It finally hit him
By Modestah
@Modestah (11179)
United States
February 1, 2008 11:55pm CST
and it hit hard.
My son and my father were very close to each other, even though my parents moved quite a distance from us a few years ago they've remained very close. When my son was sick and dying in the hospital my father though sick himself drove 26 hours straight through to be with him - they both offered their illnesses for the benefit of the other.
My boy used to go camping and fishing with Grampa frequently, and they shared many heart to hearts... when son was in a private boarding school away from home he still called his grandfather at least once a week without being prompted.
well, my father passed away in mid September and N.Seth and I flew down for the funeral and to be with mom, Seth was a pallbearer and was presented the flag by the honor guard... through all of this he remained very stoic.
Today we were shopping and he spotted a device for charging a cell phone with a battery but could also work with mp3 players, it was on clearance so he was telling his sister she should buy it.... that it would be great to have on long trips like going to visit Grandma and Grandpa.
I looked at him a few minutes later and noticed his eyes glazed over, I asked if he was weeping and he nodded, I asked what was the matter and he said Grandpa is dead. grandpa is dead. and started bawling right there in the store.
of course that got me going too, and then one of my daughters joined in - and we had a crying fest, I am sure we looked silly to the others but that did not matter, I think we needed that.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Sometimes that happens and you probably did need it. My parents have been gone for a long time...my father six years...and my mom for 15.....I still miss then very much and sometimes without prompting cry too..still after all these years! It's healing to let your inner emotions go when needed!
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@david2005 (798)
• Canada
2 Feb 08
Sorry to hear about your loss but I think it was good for you guys to cry and let it all out cause it will help you feel better.
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@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
2 Feb 08
I think crying can make a person feel better. I'm sorry about his passing. Its hard to deal with the pain of not being able to talk and spend time with the other person.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
2 Feb 08
Your right it sure did not matter what you looked like to other people. Your story here touched my heart. Its funny the things that will trigger our grief. we are all so different. Both my parents and grandparents are gone. I still miss them all. All we can ever hope to do is leave a legacy of memories and heritage to our children and loved ones. Sounds like yours Sons grandfather did that for him.
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@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
2 Feb 08
Sometimes it takes sometime before loss sets in. In my case, I only criend really hard when I saw the casket where my grandpa laid. There were months, perhaps a couple of year that we, his family - from his wife down to his grandchildren, cry just hearing about his greatness. I can say we have moved on now that we can talk about him without any tears in our eyes. It's really hard getting by if that person have shown you love beyond what your parents can give. I love my grandpa so much and I was the last one to have recovered, perhaps until now I'l still mourning but the pain had started to subside now that most of us have learned to accept our ganny's fate.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Sometimes it does take time for the reality of the situation to hit you. When you are that close to someone and they are so deeply ingrained in your life, it's hard to believe they aren't here anymore. Your right, you all really needed to get it out of your systems. My thoughts go out to you and certainly my condolences.
@kraziekara (54)
• United States
2 Feb 08
It's always hard when someone close passes away. I find myself talking about a close friend as if he were still alive. I even sometimes expect him to drive down the driveway of other friends house, where he usually was. I hope this moment you shared with your son and daughter brought you closer together. All we can do is remember the good times and re-live them with the ones we love. Good wishes your way!
