Sometimes I feel abnormal.
By momoiroyume
@momoiroyume (27)
Italy
February 3, 2008 10:42am CST
All of my friends always talk about their boy/girlfriends.
Or they start complaining about the fact they are still single.
I don't want a boyfriend. I'm ok like this. It's not something I need desperately.
Perhaps the problem is that I want THE boyfriend and not A boyfriend, but sometimes I feel like there is something wrong with me. And I feel strange and alone sorrounded by people in love.
Is there anybody that feels the same?
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16 responses
@MIKEY91696 (1)
• United States
4 Feb 08
its never good to force the issue....if it happens it happens....."right here, right now. tomorrow is too far away". love will come when you least expect it....and when it does.....i just might be the real deal!
take care!
mikey
@mcgill1 (49)
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4 Feb 08
There is a song from a musical called "GIGI".
In the words it says this, "How lovely to sit here in the shade, with non of the woes of man or maid, im glad im not young anymore". unquote.
"Im glad im not young anymore" is the title of that song, and sums up how you are feeling.
What you need to remember is that you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings.
Perhaps you need to lead from the front, and find like minded friends, and you do this by being open about how you feel, and what you want, by you being verbal you will eventually draw people to you who feel the same way, they will be on your wavelength, and they will be able to talk with you, you will be amazed at how many people you age feel as you do.
Meanwhile dont worry about how "you" are feeling, just get out there and start being honest and open about yourself, you may take flack, but dont worry about it.
You have obviously mentally and emotionally outgrown your friends, I have, Im 59 and left my friends 20 years ago, I contacted them recently and ive discovered ive got nothing to say to them, it's a bit of a shame, but there it is, and my friends are all ten years "older" than I am.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
4 Feb 08
At the moment I share my feeling with all the people around me so I'm fine without a boyfriend. This doesn't mean that I don't want a boyfriend at all. I'm WAITING for the right one and not only a random boy.
@just2crazygirlz (2479)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I am also single and am okay like this. I do want someone to spend time with, but I want the boyfriend too. I thought I was well on the way on that road, but I was wrong. Most of the people surrounding me are married. And not all of them are happy. I don't want to be like that. I want to be happy. Maybe it just isn't our time yet.
@allsoulsnight70 (1)
• United States
4 Feb 08
maybe it's just not the right time for a relationship, have fun and live life!
@stvasile (7306)
• Romania
3 Feb 08
If there's something I learned in my short and unimportant life is that you shouldn't do something just because everybody else does. If you're fine like this, there is nothing wrong with you in not wanting to change it.
I see you are 20 years old. That's not at all a late age for someone to start serious relationships. My humble advice is to get into a relationship when YOU feel it's the natural thing to do.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
3 Feb 08
Yeah, if only my friends would understand that..
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@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
3 Feb 08
You're lucky. My friends are nosey. In fact lately I starded asking myself why I don't change group of friends =.=
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
4 Feb 08
No you are not strange...you are smart. I can take it or leave it. I too am not desperate for a boyfriend just to have one. I am perfectly content on my own. I do have a boyfriend right now but I have gone very long periods of time without one and been perfectly fine with it. you sound as if you have a good head on your shoulders. don't worry so much about what others think.
@butterflygrl76 (205)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Good for you. There's nothing wrong with waiting for he right one, and not just settling for anyone. If more people had your attitude, the world may be a happier place. Then again some people aren't happy unless they have something to complain about, I have some friends that are only happy when they are complaining. Never settle.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
4 Feb 08
I agree with you. I don't understand why everybody behave in this way.
@mcgill1 (49)
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3 Feb 08
Hi, if they were your true friends they would understand you.
Can you talk to your parents about this ?
They will probably tell you to just be you.
Growing up is a tough business I know, I was young once but I was always a bit of a loner, it never bothered me what other people thought. I just tried to do my own thing and search out company on "my" wavelength. Mind you I was a boy, it might be harder for girls, and im still pretty much a loner.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
3 Feb 08
I think I'm a loner too. Sometimes I feel out of place when I'm with my friends.
I didn' t change but they did.
My parents divorced so I prefer not to talk about those things with my mother. I think this could bother her.
@vanya28 (2)
• India
4 Feb 08
i think tht still the right person hasnt come in your life..the good thngs alwys come in late so dnt wry nothng is wrong with you..live your life as u wish..somtimes the feeling of loneliness creeps in seeing ppl around us in love but it is better to wait for the right guy rather than being hasty in making someone ur boyfrnd and being unhappy with him..right?? take care..
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
You have your whole life to get a partner. Don't worry about your what your friends think, do things on your own schedule.
Personally I sometimes wish I had waited until later in life. I think I would have made better decisions.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
4 Feb 08
In my short life I've learnt that we have to think more about decisions before make them. A stitch in time saves nine.
@somu007 (51)
• India
4 Feb 08
well your feelings are obvious.i have the same feelings sometimes.some of my frnds are engaged and when i am with them sometimes i really feel lonely.but dont worry.dont take it seriously,shenever this happens dont feel lonely.listen to music and keep yor self engaged in some work.dont try to hurry things,it does not yield good results.just let it happen....stay happy!!!
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
4 Feb 08
Oh yes! Lately I have so much to study that I don't think about it very often!^.^ And your comments are very reassuring!
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
4 Feb 08
I think you are smarter than you think. No one needs a boyfriend or a man to be complete. I think to be truly happy one must be at peace with themselves and accepting of who they are then the right man will gravitate towards you because you are so together. I had boyfriends in the past just so I could have a boyfriend and I was just settling. Once I stopped looking for a boyfriend then I realized the perfect man was there all along waiting for me to find myself. You are definitely not alone.
@ihatehellokitty (67)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
I feel the same at times (though I am only 170. My peers are always telling me to stop being "stupid" and get a guy, but I just feel like nothing compares to being single. Well as they say, the best choice normally isn't the most popular one ^__^. Don't feel like you're an alien. As a matter of fact, you should be proud that you're saving yourself and love for that one person that God made for you.
@momoiroyume (27)
• Italy
4 Feb 08
*_* thank you very much! It's good to read that I'm not an alien!!! =D
@rachy577 (99)
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3 Feb 08
I completely understand where you are coming from. I suppose that it is not common today to see people who want to meet Mr Right, rather than simply Mr Right Now. I think that it is admirable that you are happy with the way your life is right now, and that you are prepared to wait until the time and person is right for you. I often see girls with guys who you know won't stay faithful, or stay with them for a substantial period of time. They are just playthings for that week, or for that month. So good for you that you are looking for the one, and are not desperately seeking the next notch. Don't feel wierd, because there is NOTHING to be ashamed about. In fact, I would go the other way. You are a good model.
@MarkFly (15)
• China
4 Feb 08
I think you need a closed friend,beacause you can share happy or sad with he/she.
@pengski (12)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
Feeling alone and see people surrounded by love is not a strange thing at all. We should be happy to see people having a girlfriend/boyfriend. We got the love in the world. If you still don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend at this moment is plain normal. It just a matter of time. When you found the right person at the right time. Someone that makes you feeling good. During that time. You're ready to have a relationship. Good Luck!
