Can a man love two women at the same time?
By Bluestream
@Bluestream (235)
China
8 responses
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
No I don't believe that what so ever. I think a man could lust after two women, because if he thinks he loves two women he's probably not loving either one of them. To love someone is to give your whole self to that person, which you wouldn't be doing if you were giving it to someone else to...we were designed to be a union. Man, Wife, and God. Not man, wife, God, and who ever else that comes to mind. When you TRULY love someone then the lust fades away and no one else can compare to them. just my opinion anyways. thanks for posting and God bless
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Thank you very much. It is definitely the little things that count. My husband is currently overseas right now, but when he's home he will cook dinner for me or just do little stuff around the house that he knows needs to be done when i'm not feeling good. it's all about thinking about the other person and loosing yourself to them and not thinking about yourself anymore. anyone and everyone can lust after someone, but when you loose yourself to a person it's not lust anymore and no one can take that place. my husband is my soulmate. we knew the minute we met that we would be together forever. we try to do things to show one another, whether its a little note left on the table for him just to let him know i would be thinking about him and loving him all day long, even though he already knows it. you have to do little things for one another...it's keeps your love strong and alive. it sounds like you have a wonderful husband as well. i wish you two the best. God bless
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 08
You really summed this up wonderfully. A guy can lust after many women but that is not love. it may start out as lust and end up as love but only if two people really care for each other and like you say give their whole self to the other. Love shows in so many little ways like my husband making meals for me when I was sick. or bringing me a wheelbarrow full of gorgeous white daisies to plant in our garden when I rebuked him for not ever sending me flowers. the little things we may take for granted but they make up real love not lust.
@season0907 (671)
• India
27 Feb 08
Hi Bluestream,
Ethically it is wrong to love another person when you are already in love. An unethical person can love not only love two but more than that but he will be called a cheat.
Good Luck.
@Bluestream (235)
• China
28 Feb 08
Yes! I have the same opinion. I don't think it right to love two women at the same time. I think love should be pure,and exclusive.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 08
by right, no. a man who is happily married and loves his family should not fall in love with another woman. But yeah, I guess this happens and that's so wrong! Personally I think that you can only give unconditional and undivided love to only one person so if a man were to love 2 woman then it's not fair to those ladies at all.
@Bluestream (235)
• China
28 Feb 08
I agree with you very much! If a man give his love to two women at the same time, he is in fact not loving either of them
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 08
I really think that man who has a happy family and a lovely wife and still has an affair with another woman may be confusing love for lust and perhaps infatuation. Ijust do not think that a man can really truly love two women at the same time if the woman he married is the one he deeply cares for He may be able to lust after many women but thats not love. I do know that man who steps outside a good relationship is not only hurting his wife and family but ultimatly will be hurting himself. If only in the eyes of family and friends perhaps
@Beesoy (19)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
In my opinion, no. As the cliche goes "no man can serve two masters." First, it is a waste of time, effort and resources to try to love another person other than your wife. Second, there is no real good or benefit from such affair.
It is better to put all your focus on maintaining the harmonious and happy relationship than trying to spread yourself thinly on a lot of other things.
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
Beian said as men are polygamous i would say yes its possible but then the intensity is different. That is why perhaps third party occurs in a relationship. I would say that men do fall for a girl either in lust or maybe love that they don't get from their current relationship. It is one of our weaknesses in life.
@jasonanderson (151)
• United States
27 Feb 08
hmmmm...i'm going to have to say no. it is definitely possible for a man to be deeply infatuated by two or more women at one time, and i suppose a man that never knew real love might not know the difference.
but when you truly love someone you devote yourself to them. adding someone else to the equation doesn't make sense. you might fall out of love with your wife/partner, and then into love with someone else, but I don't believe you can truly be in love with two people at the same time.
before I got together with my current partner, i cheated on women all the time. i never took it too seriously. of course, i was younger, but still i never knew what it meant to love someone. after i found love with her, the idea of cheating just seemed silly.
