Getting SICK of the GARBAGE!!

@theprogamer (10539)
United States
November 30, 2007 5:00pm CST
That's it I've had it. I've always said if you HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ME, TALK to ME!! Don't go around backstabbing me. If I'm wrong I will correct the situation! Is that too much to ask, or is it tradition to go around eviscerating others on here? I'm just sick of it. First some people say I'm too serious and lighten up. Others say I'm too mean. Now some people are saying I play too much! Quit it!! I'm ME! That's it, that ALL I'LL BE!! You don't like me, fine. You got a problem with me, BRING IT TO ME!! That's ALL I ASK!
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22 responses
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Nov 07
Wow! I don't think you're mean, or too serious, or any of that stuff. In fact, I think you're pretty great! :P Sorry to hear that you've been having problems with idiots on here!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I just ask this just because only ONE member who's had a problem with me has come forward. EVERYONE else has either resorted to insults, spins, distortion and talking behind my back. Its happened multiple times. Its even a violation of the rules, but hey, seems like a selective enforcement is back in place.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Nov 07
I've had that happen to me before. I tend to be a little controversial, just by nature, so I've had a few times when people were rude to me and distorted my words. It's quite annoying, but honestly I've become good at focusing on my friends and the fun I have with them instead.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Dec 07
Well, here's the thing, raz, it's something I learned from offline life and now apply online as well. My early life was horrible, and the way that I survived it was focusing on those few scraps of kindness I could find in my world. Online, it's the same for me. No matter how many people ridicule my religion, malign my sexuality, insult my intelligence, or otherwise bother me... there is always you, and Transdisc, and D, and KB, and Pro, and so many others who are there for me. Wait, a poem! :P Small Small gifts are enough for me food is wonderful and you know how I love my stuffed animals Small gifts are enough for me a smile is great and if you were to hug me it would make my day Small gifts are enough for me love is best but I can gratefully accept a little bit of fondness Raz, it doesn't take much to make me happy, because I expect little. Any bit of kindness from my friends is enough to overshadow hundreds of rude comments for me. I'm not sure I can teach you how to be this way, as it was my life that taught me to be this way.
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@Stiletto (4584)
1 Dec 07
Wow, what's brought all this on?? Personally I find you one of the most interesting people here on myLot - I don't agree with some of your views and I suspect in "real life" we wouldn't exactly get along but I never have a problem with the way you express yourself on here even if I do disagree with some of the things you say. If someone has a problem with you on here, or doesn't like you, or backstabs you or whatever - do you really care? Does it matter what some random person on myLot thinks of you? Ignore them.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Aww, and I thought we could get along in "real life". As long as we talk about fun things I bet we'd be fine. :) Thanks again for that advice Stiletto. I'm taking it.
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@Stiletto (4584)
1 Dec 07
LOL maybe - just as long as we talked nonsense all the time. If we got onto politics or any other serious issues then I think the wheels would fall off pretty quick!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Well even my politics is more of an off in a completely different direction (beyond two party and the like). But you've also seen me in cooking threads at least, plus some other life issues threads, light stuff. Hawt new avatar by the way Stiletto! Its looking good!
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Hello Progamer, First off, there's lots of fish in the MyLot sea. If someone doesn't like your comments, then let them seek their entertainment elsewhere! Personally, I enjoy your wit. Hence, the reason why I participate in your discussions, and why I enjoy your participation in mine. Having said that, I cannot fathom why some people expend their energy piddlin' on other MyLot members. Is there nothing better to do in life??? If someone leaves me a mean, freaky, sly, or otherwise unrelated or inappropriate response, I simply thank them for their input & move on. I tell you, I find it terribly disturbing that some people feel the need to lash out at other cyber members for their perceptions, attitude, or other displays of unparallel presentations. Personally, I relish the reality that we're all so different. Some folks strike certain fancies, others don't. It's a simple reality -- and the sooner we all learn it, the better off we'll be. Now, to specifically address your issue: If this member is causing problems for you with the MyLot administration, please do P.M. me, and I will gladly argue your case to the Admin's. Doing so will offer a balanced perception of your contributions here. Further, I would offer that enlisting multiple sources of support would be helpful. If this 'someone' is just lurking around, hen-chatting in other members ears, fear not -- eventually a gossip is always recognized as destructive, and is sooner or later hushed by the silence of conscious lack of interaction. On this I speak from first-hand experience. Gossip's have their 15 minutes, then they fade away. I have personally taken much glee in their eventual obsolenscence. In summary, don't let it bother you, my friend! You are appreciated, and should you require either a sounding board, or a voice of support -- no doubt you'll receive many volunteers!!!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Well its not just lurkers, but someone just out with a conversation. The funny part is I apologized through two different methods but they didn't care. Its stinks, even if a misunderstanding occurs and someone can come to me to it I'll clear it up, if necessary I can apologize and watch for this in future conduct. But no. Someone had to act completely gross and offensive in this matter. I do thank you for the support Ladyluna. I've also got a whole legion of friends, Best Responses and my own collection of excellent responses all on my side (I'll post the third item soon enough because I'm sick of some people and their nonsense/garbage). Still feeling a little sick physically and I'm about to take something and maybe step outside for a bit. Nothing like fresh air to clear up the head. Sigh... one step back to being me at a time. The last few straws hurt, but in time I'll be me again. Thanks once more for being here and supporting me.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Aww pro! I have a problem with you not being here for a hug too, you don't deserve this kind of treatment from anybody. The people acting like that towards you are probably just jealous because you have people that care about you and they don't.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Thanks Foxy. I even apologized to this person just because I'm much more tolerant. I know misunderstandings happen on the net. And then there are the other trolls that STILL aren't gone. Sigh... I do thank you Foxy, its rough, but I'm glad I've got a bit of support. I'm also happy I've been getting support on board and through private means, thanks everyone.
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@GardenGerty (99345)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Do you mean people on this site have time to run around and gossip? Sorry to hear that. I do not have a problem with anyone being themself, that is part of what intrigues me about this site. Hope you get this straightened out.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Well there is gossip Gerty, and then there is outright hatred and strong language. I can take a hint. I don't think this will be straightened out. Might me be being negative, but it really seems like it. Plus I've gotten other conflicts and hints here and there. Lets not forget my star rating despite my helping people time after time after time after time after time after time. -_- I do thank you for the encouragement though, but I'm still a bit messed up about it.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Well bless your heart Gamer, I love you in any form! WTH is going on?? You're letting these people get too you, take a deep breath!! Breathe in.....breathe out. Now say Aaaah. You can't be wrong being you, so how can you correct such a thing? I just think people expect too much. If you can't please them, then stay away from them. I just can't imagine anyone getting upset with you. That really blows my mind!! Bay Lay Gray xx
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm relaxing a little more. Hopefully the weird feelings will subside I mean, it takes something else to not just upset but also make me physically sick. Getting better though and thanks to Raz, MSV, VI, Lecan and everyone here I'm getting my drive back!!
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Good to hear Gamer! Don't you change a thing! :) Bay xx
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Yep definitely coming back and in some cases I'll say new and improved. One thing I got from all of this was that I tried to do the right thing, still didn't go through. If someone still has a problem with me or tries to spin me, at least I know the truth and I have plenty of people who're backing me here! Thanks again Bay. Thanks also to everyone here, I have to say that again!
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• Canada
1 Dec 07
Hi Hun! I don't have any problems with you at all! I think your great! If I did have a problem with you then we already would have talked about it by now as I always go to the person, I hate backstabbing therefore I will never do it. Sorry to hear someone is giving you grief! Luv & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Definitely getting better Purple! And I saw both posts, I'm glad you're here too! I'm also glad you could at least talk if something major was going on. I can listen. I can explain. If wrong, I can admit it. Heck, I pretty much did to a couple of them, just to be the bigger person and just because I know misunderstandings happen online. But of course, no reply, and no discussion. Just more treachery. Its fine. I've got my buds here and others who like what I do. Thanks again for the support and the helping hand.
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• Canada
1 Dec 07
Your more then welcome hun. If you ever need me for anything I am just a pm away! I'm glad we're friends! And that's great that we are both the kind of person to deal with a problem head on, not coward like the other person seems to have done. Luv & Hugzz to you!
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Now after being a member for four months you see what has made so many of my friends jump ship. I used to be so enthused about this site I spent a few hours every day and worked hard to earn a few dollars only to see my discussions and responses being deleted also my reputation (star) being attacked. Unfortunately it is always done by mean-spirited cowards who do not have the guts to tell you to your face what they do not like about your postings. All I can say is keep doing what you are doing as long as your are still enjoying it, if not take a break for a while and then see how you feel.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I hear you Heather and you've been supportive of me too, I can't thank you enough. Sad part is I took a "sort of" break from Mylot, er well it was more of a long work week and then thanksgiving was pretty active (had to help cook this time, wasn't bad but it was quite a haul). I think I'll now really take a 2 week or so break.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Mean? You?! WTF?? Who are these people? Where did they grow their skin, 'cause it sure isn't very thick. Admitting I haven't read everything you ever posted, I have read enough to know that you can be blunt, but always courteous and respectful, which is more than I can say for myself, lol. Keep in mind that it takes very little backbone to go trolling around here. What you are asking takes maturity as well as a backbone, which we all know trolls are born without and rarely develop even in achieving late adulthood. I feel your anger & wish there was more I could do to help...believe me when I tell you you have friends here, Gamer because I have witnessed it and it is true. Grab a brewski and let the steam roll off. As angry as I have been known to get over backstabbing around here, let me tell you, it isn't worth the bloodpressure. *Pounding (lightly) Gamer in the arm*
• United States
1 Dec 07
Thank you Visitor, he is always very respectful about what he says. I don't get it either, I have never read anything by Gamer that is rude, crude, or anything other than delightful and amusing. I think they are just jealous, he's too young to be this smart! hehe Bay xx
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm already grabbing some and now I'm going to enjoy my weekend. Oh yes VI, we need your post in like bright shiny gold because its EPIC truth there. I know I can be blunt in some threads and discussions but I'm very kind overall. I've even stepped up for people I disagree with (and the most ironic part is they don't backstab me). And above all else I'm usually helping people with their problems on forum or just sharing a light opinion here and there. It's break time, I'll be back to monitor. Oh yea, thanks for the pounding in the light arm. A little to the left... "Ahhh...." That's the stuff. :)
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Some people are immature emotionally and don't know how to handle anything other than by acting childish and saying things behind others backs. It's common really. Instead of handling themselves in a grown up manner, they'd rather create conflict because it gives them attention. Sad really, but they crave attention so much they'd rather have some sort of attention than none at all.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Thank you for that perspective Highflying. In my pain I didn't see it in that fashion. It really opens the eyes. I should have seen that part too. I think you are right in that respect too. If people were offended, or have problems with me, or think I did something wrong, why in the world is there no attempt at dialog with the person that wronged them? Why the negative ratings? Why the backstabbing? Why the spins and distortion? Why the cruelty? Take your stance on this Highflying and one does get a good answer to those questions. Thanks for sharing and for your help in this matter.
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@AmbiePam (49082)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Um, I don't know what the problem is, but personally I like you how you are. You're a mix. Same 'ol same'ol is boring.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Thanks Ambie. And even if it doesnt get 100% agreement, I'll still be me. Even a few people I know on here don't agree with me really, but they are glad that I'm around (I feel the same for them too, and everyone else who's here). Time to continue not being "same ol'" :)
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
1 Dec 07
I agree with what you say that if there is a problem with you, they have to let you know instead of saying it behind your back. But I guess not people want confrontation. They may see you mean, that is why they dont want to open things up like that with you. They are not sure if you would accept or understand...
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Lucky witch even if I was or wasn't wrong, in the cases I STILL apologized to the person, because I do understand and I know that misunderstandings happen on the net! I even have a thread on that. And basically I tried to reach out FIRST and correct things but apparently that doesn't count for anything. So I really do not think that is the case someone(or some group) thinks I wouldn't accept or understand. Its VERY likely the people don't like me and they don't want to talk about it to me, but they are so hideous and craven they'll talk about it to OTHERS and in a way to eviscerate me. Even with this, don't worry I'm not trying to blast on you. I appreciate your perspective on it. I'll tone it down to a more nicer and rational setting. Even if these people think I wouldn't accept or understand, they are incorrect in that. Only like 1 or 2 members had a serious problem and really talked to me about it. All other detractors are content to be duplicitous and thoughtless.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
6 Dec 07
Sorry you're having these troubes - I would offer to put a curse on them but I think it would be more effective - although it may sound screwy to wish them balance in their lives. Obviously something is out of whack in their little lives or they wouldn't be making a habit of creating such frustration in the life of someone so helpful, amusing, serious when the ocassion warrants it, caring and wise individual. However, the curse offer still stands - even if it would come back to me ten fold!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Its better than before Arte. I'm glad I have your words here too. I'll still be me and I'm better than the last time! Oh and I'll keep the curse in the storage locker!! For future reference!
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• Abernathy, Texas
9 Dec 07
Glad you're back and things are better. As you can see from all the pages here - you have more fans then trolls.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
4 Dec 07
You know what sweetheart? You just need to keep being your wonderful self. The people that are aggravating you so much need to get over themselves and find something more productive to do with their time. I don't blame you for wanting to confront them though. But there are people in this world that hide behind their words and never come clean about what they are saying. I for one am one of your strong supporters....I've got your back hon. Anyone that needs a good tongue lashing...you just let me know, and I'm sooooo there! Hugs to you my friend.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Its better, at least on my end. I guess people will still act like "bleh" but fine. I'm fine, I'll still be here! Thanks Katlady!
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@Metallion (2230)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm just coming back to this site for the first time to post in awhile, I have no idea what you are referring to, but honestly it's a message board. You might be taking things too seriously on here. It's not like you know these people in person.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
And maybe I am, but some scathing things can be said and some twisted things can be done. I do see your perspective on it though.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
1 Dec 07
well my friend like i always say if people don't like me for who i am then they can go scratch,i don't see you being that way what so ever.i see you as being very open-minded,creative,honest,interesting which keep people on their toes,and your topics are quite awesome i have to say.some people just rather try to bring down other where you are trying to bring us up.i enjoy it and just keep on doing what your doing and don't let anyone come in your way or we will just have to just kick them to the mylot curb.take care!pattie
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm much better now Pattie and its thanks to your words and everyone else with their help that's gotten me back up. Because of respect for the rules I cannot identify members in question (plus its not 100%, and as you know other detractors like the negative button hitting trolls are almost never identifiable). Now then, after a good break and rest, I'll be back to full up Pro. *drinks 120% proof energy drink* See.. I'm getting there :)
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Hi pro, I would have responded to this discussion sooner, but I didn't see it until now. Okay so I did think you were a bit uptight and I was taken back when you sent your first message to me, as I certainly didn't expect such a message LOL, but since that's all been cleared up, I don't think you are mean or serious. Maybe the reason others think this of you is because you jump to conclusions (as exhibited by the first message you sent to me only :P) by reading too much into something that has been said in a discussion? If this happens, don't to jump to conclusions and stay calm. Try not to let what others say on here upset you and just keep being who you are, whether you want to be serious or not. :-)
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
7 Dec 07
It was some of this but we resolved it and I'm glad. But Sac, there was actually something else I saw that triggered this too (another discussion). Then there were a few responses. And someone was playing with my star yet again. I've learned my lesson when it comes to us though Sac. Don't worry about the conduct, I'm learning and growing and even I need to stop every once in awhile.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I too am glad we were able to resolve it. :) I'm sorry to hear about this other discussion and the problems that are going along with it. I don't know what it's about, but I hope things work themselves out. As for the star thing, I'm beginning to see why some mylotters want to get rid of it...
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
7 Dec 07
well i think your a great person. you have definitely been an encourager and so helpful to me on here. don't listen to what others say....stay the way you are. God bless
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
7 Dec 07
*slight blush* Thank you, thanks for saying that and being here. I'm feeling better now and I'm planning on staying for a while.
• United States
7 Dec 07
I'm so glad to hear that. You don't need to leave us. You are a great friend on here to me and i'm sure to many others as well. Stick around, we need ya on here! :)
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
7 Dec 07
Please don't get all discombobulated for the sake of a cretin ot two. Some of your friends think you're great and most admire you and really like you. These are the people who count here my friend.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I'm better now Tickle but I'm glad you responded and gave me a kind truthful word here. I'm still me, and its great!
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
12 Dec 07
You are and it is. ;)
@drannhh (15226)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Yeah, PM me and lemme know who's messin' wid yah s'oze I can shun them, now that we are friends and all, lol. Oops, but that might seem like we are going behind their backs. We may just be backed in a corner here, but it breaks my wee little icy heart to think of anybody stressing you out. I haven't seen you do anything naughty yet, but how is this? I'll start following you around and peer over my spectacles to make sure you are not getting bested in any heated discussions. If I see anybody picking on you and I think you are in the right, I'll jump right in there and risk my valuable myLot reputation to defend you. Hey, and if I think you are being a jerk, I'll PM you and say so. Deal? Does that make you feel an eeny bit better? I hope so!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Thanks Dran, but I did get better and I'm glad people did come for me. It does make me feel better. Plus I'm back to my older self as most have seen. It was more of a dark moment and people were able talk me through it.