Do you think daughters take better care of parents?

@subha12 (18454)
India
March 5, 2008 2:45am CST
I have seen that in my life. Its mostly the daughters who are more sensible for their parents than sons.Sons generally do not feel that much for parents like the daughters do. I also do not know its only in my country or elsewhere its the same. Any idea or views are welcome.
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• United States
6 Mar 08
Ok so in my opinion the answer is yes, however there are exceptions to every rule. I can only base this on things I have seen in my own life. My grandmother had 5 children, 3 girls and 2 boys. I love my uncles but when it came to helping out my grandmother it was always her daughters who were there for her. My grandmother use to tell me "Your daughter is your daughter for life, your son is your son till he takes him a wife." And my grandma was definitely not one of those horror mother-in-laws. She was tghe kind of mother-in-law every daughter-in-law wishes they had.
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@anonymili (3138)
5 Mar 08
Well I know for a fact that I visit my parents way more than my brother does, I go to see them at least 2 or 3 times a week and he barely pops in once a week and when he does it's literally for 5-10 minutes and mostly when he needs something. They are quite aware of it and even say how selfish he is that he mostly turns up when he wants something but he doesn't do it on purpose, I guess it's just a guy thing. He only moved out from them about 3 years ago whereas I moved out nearly 15 years ago but I have always visited regularly and even when he was still living at home he practically treated it like a hotel! I am very close to my mum and we can sit for hours and chat and I know my dad loves to chat and loves it when I visit although I can't chat with him about his fave things like sports or politics, I drag my hubby round as often as I can to indulge my dad! I don't know if it's just an Indian thing but can only speak for how I behave with my parents :)
@anonymili (3138)
17 Jun 08
Thanks for the BR on this one hun. I have to admit that re-reading this discussion really made me think about Fathers Day which was yesterday (in the UK). My brother popped around with a takeaway for us all and I had bought a present and card from both of us and he stayed there for about 45 minutes whereas I stayed for most of the day. I guess he was just showing that he was aware that it was Fathers Day by even turning up, but I was out on a day trip the day before miles frome home and my bro was at home lazing around and he phoned me up to ask if I'd bought a card for dad and could I put his name in it... Sometimes I wonder how much more selfish or lazy he can get!
• China
23 Mar 11
Yes i do think that girls take batter care of parents.As in my life i saw girls take care there parents more then a boy do. After marriage boy become little bit far from there parents and maximum time they do care there wife and wife family more then there own parents. So i do believe that daughter take batter care of parents. Have a good time!
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
18 Aug 10
Yes i do, my mom is my best friend, to share and decide. Thats my best mom and she is unbeatable!I love her so much
@hemianxm (10)
• China
20 Mar 08
I don't think so.I think son and daughter are all take good care of parents.But man and woman are different,they have many differences in how to take good care of parents.Daughers think that u should take care of parents in living and everything.But sons think that u don't need take care everything of ur parents.You should give ur parents freedom to do something.Parents can enjoy there life as they want.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
same here in our country. in most cases, its the daughters that would end up taking care of the parents when they grow old. it is seldom that the son takes care of the parents. i think because daughters generally are more attached to their parents than a son. and women in general are much more loving and they couldn't really just leave their parents in some home for the aged or foundations or something. ^__^
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
7 Mar 08
ehhe no i think not so!!i saw many cases where daughter are so untrusted people in relation to their parents especially when they are old!! surely there are also daughter who are caring about them!!so in my opinion the gender in this sense don't count so much..probably counts the kind of person we refer this topic...
@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Mar 08
i guess so..since females are very differnt from males in terms of behaviour/attitude or whatever,,females are more thoughtful and very nurturing its our nature i guess...generally speaking it is..but i had seen some sons who dotingly take care of their parents that is mostly the singles...or some pays somebody to take care of their parents..
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
I think daughters are good nurses at home. And someone you can rely on specially with the oldies..
@linghan (147)
• China
6 Mar 08
In my country just alike your country.Daughters are more sensible for their parents.
• India
6 Mar 08
you are misunderstood. Daughters and sons are sensible for their parents. But it is the speciality of the girls that what is in their mind the express outside. But boys are a little bit bold. They doesn't express don't means, they have not much caring like daugters.Anywhere human nature are the same. Education and society in which the live makes difference in their nature.
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
6 Mar 08
Yes,is the same in our country.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
5 Mar 08
Yes I fully agree with your views that daughters are more responsible than son . It has been proved that daughters are taking care of their old aged parents when son deserted them. I think all over world womenhoods are very sincere and attachable to their parents. Being a son I take this opoortunity to congratulate you. pkc3000
@youless (90024)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Mar 08
I think so. Girls have a nature to be considerate and careful. They know how to take care of others well. Boys are very careless. Sometimes it's already sweet that your daughter concerns about you and buys you a surprise now and then. Whereas seldom sons will be so thoughtful.
@aasani (82)
• India
5 Mar 08
hey there, I completely agree with you.I am a daughter too and have also seen many of other daughters who look after their parents more better than sons. Boys are a little bit of careless, wheras daughters are emotional and sentimental.
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
5 Mar 08
Hello dear subha. I agree with you that daughters take better care of their parents as they are more careful and considerate than sons. I have a sister who takes good care of my parents when I am working far away from my hometown. She is the only to take up the job by constant going back to my parents' home to pay a visit and my mother also goes to her or her shop for a visit. My wife is also very considerate and caring to my parents and often goes to them or calls them to make sure that they are getting along well with their health and such. Let's say thank you to all caring daughters for their being considerate to their parents. Thanks.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
5 Mar 08
Yes, If I see the happenings in many of our friends and relatives families, it is the daughter who have great love and affection towards their parents than the boys do. With few exceptions many boys are under: 1. the influence of wife, and he tends to listen to his wife, dance according to her tunes. 2. Probably the finances does not permit him to handle the situation of taking care of both wife and parents 3. he is under the influence of new found gold mine - father-in-law who in fact for his daughter;s sake separate the sun from his parents. In exceptional cases, the son takes care of parents, by just telling his wife to follow him or leave him. It is the genuine love and affection towards parents and will power that counts.
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 08
i think it would depend on how the way in parents to raise them either daughter or son. and in my opinion both of them can do the same ranking in taking care parents. as like my brother, he is really well taking care of my father while i am not arround there while me and my sister going well to take care our mother :P so it would depend on in each family but your opinion also having good point since female more empathy than male ;)
@SViswan (12072)
• India
5 Mar 08
That's not really the case. It actually depends on each individual...son or daughter. Some daughters cannot take care of their parents (even if they want to) because of their responsibilities in their in-laws place. Some sons want to take care of their parents and their wives are against it. I'm from the same country as you and have seen many permutations and combinations in this regard. Before marriage even I used to think like you...even when my father would insist that wasn't the case. Now that I am married, I get to know more about other families and see how each family is different in this regard.
@kurci1 (171)
• Australia
5 Mar 08
Ive seen the adverage "wanna be" posh little girl which tells her mother what to do but im a male and from my experience they do, my sisters (i have 3 of them) when i was young would always tak care of my mum when she was sad or unhappy. I think its just human nature for one to help out another when in need of assistance or somebody to talk to.