What would you do?

United States
February 12, 2008 4:56pm CST
Okay, so I have this neighbor. She is extremely nosy. To the point of, I almost don't let my kids play outside, because she listens to everything they say, and twists it around to use it against me. My kids used to play with her son, but then she started trying to coerce them into saying bad things about me and my husband. It got so bad, that she called me and said that she was afraid that we were bad parents. Huh? We're talking about a woman here that screams bloody murder at her one child at ten and eleven oclock at night. She has no interaction with her son during daylight hours, she has a nanny for that. Mainly, this woman has money. We don't. We inherrited our house and property from family. We have more land than she does. She is constantly trying to get us to sell her pieces of our property. She feels that we don't deserve to live here, because we did not buy our property, and because she did, then that makes her better than us. That being said, how would you deal with this woman? I'm kind of at wits end with her. I feel bad not letting her son play with my kids, and yet she uses him as some sort of a weapon against us. I kind of feel like she is slowly driving me crazy. Any one else ever deal with crazy neighbors? (To give you a hint into her life, she is a nutritionist to celebrities. Remember when the one Olsen twin became anorexic? This chick was her nutritionist at the time. Yea, great job there.)
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
As much as I don't want to let her taste her own medecine, using your own children to get back at your neighbor is indeed a bad example with parenting. You would ask your children about how her child would talk about that woman. A nutritionist who got the celebrity twins anorexic? Ain't that good enough reason to tell her to mind her own business and raise her own child properly? She envies your property that you got? If she's rich, she could buy a lot elsewhere, can't she? She ain't better at all. Using her own child to bear false against her neighbor is already is low. If I was wearing your shoes, I'd talk with her son try to ask in not an offending way on how her mom tells her or for what reason. Call it nosy as well but, inquire from other neighbors about that woman you are speaking of. Maybe they also find trouble with that woman. Maybe your not alone so you can ask them as well on how they handle such a neighbor like that. Hope things go well. Don't be intimidated. Let your children play with her son. Everytime they come back after playing, correct the misconceptions that they might say when they start asking things that are completely in the wrong proportions.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
Yep, she could buy a lot elsewhere, which is what makes it doubly frusterating. She is stubborn as a mule I think, and has decided that where we live is the ideal location, I have no idea why... I have begun asking other neighbors if she pulls this crud with anyone else, one other woman on the street seems to have issues with her as well. Thanks for your input! :O)
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
A selfish mule, I could say.. So you are not alone with this troubling neighbor. I hope things alleviate if not be totally solved once and for eternity..
@sid556 (31000)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I try to ignore people like that. If she calls you, tell her you can't talk and hang up. I wouldn't let my child play over there or have anything at all to do with her.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I really am trying to ignore her, lol, though it is bubbling up in me! :O) Thanks!
• United States
13 Feb 08
This is a hard one. I just stay away from people like the one you are describing here. I would sooner have to drive my kids to someones house rather than let them play with this womans son. Then when she came to me asking me why our kids didn't play together any longer, I would let her have it. I would tell her what I thought of her and that would pretty much be the end of it. I haven't run into too many people who will ever want to talk to me again after I tell them how I really feel.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
Yea, thats what I've been doing so far... lol I haven't had a chance to really go off on her in some time. I did, a few years back, but the situation has stayed the same... Yuck.
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@kathy08 (46)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Oh my goodness I have one also. Mine are retired with apparently no life. I bought my home as a destroyed repo. when i was outside the 1st day of cleaning. My neighbor piered over the fence and said. Hi what is your name? I responded with a smile, then immediately her next question was. How much did you pay for the house? I couldn't believe my ears. I chose to ignor then she asked the 2nd time. Once again to chose to ignor the 3rd time all hit the fan. I replied without the smile and said, I don't believe that is any of your business. I haven't talked to her since. No great lost there. Sometimes you can ignor things or you can stand up for yourself. Sounds to me that you are not fitting her standards. If that is the case why is she in your neighbood? After all she is a "NUTRITIONIST FOR CELEBRITIES" YA KNOW. LOL. Don't let her get to you. People with the issues in their own lives always try to control everyone else. Its really to bad the kids have to pay the price of not being kids. I think yours may be better off not dealing with her but her kids I feel bad for. Good luck to you
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
wow! a celeb's nutritionist. tell her you have a very good shrink that might help her get over herself. duh! i hate people like that. good thing houses here in our village are far apart from each other. i don't know. that's tough. coz if i tell you not to mind her -- that would really be hard. its difficult to just not mind people like that who does nothing but cause trouble when all you really wanted was some peace and quiet. i feel for you... my wife would probably tell me not to mind the person. that we should just mind our own business even that person is trying her best to technically break the walls of our home so she could join in the fun. my wife's the kind one. i think im not. LOL. i'd probably do more outrageous things just to piss her off. and i'll be laughing my heart out.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I would avoid her as much as possible. I would let her son play with your children but only at your house. I think I would have slammed the phone down in her ear when she called me and informed me she thought I was a bad parent.
• India
13 Feb 08
...dont care about others who never cares about you..that is my policy...eve i have such neidhbours who create nuissances.....let those dogs bark...dont waste time by throwing stones at them.....
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I would just ignore her from now on. I agree with the person that posted before me about calling the cops when you hear her yelling at her kid. That's disturbing the peace and a domestic dispute. I would keep calling until it stops. Maybe then she will knock it off. Plus each time she starts crap with you and your family, I would call the cops as well, because again that's disturbing the peace. That way they will have her on file. I don't know if I want a nutritionist that's had the cops show up because she's abusing her child. Verbal abuse is just as bad as her hitting him. Who gives a flying crap that you inherrited your house and property. If something ever happens to my parents (God Forbid) I will inherrit half of my parent's 55 acres of land and one of the 2 homes that's on it. My husband will inherrit his dad's cabin in the mountains in Arrowbear, CA when he passes. She's just jealous that your property is worth more than hers. Just because you didn't buy it, doesn't mean you don't pay property taxes each year. When she offers to buy some of your property, give her a price that will make her faint. Well, you can't blame her for the Olsen twin thing, because you can tell someone to eat healthy doesn't mean they will do it. That's the least of her problems if she's yelling at her child at night when he should be sleeping and the nanny takes care of him during the day. How old is her son? She isn't to bright if she's bad talking you in front of your kids, because kids will tell you anything.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I would put poplar trees about 3 feet away from the fence itself. They're fast growing (a few feet a year) and you wouldn't need a taller fence, and the poplar trees would be like a living fence/hedge to keep your property from her view. Other posters made good points about documenting everything, and also calling the police to lodge a noise complaint. I wouldn't mention ANY price for the property (even if it is extremely high) because: once you've said a price, you just never know, she might hold you to it and actually have that kind of money. Just stick with: it's not for sale to you, or anyone, at any price. Personally, I wouldn't let my child play over there, nor hers at your house. I do believe she is trying to get you so fed up that you give up and move (so they can buy the property cheap.) Don't let her intimidate you, you belong there every bit as much as anyone else in the neighborhood. She's definitely not better than you, she sounds like she's a very small minded person with a big mouth and a 'holier than thou' attitude.
• United States
13 Feb 08
what I would do is turn the tables around I would start doing what she is doing to you, drive her crazy to the point where she wont say another word to you. This might also make her want to move, you said she has money so she can buy a house somewhere else mabe in hell cause she sounds like the neighbor from hell. I had neighbors like that once, they where so nosy, everytime I had company over we had to stay inside because if we would chill in the backyard they would just invite themselfs. They would knock on my door every damn day just driving us crazy and if I would open the door they would try to push thru the door, till I snaped one day I just went off on them. Till this day they dont even say hi and we are happy again.