Ear piercing of a Baby?

@Chey1970 (1193)
United States
March 3, 2008 11:16am CST
My son and his wife took my granddaughter who is 4 months old, and went and got her ears pierced. I can understand my daughter-in-law wanting to do this cause she is bald, and trying to make her look more like a little girl. However my grandaughter is teething and constantly pulling on her ears. My husband wasn't too pleased that they went and did this. He thinks she is way too young to have her ears pierced. What are your thoughts?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
3 Mar 08
I think that it your Grand daughter's choice and not until she is in her teens. I feel the same way about infant male/female circumcision too. It's her body, if she wants to put holes in it that's up to her. We as parents etc do not have that authority. Just my opinion.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you for your response p1kef1sh. As you have your opinion about the piericing, circumsion, etc. I do have the same opinion toward baptisming a baby. But that is just me.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
3 Mar 08
I am with you on that one too. However, you might argue that Confirmation is the point where the individual makes up their mind. Of course we all go along quite blindly to it because it is expected of us. This could get quite theological and philosophical. I shall stop before I confuse myself.
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3 Mar 08
Just a question, if as parents we don't have the authority of piercing our children's ears, then how do we have the authority to tell them they have to wait until they are in their teens? I have not known one person who has been tramatized just from having their ears pierced. If you don't like earrings, then just don't wear them. It's not like earring holes are that noticable anyways. On the circumsion, I did know of a little boy whose parents decided to wait on his circumcision and he suffered terribly from it. He little wee wee was always infected. Kids in the daycare made fun of him because his wee wee was different. Parents had him circumsized when he was 4. My question is, if it isn't a religous thing, then why not get them done when they have no clue and will never remember the pain? Just my opinion.
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@star2316 (41)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think it is better to wait and let the child for herself whether or not they want their ears pierced. I just don't think parents should do that when they are babys. But many people do. So it is all according to the parents.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Hello star2316. First let me welcome you to myLot. I hope you enjoy it here. Seconly, thank you for your response. Yes, many parents have their child's ears pierced, and to me it's "to each their own." I do appreciate your input and your opinion.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 May 08
When parents do choose to get a baby's ears pierced, it is for the parents' benefit, as well as the idea of having the baby know no different. When somebody chooses on their own to have piercings, additional piercings, etc, it is an expression of individuality =) I wouldn't call it a fad. I would not have been disappointed if my parents pierced my ears when I was a baby. I would just choose whether or not I felt like wearing earrings. Sometimes I don't wear any earrings, other times I change them up often.
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• Sweden
3 Mar 08
Personally I never have understood why you would want to stick metal in a baby ear! It doesnt look nice, the risk of infection is huge as the imune system is so weak and under developed and its plain horrible. This is just my opinion of course.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you prmasters for your response. Everyone has their own opinion and yours is always welcomed. I think piercing of any kind is more of a fad/fashion statement of some kind.
• Sweden
3 Mar 08
Your are welcome. It is an interesting topic, I am not a father myself so this isn't descision I have yet had to face but I do like hearing the different opinions of parents out there.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Well, not being a father yet doesn't mean you don't have your own opinion on the matter. If you are every faced with the descion it seems, you already know what you want. I just hope your spouse is in agreement with you on it.
@luvstochat (6914)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Everyone has their own opinions on this matter and my opinion I don't think babies should have there ears pierced what is hte pint. I understand wanting to make her look like a girl but how about pink bows. I would be scared of an earring coming out and the baby swallowing it. I was 13 before I had my ears pierced. My daughter is 4 and I have always said she can get her ears pierced but I am waiting until she asks to have it done.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you for your response luvstochat. And you are absolutely correct, everyone has their own opinion. I don't think it was wrong of them to do it, it's their child. However like you, I am worried she will pull it out, and split her earlobe. I never thought about the swallowing of it, but you make a valid point.
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@jmabie (10)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I have grand daughters and great grand daughters (a bunch) and they are always getting their babies ears pierced. I don't like it but what can you do? A couple of the grand daughters have their tongues pierced (gross). I never had my ears pierced or wanted to. I always figured that if God had wanted holes in other parts of the body that he created, he would have put them there, no pain! Anyway, I realize that everyone has a choice when they're older but a baby? I'm glad this is America because that means I can express my opinions freely. So thank you for the opportunity.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Thank you jmabie for your response. You are absolutely right, their is nothing I as a grandparent can do about it. The tongue piercing, well, I would have a lot more to say about that. Sorry. Like if you plan on "breakin' bread' in my house, you leave that disgusting thing at yours". Opppsss. that is another rant. Yes, this is America and everyone has the freedom of speech. Glad to help you be able to give your opinion on the matter.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
4 Mar 08
I'm not trying to be rude but this is your grandaughter right? you and your husband can merely voice your concern. It's not your place to tell them that this is wrong many parents do this because the baby doesn't remember the pain invovled in ear piercing. If your son and his wife took THEIR DAUGHTER to get her ears pierced trust their judgement. You don't want to get on your daughter in law's bad side for trying to parent her parenting her child. She might end up resenting you thus causing problems between you and your son and also if you upset her enough she might pull your grandaughter out of your life. Alot of inlaws think it's there place to tell new parents what they do wrong that only frustrates the new parent.
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@Galena (9123)
4 Mar 08
I can remember having my ears peirced. because I was old enough to want them done. it really doesn't hurt that much. so having it done "so they don't remember the pain" is a stupid reason. because the pain is virtually non-existant. hey, lets get them tattooed now, so they don't remember it, eh?
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Thank you for your comment sparkofinsanity. I appreciate your forth right opinion. Although, I have no worries in having my grand daughter pulled from no matter what I tell my son or daughter-in-law. For the 3 live with me, and I have the granddaughter a good 85% of the time.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 May 08
Cheers! I said basically the same thing when I noticed who the child actually belonged to. I am also wise enough to never consider having any of our parents live with us (or us with them) because that opens a huge can of worms about whose opinions really get to filter into any raising of a child. Bottom line, parents child, not grandparents, other relatives child. Just my opinion but those other people have or had their own chance with their own children. You don't get to decide to parent other people's children.
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• United States
4 Mar 08
I got my daughters ears peirced at the same time, However we have had a wonderful expierience with it. All kids are diffrent. and everyone has a diffrent opinion about it. Personally I think its soo cute. IF the baby seems to pull on them then I think they should be taken out and try when they are older.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Hello sophiasmom911, thank you for your response. You are absolutely correct each child/person is different. It's sort of like each individual has their own "pain tolerance". I won't lie, the earrings do look cute. They are little diamond stars. However, I don't think if it devolpes an infection, they will look all that cute anymore. I do very much appreciate your words of wisdom in the matter, on if she pulls on them, to remove them.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Sophiasmom, I am actually surprised that you didn't do it sooner that you did. Though I didn't do it for you until you were much older.
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• United States
4 Mar 08
it is a very bad idea, other people mentioned the harm a little kid could inflict but really, who cares about that? she can do that and may but her parents decided for her, thats thier problem, they willing put thier baby at risk for that. She is a baby yes, and she wont care by the time she gets older due to the fact that they've been there since her memory started to work correctly. Her parents are selfish to indulge themselve, they think it looks good, when when the baby is old enough she should decide
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Hello mindfad! Thank you for your response. Yes, I am sure when she is older she will determine if she likes her ears pierced or not.
@koalatbs (2230)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Personally I would never get my child's ears pierced, especially before they are able to say "yes" or "no". I would want it to be their choice. That is a personal decision that only they should be allowed to make on their own later in their life. I also feel that pierced ears on young children are kind of dangerous... like you said your granddaughter is teething & pulls on her ears. She could really hurt herself if she were to yank one of those earrings out of her ear. At this stage she doesn't know any better & doesn't know she should leave them alone.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Hello Jill! *smiling* Thank you for your response. Yes, you are absolutely right. It is kind of hard to tell a 4 month old not to pull on her ears, that she can hurt herself.
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I don’t agree with the practice for a variety of reasons. The main reason being that having that done is painful, so the baby – who already doesn’t sleep well – is going to sleep worse due to sore ears, and peircings on babies are very hard to keep clean. Not to mention how rough little kids are and how much it hurts (and the blood) if it got pulled out. I had my ears done when I wanted to – around age 9 – and would want my child to have the choice if they wanted to have their ears done.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you for your response sedel1027. I understand completely your input on this, and have to agree with you. I myself had my ears pierced when I was 6 and it wasn't that pleasant of an expiernce. I'm just glad I wasn't there when she got hers done. For I am the one who had to hold her down the day before to get her 4 month old shots (something that is required mind you). I don't think I could have taken her crying while getting her ears pierced.
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I do think this is young! I didn't let my daughters get theirs pierce until they were much older. Though as Sophiasmom responded, which is my daughter. She had my grand daughters ears pierced at about 3 months I do believe. She hasn't bothered them yet, and hasn't had any trouble with them. She hasn't discovered her ears yet, and I hope she don't start pulling on them, once she does.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Thank you terri, for your response. It is nice to see not only did you comment on your daughter, (who also responded) but your grandaughter. It shows both sides of the matter. *smiling* Does this mean ya'll had a difference of opinion on the "age"?
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Strange thing is, she didn't even mention to me that she was going to have it done. But she probably already knew what my response would be! We do tend to have a little generation gap thing going!
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Yes, my son didn't mention it to me either. When they got home they showed it to me. You might have a point with the "generation gap".
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
3 Mar 08
Well, so far I always think that mother know what's best for her kids. But in some places, it's normal to do ear piercing when they sill a baby.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Yes, it is very common to have a baby's ears pierced. You are absolute right about that.
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• Canada
25 May 08
Chey...I do not know where I was when this discussion was started! BUT I have some minor input! As you remember, I was a paramedic for 13 yrs. on an Island of a population of approx.1000....and one of the grossest calls that I had was a baby who'se stud earring had come loose, and the baby poked the earring into her eye....We helicoptered her to Children's Hosp. in Vancouver! Time lapse...infection set in! Now, 50% eyesight, damage retina nerve! I am opposed to piercings unless for religious reasons! That's my opinion...and I'm sticking to it! Luv ya, girl! Cheers!
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
27 May 08
Hey there. I'm not sure where you were either. Oh wow. Now that I couldn't have handled seeing. My stomach turned just reading what you had wrote. I do have to agree with your logic on it. Thanks for your input.. *hugs*
@Melitta (32)
3 Mar 08
I guess I am in the minority here. I pierced my daughters ears at 4 months also. Never had any problem with her pulling them out or anything. The starter earrings have screw on backs, so they can't just pull them out. My first ear piercing was done when I was about 4 or 5. Old school, the needle through the potato! My daughter is now 7 and is trying to talk me into letting her get another piercing done, so she can wear two sets of earrings. However, I told her to wait, simply because I don't know that she would leave them in long enough to let the holes heal up. At this point she goes without earrings more than she wears them.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Hello Melitta! I am not judging them as I wouldn't judge you as a parent. For all parents, does parenting differently. You are absolutely right the back of the earring is different than that of an adult earring, so actually pulling the earring from the back of it, is a bit hard to do. But pulling it down and possibly splitting the earlobe would still be the same, and that is what concerns me. Did your daughter pull on her ears at all?
3 Mar 08
I was initially worried about her playing with her ears or pulling on the earrings, but she never did. Honestly, the only way she will rip out an earring is if it gets caught on her clothes or something of that nature. I really don't think she will pull the earring through her ear herself. If she does pull on the earring, as soon as she pulls enough to cause pain, she will let go of the earring.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
You do have a valid point about them pulling on the earring themselves. Thank you.
• United States
3 Mar 08
I have two daughters and I decided that I wanted them to be able t have the choice of getting there ears pierced. i just make sure my youngest that even if you dress in all pink or in dresses is mistaken for a boy sometimes I don't think haveing here ears pierced would change that. Most people just don't pay attention to the gender of babys they must forget what it was like when there children were little and mistaken for the other gender. LOL
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I applaud the fact of you wanting your daughters to decide if they want their ears pierced or not. Yes, dressing a child in all pink should give someone a clue that the gender is female. *laughing* I think ear piercing is more of a fad then anything though.
• United States
4 Mar 08
I agree the ear piercing is just a fad It does not seem like people do it as much as they used to but I guess I could be wrong. I just have not seen that many children with there ears pierced as I used to.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
To tell you the truth, I really haven't paid attention to the fact if it's faded out or not. I raised 3 boys, and it's not my nature to go and look at every little girls ears. *LOL*
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think we shouldnt judge what other parents do with their kids, piercing a babies ears, lots of people do it I dont see anything wrong with it, but I also think it kind of should be up to the child to decide. I would love to pierce my 3 yr olds ears, but I decided to wait until she wants them pierced and then I will do it.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I wasn't judging the parents, and neither was my husband. It is more a matter of concern than anything. For as I stated in my discussion she is teething and constantly pulling on her ears.
• United States
3 Mar 08
I didnt mean you personally were being judgemental I was just making a general statement that what other parents do with their kids is their business, but that you didnt think it was a good idea and I didnt think it was a good idea either, thats it.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I understand completely melissaruth1, and I do appreciate your input on the matter.
@vamp6x6x6x (1220)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Now, I believe yes she was/is to young to have her ears pierced, but logically it would be easier to get your ear pierced as a child. Well, less pain anyway. Well, over time a child doesn't remember that pain, so it's not less pain but rather less pain they have to go through latter on. The thing that concerns me the most though is the fact that I don't think it is possible to have a little child stop pulling his/her own ear.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
8 Mar 08
Hello vamp! Thank you for your response on this, it's greatly appreciated. Yes, things done as a child is less remebered as they age.
• United States
8 Mar 08
Anytime my friend.
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• United States
4 Mar 08
I have to say that I think it might be a little young to pierce your granddaughter's ears. Granted, I don't have children yet, I just really think it is too young, especially based on the fact that your granddaughter is now teething. It is dangerous for her to be pulling at her ears when there is an earring in there. She could hurt herself. I suppose I can understand her want to make her daughter look more feminine, but she is only four months old! Her feminine characteristics will come eventually! What is the rush? Her hair will come in and she will begin to look more feminine sooner than she'd like.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Thank you latherosu for your response and in stating you opinion. It is greatly appreciated. I too understand part of the reason in why it was done, and the other part of me doesn't. Yes, I am sure her hair will grow in time, and if nothing else a "DRESS" would have sufficed. Just my opinion.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
4 Mar 08
oh and latherose, I meant to add. "Welcome to myLot. I hope you enjoy it here."
• Australia
3 Mar 08
I would say that it is up to the parents to do what they think is best for their kids :) My ears was also pierced when I was just a baby (in my country we did it straight away after born), the reason for it? Well, earring in girls are pretty, and if they do it while still baby, they wouldnt feel or remember the pain. :) I sure am glad my parents pierced my ears when I was just a baby, coz I love wearing earrings, but I dont think I could stand the pain or go through the piercing in this age (Im just scared of it :P )
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you for your response luckydolphin. You make a very excellent point: doing the ear piercing while they are babies, they won't remember it. Or I hope they wouldn't.
@Galena (9123)
4 Mar 08
I can remember it. it stings a bit for about a second. that's it. that's this huge traumatic event people mutilate their babies to prevent them remembering. if it was so painful there'd be lots of people walking around with only one ear done.
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@di1159 (1580)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Hello! I guess its really up to the parents. I had my daughter's pierced when she was 3 months old and never had a problem. My mother pierced mine when I was a baby also. I guess it just depends on the family and their customs. The pediatrician did it for my daughter and I was comfortable with that.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Hello! Yes, you are absolutely correct it is up to the parent. I wasn't saying it wasn't. I'm just a bit concerned by it. As I stated earlier, I am a mother of 3 boys, so I was never put in the situation of whether or not to pierce my baby's ear. I think my in-laws would have killed me, if I pierced my son's ears. *LOL*
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 May 08
Ah but again, in my opinion it is not your in-laws right to say anything, even if they do disagree. Not their kids, so not their decision, and it is even wrong for them to try to make you feel bad about it, or even to influence what you do or try to change your mind. The only time they had that right was when raising your spouse when he was a child.
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@mamacathie (3929)
• United States
20 May 08
My grand-daughter is 18 months old and we took her right after she got her 2 month shots to get her ears pierced. It was the best thing we could have done. She doesn't pull at her earrings or tug and try to pull them out she just thinks they belong there. Her hair was so light that you couldn't see it very much either but we had decided to do it because the sooner you do it the better they adapt.
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
27 May 08
Thank you for your input. I guess some kids as well as adult adapt different to different things. Glad to hear your granddaughter had no issues with it.
@ameeluv (388)
• Saint Lucia
19 May 08
its not that bad to peirce her ears.. but if she is pulling i guess that calls for conccerned.. I had my ears pierced at 3 months... sooo ... i grew up pretty well
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
27 May 08
Thank you for your input.