends last for the long haul while others are just there for a short time.
@stanzi2007 (602)
• United States
21 Nov 07
dear worldwise friend, yes i would and do all the time on mylot.com, when i meet an interesting person who i would love to share discussions with and points of view. you are an example of that, my friend worldwise. see how lucky i am to know you, lol, lol. your friend, stanzi
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I am very honored, stanzi, that you would be my friend. I have made some dear friends here on myLot and will consider you one of them.
@bing_r77 (237)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
i have not tried that one to ask someone to be your friend. but there's a collegue of mine asks me if i can be her best friend.. i was touched when she asks that.. and i like her to be my friend also. now... we became close friends... she confides in me and i also to her..
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Well, bing, I think that's just lovely. We often don't realize people want to be our friends.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
21 Nov 07
I was always asking at school, primary school that is, and they were nearly always girls! I always remember a very special girl called Carol who I asked to be my friend and she gave me a kiss, so I guess that was a yes! It was a lovely little friendship and she moved away in the end, I was upset, I was ten, she was a great kisser too! I think it's always assumed friendship rather than actually saying 'would you be my friend' especially as adults.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I agree that it is more often assumed, wolfie, but I've met a lot of shy people who are to meek to assume anything.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I remember when I moved form PA to VA. I was 8. My new home was near a playground so I went out to play and I was befriended by my 1st best friend on the playground. I don't remember if she said the words but we did become great friends.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
That's so nice, sarah. A good friend is truly worth their weight in gold.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
28 Dec 07
I remember doing it as a child, but not as an adult. When I was a kid, it was just what you did if you like someone. You ask them to be your friend. If they liked you back, they agreed. Then you were buds. Simple as that.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
21 Nov 07
No, I can't say I have, but that is an interesting story because I never was asked or asked myself.
I usually became friends with someone because we are into something we both are interested in and began talking and just become friends, no asking involved.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I guess a lot of things are not as common as they used to be, carmelanirel, but some people still do.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I was in HS when I asked someone to be my companion and eventually we became friends. We were classmates and we shared lots of stuff back then. But we drifted apart a year after. She finally found friends of her wavelength. Well, I wish we grew up together, but I think that's part of growing up, you meet people and in return they meet you.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I never thought about this until I came to this site. One of the things on the myLot website is to add friends. The first time I did this I was shocked to see that denial was an option. It is the first time since 5th grade that I was worried that someone wouldnt want to be my friend. I never asked anyone to be my friend in my adult years. However, I will ask someone for their number or to hang out. I guess its the same thing, except, in this way I dont feel stupid asking. Its all a double standard. I guess that no matter how we meet friends, we should be careful not to get caught up in other peoples drama
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I see that many people view the asking for friendship as a bad thing, dloveli. Believe me, it is a great honor if anyone asks to be my friend.
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I don't think I ever asked anyone to be my friend. I think when I switched schools, a teacher I had told a girl to be my friends. We talked for a bit, but she moved on and I found other friends.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Things don't always work out when planned, Unselfish, that is why it is best to choose your own friends.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
22 Nov 07
You must be very outgoing, evanonut. I find it amazing that so many people think it is bad form to ask someone to be their friend. And, I don't automatically assume everyone I come into contact with to be a friend.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Don't believe I've ever asked someone to be my friend. If there is a personal interest with someone I am talking with and we get along well, I would ask for their email address and start a friendship in that manner. I'm not real brave when it comes to initiating a frienship probably because of the fear or rejection.
@aceballos (99)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I never asked anyone to be my friend but I did tell many I wont be your friend unless..... I was a little snobby as a kid and thought I was it. I had one girl who used to ask me all the time to please be her friend and why don't I like her.
I can't imagine it happening as an adult or even an older child. When I recall this happening I was in 1st to 3rd grade. After that I grew out of it and became more aware that people had feelings.
@fab315 (1231)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
Hello!
As far as I could remember, I reckon I was still a kid when I asked someone to be my friend. It's easier to be open and to ask someone to be your friend if you're a kid, I noticed that. Whether it's a new kid at school or a new kid in the neighborhood, you can easily ask them for their friendship and it's not complicated. But now being an adult, you meet people, get acquainted and then become their friends. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Take care *smile*
ciao! c",)
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
22 Nov 07
I think it depends if he /she wants too.. Because sometimes there are some people that are so picky when it comes to friend.. Maybe theyre the type of.. "I dont trust anyone" so they are very cautious . SO when i make friends then they accpeted it then thats fine but i dont make friends to those who just gives me a good facade but its not really them inside..
@zhanglili (27)
• China
26 Nov 07
I never asked someone to be my friend.When i was a student i maked friends with my classmates.We knew each other in nature .Maybe i am a shame girl.I don't know how to ask someone to be my friend.But i wish someone ask me...
