Your take on personal experiences

By Jess
@JJ4Ever (4696)
United States
February 1, 2008 3:31pm CST
Do you like it when people post discussions that include a personal experience as the topic of the discussion or would you rather they keep that information to themselves and start a discussion on a more general topic? If you do enjoy discussions that involve personal experiences, do you like reading about the situation and learning more about that particular person? Why or why not? Does it make you feel better when you read a discussion that involves a personal experience that you can relate to? Do you request to be friends with the person who posted that discussion because you find you have something in common?
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6 responses
• United States
21 Feb 08
Morning to you JJ, I only respond to topics that I have an interest in, and it's usually the personal experiences. Being older, most of the time, I've already been there and done that, haha, so then I feel I could help out or offer advice. What I like most is when there is a discussion about something that I have totally forgot about, and it puts a smile on my face....kind of like a fond memory that was lost somewhere. I try to have friends that I feel have a common bond with me in one way or the other. It could be just the way they write, or have a fun personality. That's why I'm here talking to you JJ, lol!
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Too funny! Your response made me smile. I appreciate your friendship because I believe we have a common bond that we've found in several discussions so far (and many more to come, I'm sure)! I also like discussions about things that I can relate to but completely forgot about. I couldn't have said it better! You said, "What I like most is when there is a discussion about something that I have totally forgot about, and it puts a smile on my face..." I love when discussions can bring back the memories. That's what I really appreciate about being here! By some of the discussions I read yesterday, apparently myLot has been here for about a year. My question is, where have I been the last year?! (LOL) I should've been a part of this from the beginning. Oh well...I'm here now...and just babbling. Thanks for adding your wonderful response to the discussion. I can completely relate. Keep up the good work, my friend!
1 person likes this
• United States
21 Feb 08
Thank You so much JJ again for BR!!...I'm so happy, what a way to start my day off, haha!...and a Full Moon to boot, lol! Yes, since I've been on Mylot there have been many times I'm just sitting here smiling, remembering something similar that happened to me or my kids, or a funny episode in my life that relates to the conversation. When you were talking about your hair flying around out of control, it reminded me of my youngest daughters hair...it's very long and down to her butt. When we are driving somewhere together with the windows down, and her hair is hanging loose, it flies in her face all the time and when she grabs it and pulls it back, usually a piece or two comes flying at me and lands completely across my face. I sit there grabbing at it, trying to remove it, and we are both just laughing our heads off. Isn't that funny how one thing just leads to another?, hahaha.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
21 Feb 08
You're most certainly welcome! You are truly an inspiration to me!! I love reading your responses because they have so many personal experiences packed into them each and every time you leave a post. You always keep me smiling and laughing. I'm going to have to post more discussions so I can read more of your responses and dish out some more best responses! I read your most recent comment and could just picture you daughter's hair going everywhere, including in your face while you were driving! (LOL) The funny thing about your responses is that we became friends here on myLot after a little while and after I'd posted the majority of my discussions. To tell you the truth, I didn't really have many BRs because I just hadn't found "the one," if you know what I mean. You typed in your responses and BOOM!!! They were it for at least two of my discussions now. It's always exciting to see your name and avatar pop up here and there. (I love cats, too, by the way!) Keep up the good work, my friend. I will definitely post more discussions soon, many of which will involve some of my own personal experiences. Thanks again!
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
1 Feb 08
I would rather they tell us their personal experience. Look lots of people are unable to talk to a real live offline person about what happened to them for fear of censure and they keep it bottled up inside. In fact, I wish myLot had been available over 40 years ago, and the internet as well, because had I had some people to talk to who were non-judgmental, things would have turn out better for me. What we learn about others, what may seem like nothing to some, may be horrible for others. Also two people can have the same experience and yet receive different feedbacks according to the traditions of those around them and on myLot you get a more balanced view.
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
4 Feb 08
I couldn't agree with you more. I wish myLot were here long before I was alive. (LOL) It would've helping so many people, but I can now be happy that it's here helping everyone. I love helping others and seeing what they're going through because when it comes time I have a bad experience, they're there for me also. There's no place like myLot! I like what you're saying about different feedback on the same issue. I love that this is a place to help others and see friends be productive and successful! Thank you for your insight on this discussion. It's been a pleasure reading your response!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
6 Feb 08
Thank you. It is amazing how many people here went through terrible experiences when they were young and because they all go the same message, that there was no help, that things went worse for them. I was unable to change because I felt I deserved what I got and when I did get the help, the damage had been done. Maybe by writing on myLot, we may prevent someone else from going through the hurt we did and the results we obtained.
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• United States
6 Feb 08
I have been thinking about this some JJ. I think most discussions, as well as responses, are taken much from personal experiences. Some I enjoy, like this one. Some I am intrigued over and contemplate. Then there are those I completely steer away from on purpose. I sometimes wonder if people truly understand how much personal information they are offering about their lives when it comes to discussing personal issues? While I realize they might be seeking information that may help them resolve an issue, I wonder if they think about those people who are watching or obcessed with. If you go into someone's profile and read every discussion they started along with going to every response they've made, you can get a pretty good idea of what they are about. In some cases, you can learn a great deal. A surprising great deal. Sometimes, wayyyyy too much. With a world of online predators out there I wonder if people think about some of the things theys say or talk about. I know I'm watching what I say more closely. I think we answer discussions that we relate to.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
6 Feb 08
Hi, Terilee! I agree with you completely. While discussions are usually based on personal experiences (which make them very unique and fun to respond to indeed!), we must be careful what information we share on the Internet. It's a creepy place sometimes! Like you said, there are people out there (unfortunately even here on myLot) who are looking to steal on identity or just to get some information about someone here are there until they're to the point of stalking them...or worse. I love discussions about personal experiences, but there's a point where the line must be drawn. Thank you so much for your input on this discussion. I found it very unique and interesting!
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
3 Feb 08
hi jj, sometimes, discussing its own personal experience can make some of the readers aware or educate the way of life,,,specially if your having stress..people can share..at least you have some one to talk to..somtimes i like to read those discussion but if i cant understand i dont reply..
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I agree with you 100 percent. Posting a personal experience in a discussion can make another person feel more comfortable after the person shared his or her experience. That allows them to open up when they respond to the discussion. As a result, all the people involved are able to gain something from the conversation and exchanging of thoughts and ideas. I never thought a website could be so helpful, but this is so amazing! Thanks for your input on this, Marketing. It's always a pleasure to read your responses.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
2 Feb 08
person experience adds more to the discussion and takes it out of the land of generality into something living and breathing, Sometimes I request a friendship but not often,
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I love how you said "the land of generality." I can tell you are a wonderful and experienced writer! Thank you for sharing. I also don't request myLot friends too often unless I can tell they have something in them that I'd like to get to know (such as yourself because I'm pretty sure I requested your friendship!) and so I can check out their discussions to respond to them. Usually I gain friends by them requesting me. I think it's such a neat system as people get in touch with others who share the same experiences based on these discussions.
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes to all of the above. I see that you are a newbie, you will see the longer you are here that some of us have really gotten to know each other. We do welcome new people, we like to see new people, young and old and in between. Some of us have gotten close, we help each other, we offer support to each other. We can tell each other our problems and get advice, prayers or just a friendly word or two. The longer you stay and hang out the more you will get to know some of us. We have become a close knit community with some of the members here on mylot. I hope I made some sense.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
4 Feb 08
A close-knit community is exaclty what I want to be a part of. It's funny to see you call me a "newbie." I've been a part of myLot since probably back in October or so, but I've (obviously) been taking my time getting points! (LOL) But thank you for the description. I have been getting to know many of my friends here very well. It's nice because those I befriend here end up responding to all of my discussions, so I see their nickname and avatar quite often. It's very neat. I thank you for your encouragement. I can tell you are definitely a friend to go to when in need. You sound very willing to help whenever and wherever necessary. I thank you for that and look forward to getting to know you as well as others here! Thanks again and keep up the good work.