Who should I belive?

I do not know how old your niece is, but I know that children can usually sense when there is trouble and when their parents are just playing. Kids are very sensitive to their parents moods. If it sounded like they were really fighting and it looked like they were, they probably were.

I'm telling you this not to upset you or make you angry with anyone, but believe the child. A child will tell you what is going on a lot quicker than an adult will especially if she is getting hurt by this man. Your niece wouldn't have said something like that unless she truly saw it and it truly scared her. just being honest. when in doubt, believe the child. God bless

Kids don't lie and no matter what your sister said, I too believe your niece. But I also understand where your sister is coming from when she lied about that incident with her husband. It may be too fresh for her to share such experience. What is important though that you let your sister know that you will always be there for her if she needs anything.

Maybe your niece is right or maybe your sister is telling you the truth I really don't know but I have to admit I would probably be more inclined to believe your niece! I do understand how worried you must be but as someone who was in an abusive marriage I have to say that there is not a lot you can do for the moment other than letting her know you are there for her if and when she needs you and also that there is no shame in being abused. Many women feel very ashamed of the fact that there partner abuses them - that they are doing something wrong when in fact they need all the love and support they can get to see that it is their abuser who has a problem and not them! I do hope and pray that if your sister is in this situation that she finds the strength to get out as soon as possible! xxxx

I think I also believe your little niece because small kids seldom make up a lie like that. she saw something that really scared her. I think you need to get close to your sister and make her tell you the truth because you are worried and yurlittleniece is definitley frightened.Get her alone without any other relatives around so she wont be cowed and tell her she can confide in you. he must be stopped.

Family violence is very common in the old China. Men and women weren't equal in their family. women had lower status in the society. As an old saying goes, the lord is the master of his vassal; the father is the master of his son; the husband is the master of his wife. If a husband is unhappy or is drunk, he will beat his wife or children. However, the situation is changing. The government has enact laws to protect women and children. So women can protect themselves from hurting by the law.

hi shaun! oh without being judgmental, i suspect foul play here. you niece is a child, and normally, children do not lie about things like that. i really think that your brother in law is hurting your sister. oh i dunno how to react or what to do in such situations, but well, you can consult authorities. your sister is probably protecting her husband and their marriage, but she might also be afraid that she can get hurt again. oh i feel so sad for her. maybe you can ask someboyd about this problem. but if your sister doesn't want to be helped, the sadly, there is not much you can really do. take care and God bless! :-)

i think you are absolutely right. i think generally children do not lie that much. may be her mother is saying that to cover up things. don't get worried, may be she will tell it herself when she is really in problem.

Maybe your niece mis interpreted something, but in my opinion i believe more with your niece than with your sister. Is there anything happen before that influenced you to do not believe with your niece?

Your story immediately made me think of that old quote, Shaun, "...out of the mouths of babes..." I believe children are most always honest. When they tell you something it should always be considered truthful, until proved otherwise. I hope your sister isn't being abused, but you should keep on the alert for any signs that would lead to the obvious. Many women who find themselves in abusive situations are too ashamed to admit it.

Was your neice upset when she told you? I tend to believe the little kids because they are so blatantly honest. I also have been in an abusive relationship and I know all about the lying and covering up. It is possible that your niece misunderstood the situation but I'd be aware and watching.

I've worked with children for many years now. Children do lie a lot. But usually do NOT lie about things this huge just to get attention. You should report what your neice told you. To ignore her or not believe her opens your sister to even more abuse. All you have to do is report the situation and even remain anonymous and authorities will take of the rest. If it turns out to be playful no one gets in trouble not even you. If it turns out to be true then you have saved your sister and her kids.

talk to both of them and go with your intuition..little kids can't lie UNLESS very well trained..only until you talk to both of them will your instincts really tell you who did what....OR sit in a quiet place by yourself..medidate on the question for a few minutes..your answer will come quick!. Good Luck Eric