What do you do to the people who hate you?

By Bala
@balasri (26554)
India
January 9, 2008 3:20am CST
Go after their blood,ignore them or pity them.
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22 responses
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
9 Jan 08
Bala, I would simply ignore them. When I know for sure that I am not wrong then why do I have to worry about what others think about me? I am not slave to others' thoughts! Thanks. PS: Pitying is not a bad option either. lol.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
I pity and ignore them.I cross my heart.lol
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
9 Jan 08
I bet you do that!
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Apr 08
You can say that Mimpi because I have done it again to the person who hated me and plucked away one of my stars.
@Monkeyrose (2850)
• Canada
26 Apr 08
nothing. I don't think anyone truely hates anyone fully. If they do mean things to me I might try to get back at them if the right opportunity arrises. Mostly I just try to be civil. I feel sorry for them usually. I often will talk about the situation with other people. really who cares... sometimes I do.. but I know I shouldn't
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Apr 08
Feeling sorry and pitying them will save a lot of energy,trouble and mental torture.
@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
26 Apr 08
No i won't do anything because i believe the sins will haunt them down soon enough yea .
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Apr 08
Yeah they themselves will sink in the quagmire of their hatred.
@tiller (57)
• China
23 Apr 08
Just avoid any informations of them,ignor them.do not want to see them.If I come across them, I will feel uncomfortable whole day.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Apr 08
Right getting out of the sight of them makes you fell peaceful and happy.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Jan 08
Life is way too short to be concerned with people that you believe hate you! It is far better to be concerned with those that respect you, actually appreciate your individuality and compliment your own ideals and personality. I learned a long time ago to stop being worried about those people that do not like me as I can't try to make everyone happy all the time! The only end result of trying to make absolutely everyone like you is that you will end up being very far from your true self.....
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@balasri (26554)
• India
10 Jan 08
Very valuable response that should be read by everyone who worries over the wasteful things.
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
I can't please everybody. Even the almost-perfect people can't please anyone because others end up envying them. If someone hates me, I ignore them. I am just being myself. Take it or leave it. :)
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
I can never hate you for that.lol
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
What I meant to say was even the almost-perfect ones cannot please everyone.
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
LOL. You have a very interesting discussion here. :)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Hi Balasri....... I just pray for them nowadays! Marilyn ;o)
@balasri (26554)
• India
23 Apr 08
I like that response.Poor things.They sure need a prayer.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
Hey, I'm so rude, I didn't even ask you, how you were doing. How are you Balasri? I hope that everything in your part of this world is just dandy! Have a very good day! Marilyn ;o)
@SViswan (12072)
• India
10 Jan 08
As long as I know they hate me and they are open about it (for whatever reasons), I am fine. I just go about my life. It doesn't bother me at all. There are all kinds of people in this world and we like some of them and we don't like some others. It applies to me too. AS long as they are not spitting their hatred on to my face and really giving me a hard time about it and as long as they are not family, then I don't let it bother me. I respect their opinion and it's as simple as that. So, from the options given, I would ignore them. I would try to acknowledge them with a greeting when we meet but if it is not reciprocated, then I leave it at that and ignore them....but the ignoring doesn't extend to the rest of their family.
@balasri (26554)
• India
10 Jan 08
That shows your decency and good nature.What I like most in you response is respecting their opinion.Hating is their opinion .Let us respect that and keep away.That is a good one.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
10 Jan 08
I have a woman in my building who hates me (ONE of her reasons being that I do not drive and depend on my husband - it's another matter that I walk everywhere even with the baby and purchases). Maybe she feels that I am a shame to womankind. I'm fine by that because she has made it obvious and I really have no problem with that. We meet every morning when we go to drop our kids to catch the school bus. At first I would wish 'Good morning' and it wasn't reciprocated and I left it at that. Funny part is we meet every week day and we are the first two to reach there! And her husband is very nice and friendly and the fact that we ladies do not talk doesn't make me stop talking to her husband. Thank you for your kind words:)
@dpk262006 (56163)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Bala! I think it their choice who wish to hate me. I feel I have no control over their emotions. There is no question of going after their blood, because my temporary outbrust on them, might not be helpful in the long run. If they have to hate me, my anger or retailiation is perhaps not going to change them. In my opinion, the problem arises, when I am not told explicitly why I am being hated by them. If they let me know why I am being hated, I might try improving myself. But if they continue to hate me without telling me, then I have no chance to improve upon myself. I would pity on him/her, the one who start hating me, because I know how I am and what I am. Their negative emotion of hating me will not change my nature. I feel, if someone continues to hate me, it is better to igonore him, because if I face that fellow his negative energy might adversarly effect my temperament. Very Good Post indeed! Have a great day!
@balasri (26554)
• India
10 Jan 08
As usual you re very level headed and decent to the core.I agree thigh everything you said word by word.Keep posting Deepak.
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@dpk262006 (56163)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Bala! Thanks very much for the encouragement and positive comments. So sweet of you. Deepak
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
I have a very unique and different approach on that, balasri. I just keep quiet and let them hate me more, with that I feel more triumphant over them. Negative thoughts run through their miserable minds and their hearts, so I make them feel worse of what they do.
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
You are a winner all the way raijin.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
10 Jan 08
Well lj, that's my sytle and it's effective on my part!=)
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Believe or not there is a particular lady who hates me with passion. I just simply ignore her and pity her because to me hating someone is a waste of energy. There are so many wonderful things that we can do with our lives instead of hating people.
@balasri (26554)
• India
10 Jan 08
Hat is such a vicious trait that slowly destroys the one who practices it.One must understand and try to escape from it instead of getting swallowed by it.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
9 Jan 08
What do I do to the ppl who hate me? Nothing..except maybe pity them...I feel sorry for ppl like that...Not to say that I'm flawless by any means BUT the reality is I'm a good woman and a solid, devoted friend...If someone hates me I figure its either becuase they REALLY dont know me OR they do and are jealous and miserable so ya I feel bad for ppl like that without a doubt...Other than the pity though I just dont bother wasting my time on that sort..i have better things to do ya know...
@balasri (26554)
• India
10 Jan 08
What you have said are golden words.Life is so precious for wasting time on this issues.We just cannot ruin our pleasure and peace of mind for the sake of making the other sick people happy.
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
9 Jan 08
Actually, none of those. I try to condone and placate them to friendship. That has worked favourably for me, thus far. It's not really the "keep your enemies closer" thingy being applied here, there is some reasoning done at the back end. Most of the times I find the fault is with me too and not totally theirs. I mean, I'm not normally hated for absolutely nothing. If I miserably fail in that safety measure too, I just stay myself without doing anything in a revengeful manner, just as I react to any stranger. But honestly no hard feelings at all, regardless of what they hate me for. I try to alleviate such feelings bottled up against me, as much as I can. It can hardly do any good either to me or for the hater. That's me.
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
Right friend.I never harbor the grudge.It is not worth.Life is fun being wasted on uunworthy things.Once you find that something is terribly wrong with someone I simply ignore and go my way wishing them good luck.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
9 Jan 08
Believe me it's taken me a very long time to understand that the best way of dealing with someone that hates you is to 'ignore' them! They hate it, absolutely hate it. No one likes being ignored and if they know they are being purposely ignored it drives them crazy! Before I used to get annoyed, upset or would be sarcastic towards them but that only made them happier so now treat them with contempt but do it so that they realize it's them that's being spurned or ignored. Works a treat! I think it's classed as being passive aggressive.
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
They just hate to be ignored.Serves them right for being haters.
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
I would ignore them but I'd find out first why that person hates me. Hate me all they want, that wouldn't hurt me a bit, is that right? So I'd just ignore them, going after them would just start up fights and might even harm you.
@balasri (26554)
• India
9 Jan 08
Right why should we react and give them the pleasure of satisfaction which they never deserve.
• United States
27 Apr 08
ignore them. they only hurt themselves by hating you. don't let their feelings get to you
@Amber4106 (541)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I'd ignore them. If they have that much of a problem with me, then that is something that they will have to deal with. I don't need the added stress of somebody trying to ruin my day to make themelves feel better. I used to let it get to me, but now I do not. It's just not worth it. I can walk into a room with my head held high knowing that I wasn't falling into this childish little whirlpool of an argument, and walk out with my head even higher. I'm very grateful that I've taught myself to just let it go, and let them bull up and be miserable. Life is way, way, way too short for that!
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
If I have done my part in trying to resolve the conflicts that I have with that person and still I am being hated, I would just ignore it. As they say you cannot please everybody and if I feel that I have done my best to patch things up and the person would not accept that , it is not my problem anymore, Of course I will feel bad having not to resolve the issue. But if that will be the case I would not force myself for the person not to hate me.
@SEOGUY (906)
• United States
11 Jan 08
What do I do? Nothing can be proven as nobody can find the people who hated, opps hate me.
• Pakistan
10 Jan 08
jus try to ignore them, without hating them.