What are the signs that your boyfriend or girlfriend has lost interest?

@Sharon38 (1896)
Jamaica
January 3, 2008 11:21pm CST
I am very curious about this. I know that there may not be any hard and fast rules but I believe that everyone who has been in a relationship can add something if they really want to. So lets here some of it and guys please dont be shy now. Do tell!
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@Zelmarq (11454)
• Cebu City, Philippines
5 Jan 08
One sign is not finding time to be with you. When all ecxuses are given and not able to spend that quality time together. You will that it happens in that very simple sypmtom. If he / she really loves you she/ he will be able to set that time for both of you to spend together.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
8 Jan 08
Thats true but even then I know we also make excuses for them sometimes because we are afraid to face the truth or dont want to face it.
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@Zelmarq (11454)
• Cebu City, Philippines
28 Jan 08
Its always difficult to accept the truth, coz more often than not the truth hurts specially when it comes to matters of the heart.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
30 Jan 08
Well it comes to matters of the heart we never really want to hear teh truth because it hurs so much.
@carolbee (16245)
• United States
4 Jan 08
If a couple is sexually active and suddenly that part of the relationship stops for no apparent reason, that would be a red flag. If one or both are spending alot of time away from home or coming home late without any explanation would be another reason to think there is something happening within the relationship such as wandering eyes.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
Yeah the wnadering eye can b a big problem Carolbee but I guess people will have to learn to trust each other more.
@carolbee (16245)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Yep, trust is the key factor in a good relationship.
@Rozie37 (15508)
• Turkmenistan
4 Jan 08
I think that the biggest and most obvious sign is just that they don't do the things that attracted you to them in the first place any more. They seem to have forgotten what you like. They don't call or see you as often or at all any more. If they do see you, they are preoccupied with everyone and everything, but you. You may have a date with them and they call at the last minute with a lame excuse, like they had to wash their hair or they are not feeling good. Some people are honest though and will tell you straight out that they have lost interest and don't want to see you anymore.
@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
Honestly I would prefer the last option. Tell me as it is and let me deal with it. I dont htink I could handle the first one.
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@Rozie37 (15508)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
I would rather be told the truth, than be forced to guess also.
@williamjisir (22913)
• China
4 Jan 08
Hello dear Sharon. If your boyfriend or girlfriend has lost interest, he / she would find some excuse to get away from you by saying that he / she has no time for this or for that. If this happens as always, it absolutely shows that the interest is gone, but not once in a while or a couple of times. I wish my dear Sharon a very happy love and always an attraction to the guy. Good luck and happy new year.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
Thank you william and the same to you my dear all God's richest blessing on you.
@subha12 (18472)
• India
4 Jan 08
I also think there is no hard and fast rules. Still i guess if the person starts avoiding you most of the times, it means he/she has lost interest. Also it may be that he/she does not reciprocate your feelings and also most of the time do not return your sms or call.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
I think that is one that hits between the eyes and we should indeed take note of these actions.
@raijin (10383)
• Philippines
4 Jan 08
I believe that the person's attitude changes, drastically. They become cold, they ignore the little things used to do and is always uncomfortable being with you. The signs are pretty much readable, but you're just the one who seems to be "in denial" for the thought that there must be some personal problem your partner has been to. I know such as these, since I my self, has also been to these types of situations.. And I promise to myself that never in my life, would I ever be on that troublesome point in my life..
@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
Good for you and the Bible does teach that experience teacheth wisdom. Thanks for your wise words. I do hope that you never have to go through this again though. I know it can be very painful.
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@SachseMom (450)
• United States
4 Jan 08
It was a bunch of little things that told me that my ex was done with me. He didn't kiss me when he left for work anymore, He wouldn't hold my hand just because, and he started staying later and later at work.
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@Sharon38 (1896)
• Jamaica
4 Jan 08
I am so sorry honey that he did not have the guts to tell you but most of the times these things happen for good because better is on before. I really am sorry about that though.
@squallming (1778)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 12
There are many signs that can be seen from love partners that indicates the lost of interest. For starter, he or she may start to call and message less and shorter. You can see from the messages that there is less interest in carrying on with the conversation and less care. Next, they may start to fight over very trivial things because they don't care about hurting the other's feeling anymore. Most of the time when it become worst, they may try so hard to condemn and accuse each other just to find an excuse to end the relationship without appearing to be disloyal or unfaithful.
@Shavkat (15874)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
If you like someone, then they busted you for not being their type. At first, it will feel so bad. But then, you will realize that there are a lot of fishes in the sea to find the right person for you. It is like a game, win-or-lose situation. Definitely, a part of life to face this kind of circumstances.